2nd GODDESS ARC Giveaway!

Happy New Year!!

I hope you all had a fantastic holiday.  I spent it at the vet.  My cat Pickles got an ear infection and has been relegated to the Cone of Shame to keep him from scratching while he heals.  He’s not happy about it.

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I hope your New Year’s was better than his. :)

Anyway, as promised another lucky winner is about to receive the second ARC (Advanced Reader’s Copy) of Goddess…!

As part of the giveaway I need you to answer the following question.  I would like to know what you would do in this situation.  Your best friend and your new boyfriend (or girlfriend) HATE each other.  You realize that there is no way to fix it, and both of them agree that you have to make a choice.  You have to give up either your long and wonderful friendship with your friend, or the new (and hot) love interest.  Which do you choose?

In order to enter the giveaway you must answer the question in the comment section of this post and complete the following Rafflecopter entry.

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The last day to enter will be Monday, January 28th.  The winner will be announced Tuesday, January 29th. 

As always the giveaway is international.

Good luck to all!

xxxo

Josie

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  1. Sarah Bellamy says:

    I would probably choose my best friend, years of friendship shouldn’t be thrown away for a guy, no matter how hot :)

    • Magdalena says:

      In that situation, I would probably leave my boyfriend, because my all-time best friend is what matters most to me. It would still definitely leave an imprint in my heart. But if I think that maybe this would be my true-love and husband, then I would just try to work it out with both of them. From what I think, best friends should always stick to your side, no matter what. That’s what true friendship is all about, right?
      In conclusion, best friends are much more important than any boyfriend.
      So unless they make up, leave your bf behind, and maybe then you’ll fall in another better one instead.

    • Difficult question to answer because I’m told-to choose …
        May love me, tell me how they feel, they have to be for me and I for them.
        You can not make such choices. This is not fair to choose one of them.
        With one of them I share a true friendship, a lot of memories, smiles and tears could ..
      the second is something .. something that makes the heart beat faster to me that the days are beautiful ..

      They make me choose .. and what to do next ..

      I choose one that I will miss the second ..

      Even if the beginning of a relationship-but the beginnings are usually the most beautiful, it is difficult to make any choice .. eh ;)

      My friend does not have to love my man, and vice versa.
      He knows me better and knowing what I am-time should be honest, but it is known to do anything to not hurt me .. and making me choose- know that I can choose my boyfriend and not him …. what is friendship?

      but on the other hand, also takes into account that I reject it ….

      Such selfish approach does not satisfy any of the pages ..

      my answer – every choice will break someone’s heart
        meeting with each separately and not be able to talk with a friend of the boy, the boy about a friend – what a life .. ?

      if true friendship and love everything will work out .. If not, something will change and time will tell what ..

      I greet with affection :)
      aga

    • i would also choose friendship over the new love

      • Dhara Mehta says:

        Between my boyfriend and my best friend…my best friend has been with me through thick and thin. We support each other though every little dilemma and laugh and cry to overcome the worst. I have my own personal saying that lifetime friends are hard to find and if you are lucky enough to have a friend like that, hold on to them super tight and never let them go. A boyfriend of mine would have to understand that if you get me, you get all the important people in my life. Sure, there are going to be some that you won’t see eye to eye with, but if you’re seriously going to HATE my bff and offer me no hope of things being ok between the two of you, then I’m sorry I would pick my bff. Even after the breakup, she would let me cry on her shoulder and give me the courage to put myself out there again. Yes, I would be disappointed that things had not worked out and hoped for a better outcome, but in the end boyfriends come and go in your life because they are the people you feel attracted to but cannot see having a committing relationship with. In this situation, since it was emphasized “new” boyfriend, I cannot imagine living my life with someone whom outright hates my best friend. Before I make this choice, I would first and foremost listen to both sides of their arguments and work my hardest to find a solution that both of them would be happy with that does not include choosing one over the other. If my best friend and my boyfriend are one of those people that honest to goodness can never get along for the life of them, then all in all my best friend is the winner.

    • Rebecca Buechler says:

      Sistas before Mistas!
      Chicks before Dicks!
      Definitely the best friend. However, I would first want to hear both of their reasons for their hatred.

    • If I was in a situation where my best friend and my boyfriend hate each other, I would choose my boyfriend. Not because he is more important, but because my best friend would know how much he means to me and want me to be with him despite her opinion. Also, a true best friend and a good boyfriend wouldn’t want me to pick between them, so if they did try to make me choose, I might debate ditching both of them. :)

    • I agree, a friendship is much more important than a love interest, if you have a really good friendship make sure you keep it!

    • First may i just say i love your books and I’m anxiously awaiting Goddess. This is a sticky situation! I would probably choose my best friend over a guy especially if we have been friends for a long time.
      Anyway if my friend was really my best friend I would hope she would accept him and be for me and same if the guy really like me he would have to accept that she is my best friend and is apart of my. If he doesn’t get this then I wouldn’t go out with him no matter how hot he is.
      xx Louise :)

    • Karina Figueiredo says:

      The answer is simple, I choose my best friend, because if she thinks there’s something wrong with the “hot boy” i believe her. Plus, I don’t want a relationship with someone so selfish who ask me to give up my friend, only because he´s gorgeous, I want someone who really love me, and my best friend surely does.

    • Karina Figueiredo says:

      I won’t never give up my best friend! :)

  2. Looking back, I would have chosen the guy but now having lived and learned I hope I would choose my friend! BTW theis contest ends on my bday so what a great present that would be!

  3. Gah!! so excited to read this!!

    I think I’d have to give up the boy… Friends forever and all that jazz!!

    xoxo
    jaime

  4. Emmalee Giantomasso says:

    My friend, boys come and go, and I know what it feels like to have a friend choose a boy over me.

  5. Sam Stevens says:

    Hi, It would have to be friendship over the hot new fella, in my experience friendship is more important and lasts longer. Love your books, can’t wait to read the next one x

  6. Siri Chintapalli says:

    People do not just hate each other for no reason. I think, first and foremost, it is important to figure out why there is so much negative tension between the friend and the boyfriend. Perhaps, they already have a history that is influencing the way they interact. I do not believe abandoning either relationship is the answer here. If they can not set aside their differences for the sake of the one thing they have in common, a person they both care for, then maybe neither is worth the pain. If their hatred for someone else is worth more to them then their friendship/relationship, then it is clear where their priorities lie. Giving the situation some time and getting to the bottom of the issue seems like the best idea.

  7. I would choose my friend over my lover. Why because i know her longer and I adored her for way longer.
    but i hope that if my boyfriend and best friend dont like each other they respect my decision to keep them both.

  8. Sabrina Kooy says:

    So excited for Goddess! And…. If I ‘new’ guy asked me to give up a long standing ‘wonderful’ friendship it would significantly lessen his appeal. He would have to go.

  9. Is it an option to tell them I don’t do ultimatums and they just have to get over their ego and ride it out? They don’t have to like eachother. They don’t even have to be near eachother… they just have to like me. Hopefully they’d come around eventually once they realized that I needed them both in my life to be happy…

  10. Always, always pick the friend! A worthy swoony-guy wouldn’t make you choose!

  11. I would most likely choose my friend. But I feel like a real friend wouldn’t make you choose.

  12. Ailsa Clarke says:

    For me the answer to that question is more or less simple but that’s probably because I’ve personally never been in that situation. As I am today I would choose my best friend because I value my friendships extremely high and I’d rather have a friend who would stick with me through thick and thin than a boyfriend whose relationship durability is not foreseeable.
    My opinion might change but for now that is what I think

  13. My best friend for sure. She/He will always be there for me. Boys well They come and go.

  14. Definitely would give up the newly found love.. No matter how bad it would feel imagine the emptiness and loneliness of not having “your person” there for you. With no second thoughts!

    • Kisses from Greece! You have done a beautiful work with our mythology.. wish it were true! Would love to be a kick ass Scion! <3

  15. Anni-chan says:

    I would say I stay with my best friend and say good-bye to my boyfriend. If he can’t accept my best friend he’s not the right one for me :D

  16. Aww I couldn’t give up my best friend! <3

  17. “hoes over bros”

  18. If I’ve only been with the guy for a short while, definitely the friend. However, if we would have been together for a longer time before they make me choose, it would depend. Nonetheless, I would be pretty pissed that they even want me to choose, no matter who I pick.

    And I loooooooooooove your books, can’t wait for Goddess!

  19. I think I would give up the boy. My best friend is priceless, and worth more than any man.

  20. A boy over a friend? No way.
    A new boy over a friend? That’s not even a question.
    You know there’s this saying that friends are the siblings we choose for ourselves. Would you really consider trading a sister for a boy who might or might not break your heart eventually?
    Because I wouldn’t.

  21. I would more than likely give up the guy. My friends are much more important. But if she was really my friend, she would do her best to tolerate him unless he was truly no good for me.

  22. Sarah's Rolli Tanzt says:

    i would choose my best friend

  23. Best friend. Friends mean the world to me. And I’m usually picky about who I associate with so if they had issues with the boy then there must be something I wasn’t picking up on.

  24. Tough! I don’t think I’d have to choose though- if my best friend is a REAL friend, she’d make a bigger effort to get along with my new bf, and if my love interest really cares about me, he’d make a bigger effort to accept my friend. Otherwise one of them is being a phony, that’s the one I’d need to lose.

  25. I would choose my best friend but only because of the quality of our friendship. Otherwise, I think it would be hard to walk out on my boyfriend. But, anyway, if my best friend and my boyfriend hated each other, I think it would mean that I made a mistake befriending one of the two since if they loved me they wouln’t make me make that choice :)

  26. Actually i don’t know what to do because i think that a friendship is very important but also a relationship with a boy. I think that if they really love me they woudn’t ask me to choose but in case i’d have to i think i would choose the boy bcs what sort of Best friend asks u something like this?? Love ya <3 starhearts

  27. You know… I would actually be mad at my best friend for not supporting me in what makes me happy. I mean, nobody likes everyone. And if my friend put me in that position, where I had to choose I think I’d probably not choose her. It’s rather juvenile, I think. I’ve really disliked some of my friends’ boyfriends. We did not lose our friendship over it, we just made time to hang out without them. Nobody should ever have to choose between two different kinds of love.

  28. This is a very hard ultimatum but in the end I would still choose my best friend. No matter how hot and worth my boyfriend , a best friend who has been there for me through up and down is irreplaceable.

  29. Ohh this is a tough one, the quote “bro’s before ho’s” comes to mind, except with me the ‘bro’ would be a girl as I do have a best friend who has been here through so much and I’ve been horrible at times to her yet she never turns her back on me. Yeah the boy may be hot but what if he breaks your heart? Then you’d have no friend to turn to as you would have turned your back on her for a boyfriend.

    So for me I would choose my best friend anyway as I doubt any boy could put up with my bad moods and the emotional break downs. I’d much rather wait to find someone, weather he is hot or not, who would get on with Sarah as honestly with out her I don’t think I’d have got through what I have.

  30. I guess it all depends on the friend and the boyfriend. If it’s a great friend and the boyfriend is just new and I don’t foresee a future, then just dump the boyfriend. But if it is true love, then I would have to reevaluate my relationship with my friend.

    • If it were me in that situation I would probably lie to both the best friend and boyfriend for as long as possible before it exploded back in my face. Then I probably break up with the friend because a best friend shouldn’t really make you choose. But I’m kind of a people pleaser and also selfish. I’m pretty sure other people would find a better way to solve the problem. :)

  31. Alannah Campbell says:

    I don’t think a real best friend would make you chose, and neither would a guy who actually loved you. I’d figure out really quick that I shouldn’t be with either because they don’t care about me enough to be able to look past their hatred for each other.
    Also… I’d kind of wonder why they hated each other so much as well, so that might be a factor in picking someone.
    I hope I win and I love your books!:)

  32. Diane Watters says:

    I would tell them both to grow up. I’m not above dishing out the silent treatment, I will not allow people to tell me who I can and can’t be friends with or have a relationship with.

  33. Providing that my best friend is my BEST friend, I would always choose her over some guy who may or may not work out. Best friends are forever and hard to come by, but boys they come and go. I would trust my best friends judgement about a guy over any one else’s opinion. Imagine if the relationship did not work out, who would be there to pick up the broken pieces of my heart? From experience, I’ve seen girls choose a boy over their best friend and it has never worked out. There is always a legitimate reason for a best friend to doubt a guy.

  34. I’d choose whoever I needed more in my life – whether that be my best friend or my boyfriend. I’d choose whoever would leave the biggest hole in my heart if they left.

  35. I’ll probably choose neither. Anyone who forces me to choose between two people isn’t a friend of mine. They can stay away from each other, but nobody has the right to force me to choose. I know my best friend wouldn’t ask that of me, even if she hated my boyfriend. That’s real friendship, in my opinion. I would never ask that of her either ;) I would still adore her, even if I would hate her boyfriend.

  36. I would give up my boyfriend I think. I love him I really do but my friends or best friend in this case comes first. Probably because we’ve spent almost half o our lives together and “the boyfriend” is a new addition to the picture. Plus, the fact that if said boyfriend truly does love me then he wouldn’t make me choose at all.

  37. I would tell them that they were both being immature and that they needed to grow up. I would also let my bff know that she’s dated a guy in the past that I was not a fan of but since he wasn’t hurting her in anyway – he was just pompous and annoying – I didn’t say anything and let the relationship run its course. I would ask her if she thought that the guy was bad for me or if she just doesn’t like him. I would take her opinions into consideration and keep an eye out for that with my bf. But I wouldn’t sacrifice either of them because they didn’t get along, I don’t give in to ultimatums such as that.

  38. Louisa Amy Law says:

    I would have to give up the boyfriend simply because I think it is difficult to find the perfect friend who you can share anything with especially as you leave school/college. Boyfriends will come and go and the chances are if he doesn’t like your best friend then he’s probably going to have some issues with who you are in the future. A good boyfriend and best friend wouldn’t make you make this decision in the first place but hey… Ditch the fella!!! :oD xxx

  39. I think I would choose my best friend!

  40. I would choose the friend, although I feel like the two of them (especially the friend) shouldn’t have to make me choose like that.. Sure, they might hate each other, but I feel like if they really loved me, they would find a way to make it work, for me.

  41. At that point, both are gone. Love–in all of it’s forms–is not a choice. We choose how we love, not who. And I, for one, choose to love freely, without condition. If my friends start putting conditions on how I can love them, they’ll soon find it won’t work. I’ll still love them, but from afar.

  42. 1. I would doubt my friend if she was making me choose with out a good reason.
    2. A guy should never make you choose him over your BFF
    That being said, I’d choose my friend. Because we have been together through thick and thin and if she doesn’t like him there must be a good reason. Plus if he’s giving you an ultimatum now on something this small the relationship probably won’t last very long anyways. Relationships are about give and take and he sounds like he just wants to take

  43. Jennifer Christensen says:

    I would pick the best friend. Although most friendships don’t last forever, “hot” boyfriends are a lot less likely to last at all. I’d rather wait until I find a guy that has no issues with the people in my life. That way I’ll have the best of both worlds.

  44. Shona Dixon says:

    If the best friend was anything like my best friend, I would pick her over any guy any day! Friends will always be there for you, boys wont be. I’m only 14 years old, I wont marry this boy, my best friend is the one i’m going to spend all my teen experiences with. I’d end it with the boy before it gets too serious and he get hurt.
    Ps. It’s quite funny i’m doing this competition to win the giveaway for my best friends birthday!

  45. Why would they give me an ultimatum? And if they did make me pick, I would drop both of them because my best friend & boyfriend SHOULD know how much both mean to me.

  46. Charlotte says:

    i would choose my friend

    cant wait for the book!

  47. I would try to figure out why they hate each other first and try to fix things between them, and if it still doesn’t work out and neither one of them decides to be the bigger person and suck it up for my sake i’d probably stop talking to both of them.

  48. That’ weird. What kind of friend would she be if she’d asked me for something like that? That would mean that she doesn’t care about my feelings. The same with a guy. BUT if they agreed that i had to make a choice, it means they can cooperate so maybe I don’t have to choose after all… ;)

  49. Sarah McHugh says:

    There are so many people in this world, it’s amazing that so many of them don’t get along. That choice is easy to make, it may not be as easy to carry out, but in the end it will be worth it. You always chose your friend. I believe that people have to be strong on their own however your friends are your safety net throughout life, how are you supposed to put yourself out their with the new amazing guy if there is no one there to catch you when you fall?

  50. That is a really tough one because if either the friend or the boy truly loved me, they wouldn’t make me choose. I would hope I would choose the friend if I had to though. :)

  51. Megan Tiffany says:

    I would chose neither! If they don’t care about me enough to work out their differences for me, or at least make an effort to, they obviously don’t care about me as much as I care about them. If my best friend was truly my best friend, they wouldn’t care what my boyfriend was like; if I was happy, they’d be happy. Same goes for my boyfriend. If they honestly hated each other, they should stay away from each other, not give me an ultimatum! X

  52. Megan Tiffany says:

    I would chose neither! If they don’t care about me enough to work out their differences for me, or at least make an effort to, they obviously don’t care about me as much as I care about them. If my best friend was truly my best friend, they wouldn’t care what my boyfriend was like; if I was happy, they’d be happy. Same goes for my boyfriend. If they honestly hated each other, they should stay away from each other, not give me an ultimatum! X

  53. Hard choice! Well, i am 15, i don’t have a boyfriend, but i like this guy who is cute but very immature for his age, and my friends cannot stand him. If we were together maybe i could overcome this situation, but i know that after a while me and my friends would distance and i would have only a boyfriend and no friends, and maybe i would start to blame on him and we would break up after a while. So i choose my friends! That wouldn’t happen only in case of true love… If i’ll find my real soul mate, i’ll don’t care of anything else. if i’m really happy my real friends should accept and support my relationship. After that, i only wanna say that i love you and your books soooo much, and i can’t wait for Goddess to come out!
    (P.S. Sorry if my english isn’t perfect, i’m italian! But i would be very happy to win a copy of the book, cause i love reading books in the original language!)
    Lots of love, Lisa xx

  54. Bekkiie Crowe says:

    Neither. If either of them made me choose and both of them made me happy, they obviously didn’t hold my happiness in high regard. If there was a genuine reason why they didn’t like each other and being friends/with them would be bad for me it would be different.

  55. Jenna Harvey says:

    Well at least they can agree on something, right? I have been best friends with friends since nursery and they have been there for me through thick and thin, vice versa. I don’t think a new (hot) guy can replace all of the memories that I have had with my friend since I was five. So I would have to pick friends, however if I really really REALLY like the guy I would of hoped that my best friend would get along with him to make me happy and the same with him.

  56. Stephanie says:

    I would definitely chose my best friend over any new beau. If there’s a reason that the person that knows me better then anyone doesn’t like him then he has to go.

  57. Danielle DeWitt says:

    Wow. This is difficult. Obviously, I would try everything to compromise with them. But if I absolutely HAD to choose. It would probably be my best friend. I have known my best friend for 20 years and I couldn’t imagine her not being in my life. I couldn’t throw that away for anything.

  58. laura goddard says:

    I would find out why they hated each other and if it was for a stupid reason then none of them are worth my time and obviously dont care about my happyness. But if it was for a good reason then i would choose best friend chicks before dicks and that :-P

  59. Erin Painter says:

    Its not a simple question to answer and yet it is. You choose your friends and they either choose you back or they don’t. If they are your true friend, they should not be asking you to choose between them and a new boyfriend. They should be happy with for you and accepting of your decision. I have had friends have boyfriends who I have absolutely HATED and still do to this day, but I know they are happy and I know they are loved. That is what is important. Friends are forever; boyfriends and guys (or girls) come and go from your life. I believe that people change and evolve and that nothing truly lasts forever and that is okay. Ultimatums are never cool no matter what the situation. If there was no way for my friend and my new love interest to work things out between them and it meant losing a person who has been with me through everything and who has stood by me through more than even your closest family members (because lets all face it, we share more with our friends then our family) then I would choose my friend. In the end, if you just asked them to suck it up and deal with your decision something would break; you can’t force people to like each other or avoid each other. What if you get married? What if you have your birthday and you want both your friend and your boyfriend to be there? What if a family member dies and you need the support of both of them but they can’t stand to be in the same room with each other? I can’t imagine how difficult that would be for them and me. It wouldn’t be right for any of the parties. So I would choose my friend, even if the guy looked as good as Orion ;)

  60. That would be hard. I would be very upset that I was being made to choose at all so I’d first try and see if there is anyway that they could work out their problems, and if that didn’t work I’d have to choose my best friend…but I’d want to have at least the chance to properly say goodbye to the guy.

    Thanks for the contest Josie, I would love to win and canNOT wait to read Goddess.

  61. Susana Uribe says:

    Wow, recently okay not recently… a time ago this happened to me… I didn’t know what to choose, my best friend is my best friend for a reason, she understand me and it’s with my in my ups and downs but a boyfriend is the guy with i’m spending time and trying to get along but parts are very important in my life… the complete my life and are my friends I always considers my boyfriends are my friends too because if I don’t I feel like we have nothing in common.

    But I had to make a choice and I chose my best friend, why? Because she has always been there for me and when my boyfriend left me she put her shoulder to cry I loved my boyfriend so much but if he can’t try to keep a good relationship with a very important part of my life I couldn’t be with him! Okay but months laters we came back and now my boyfriend and best friend have a polite relationship I can’t say that they’re best friends and talk all day about their lifes but al least they talk to each other when they’re in the same room and try not to throw daggers with their eyes

  62. Simone barnwell says:

    Neither. As hard as it would be to do it, I personally couldn’t be with a guy if he gave me an ultimatum like that, and I couldn’t be friends with someone who would do that either. If I choose I would just regret the choice and grow to resent whomever I choose for making me give the other up. I would have to give up both of them.

  63. STEPHANIE HILL says:

    I would choose my friend…. long time friendships are hard to come by, and take a long time to build. But i know that if my friends are truely my friends, they would respect my choice in guys no matter what.

  64. Sarah Songbyrd says:

    I am so excited for the book! I hope I win! Anyway down to business, if I was forced to choose it would be my friend that would stay. A good friend that has known you for a long time must have a good reason for not liking the new bf. Maybe you are not seeing a serious flaw in your bf because you think you are in love with him, but your friend who is not involved but really cares for you can see something that will eventually hurt you. I do think that if they are GOOD friends they would put aside their differences for you and not make you choose. However, I think it is wise to listen to your trustworthy friend and believe him/ her if they see something questionable in the new bf’s character.

  65. Dervla Candon says:

    ALWAYS choose the best friend, shes not going to hate him unless she has a legit reason to, I dont think I’d ever go out with someone she hates or put her in that position. Then again, my best friend would nnever give me that kind of ultimatum.

  66. Given that I’m married and been so for almost 9 years, this question has N/A written all over it for me, however, I’ll try to remember what I would’ve done had I ever been put in that position:

    First of all, I would probably tell both friend and boyfriend that being asked to choose was really selfish of both of them. I mean, I didn’t always like who my friends dated but I couldn’t ever ask them to choose because it wasn’t my life, and if I had, I’d just cause more problems between myself and the friend. So I guess just dump them both and tell them either they work it out or that’s that.

    It would be a shame to lose a friend over something as silly as whom you date (unless the guy/girl in question was really that bad of a romantic interest and the friend was just trying to protect you, in which case I’d want to know WHY the friend hated the guy or why the guy hated the friend, without that information I couldn’t determine if they had altrustic reasons or just plain selfish reasons) however, having been in the position of not liking someone’s date for one reason or another, all you can do is tell the person where you stand, but making them choose isn’t going to do anything except cause problems.

    So depending on their reasons, I’d probably dump them both. Sorry, you have to give me a good reason. I’m not going to just accept “Your friend’s a brat” or “The guy is a brat” without an explanation. It’s one thing for a girl caught between two guys to be asked to choose which guy she’s going to be romantically involved with because it’s unfair to string people along, however, friend versus romantic interest is a whole different ball of wax.

  67. Hard choice. I would choose neither because if they’re really my best friend and such a great boyfriend then they wouldn’t make me choose either of them and they would just learn to live with each other/ avoid each other.

    If I absolutely had to choose though, I’d go with the best friend.

  68. Dannette Wright says:

    I would have to choose my friend. Love interests come and go, but a true friend is always there for you.

  69. Rosarii O' Riordan says:

    Goddess question :)

    I wouldn’t think it was fair of them to make me choose only one of them. My best friend should be happy if I have a new boyfriend and my boyfriend should accept my friends. If they can’t get along then they should try to, to make me happy. Making my choose between them is just silly and they should grow up and try to get along, and if they can’t get along, they should pretend to like each other or just avoid each other. To be honest I wouldn’t think very much of them if they couldn’t handle that.

    Rosarii :) xx

  70. Well my wise answer would be to keep my friend, ’cause friendship is something really rare and precious (to me), and loose a friend, a person you know as your sister, it’s so sad. Too bad for the boy, but if the all case is not yet serious, well I’ll get over it and found someone else…
    However, my evil, deep hidden personnality’s answer is : they don’t need to know you still see BOTH, do they ? What they don’t know can’t hurt them ! So let’s have the boy and keep the friend ! And if things get really serious, the dilemma is over : your boyfriend will have to accept who you are and who you love, and your friend, if real friend she is, will have to accept your hapiness !
    Thanks so much for this contest, I love your books <3<3<3

  71. If its a new boyfriend, my best friend. I would be sure that my friend would have my best interest at heart but if i had only known the guy a short while it would be ridiculous to chose that over years of trust. I would keep his number though, just in case ;)

  72. Years ago I happened. If in the future should happen this time I would not choose neither. I would speak with them to let him know that I love both of them and that, if they keep me, should not force me to choose between them.

  73. I’d give up the guy…no way I’d give up years of friendship over a guy.

  74. I am so excited for Goddess! Thankyou for an amazing giveaway.

    I was in this very predicament, my best friend despised my boyfriend at the time for no reason at all & it caused alot of grief. It was an ongoing saga but I wanted them both in my life; in the end I married the boy (she was my maid of honour) but we ended up at different phases in our lives & unfortunately no longer have contact. I’m very glad though I kept him ;-)

  75. Alessandra says:

    My BFF for sure!!!

  76. I agree with Cecilia. I would have a serious talk with my friend though, to check she wasnt doing it for selfish reasons.

  77. Honestly I hope my best friend and boyfriend are mature enough to not make me choose. But if after I’ve tried everything to get them to settle whatever’s between them and I still fail, resulting me in forcing to choose, I’d have to pick my best friend. I’ve known them longer and if they’re my best friend, a hot love interest wouldn’t get in the way. Hopefully I’ll have done something to fix whatever the problem was, but always friend over the boyfriend for me.

  78. Best friend is always at the first place for me, and I wouldn’t even think about giving up her. And If that boy really feels something for me, he will respect my decision. But before giving up him I would try anything to fix that problem, at least they don’t have to speak to each other, they just have to respect my decision.

  79. Kelly Croasmun says:

    A real friend wouldn’t make you choose….but if I HAD to choose, I would probably choose the longtime friendship (though I’m not above *sneaking* to see the guy if he was worth it……).

  80. Khula A.R. says:

    Well , I really wouldn’t choose . I f they both really care about me they wouldn’t put me in that situation.
    They know that I really care about them , so how can I choose. Also, if my boyfriend really loved me he would put up with her because she is my best friend. If she really loved me she would she try to work things out with him and she should be happy that I’m in a awesome relationship. He happy that I have a friend to be with when he can’t. But if I really should choose between them I would choose my best friend because she hates him for a good reason

  81. Dawn Ritchie says:

    Best friend.

  82. Danielle Nguyen says:

    I think since it’s a new boyfriend, I would definitely choose my lifelong friend over him. If she has legitimate reasons for hating him, then I would take her advice.

  83. I’d probably would like to know why the intense hate and absolute impossibility of keeping both of them, they wouldn’t always have to mix… but I’d probably choose my best friend over a new and recent love interest that has just arrived in my life. All my friends I’ve know for over 10 years, so I know what their friendship means to me.

  84. Chloe Ellis says:

    Okay so I would definately choose my best friend over a “love interest” even if he was HOTTTTTT. but at the time i know that i would think he was more than that, that he could be THE ONE. that i could maybe find a new best friend in him? So if i was actually in thi ssituation i know i would talk myself into dumping my friends for the chance of a happy-ever-after even though i would regret it. but after spending a long time persuading them to like one another, i would just have to make a decision; it’s easier to pretend to make this decision than to actually experience it. hmmmm. that was deep for me, :p Can’t wait to read the next book either way!!!!!!! :D

  85. it would really depend on how close you are with them, namely my best friend. I would first try to make things work or make some sort of compromise but if they still hate each other, i would never abandon years of friendship just for a guy no matter how good looking he is. Because at the end of the day, it’s your best friend who has been with you for the longest and has encouraged you to do things the longest.

  86. Well, I would choose neither of them. I don’t think that someone who loves you, should decide who is your friedn or who is your boyfriend. I would never ever make my by best friend choose between me and her love interest, even if I don’t like him. I had this situation once and I didn’t say a thing. I stand by her side and now the guy is gone, because she noticed by herself what kind a person he was and our friendship is still there, strong as ever. So I think it’s mean to make me decide between boyfriend and friend.
    Exception one of them is a ‘killer’ ;)

    Greetings and the best wishes for Pickles.
    Lilly

  87. I think I’d choose my friend, although if both people love you hopefully I wouldn’t have to choose between the two.

  88. San Kimi Claudio says:

    I would choose neither, because a good friend as well as a new BF both should compromise if they truly cared about me.

    • San Kimi Claudio says:

      But if i had to truly choose one or the other i would choose my friend, who will always be there for me, while as a hot new BF one can never know if it will last. But true friendship lasts.

  89. I would tell both of them to suck it up and that if they don’t have to talk or be around one another, but to at least be civil and to not bad mouth either of them- in my presence at least! Tell them they have to either agree to at least that, or that you love them but if they really and truly cared for you they could respect that- because it’s not asking much! And if they both say Yes i guess i can do that- well awesome! but if one doesn’t then just say ok see ya! I don’t mean to make it sound easier than it is, because it’s hard- but in most cases girls will choose their boyfriends over girl-friends and you don’t want to be “that girl” so be an independent thinker and be strong and it’ll turn out okay.
    I’m 17 currently, and my “ex” best friend started dating this guy three years older than her. He wasn’t funny, or kind or even remotely attractive and was barely athletic- safe to say I wasn’t crazy about the two of them together. But I was open to it, I never outright said “Why are you wasting your time with such a loser?” but then she told me several instances where he treated her really poorly, and they were one of those horrible couple that made up and broke up at least a billion times- and she would ALWAYS cancel on me, making up excuses, but then i’d later find out she ditched me to hang out with him- but she’d come running to cry on my shoulder and every time she’d ask me: “I’m NEVER talking to him again, HE’S DESPICABLE! What do you think I should do/what will happen, Izzy?”
    and one time I just told her the honest truth: “You’re going to back together with him, and you will forever keep getting back together with him because for whatever reason you don’t mind that he treats you with such little respect. You’re better than him, and you don’t deserve to be called ‘bitch’ and ‘whore’ for just talking to male classmates, and until you realize how amazing you are, you’ll continue to let him treat you this way.”
    and she got so angry at me, and refused to talk to me and months later we barely saw each other, and then one time, a YEAR AND A HALF LATER OKAY they broke up for good i guess and then she came to my house, aplogizing
    i mean a year a half later? reallllyyy? i’m not generally one to hold grudges, so I forgave her, but I’d be a fool to be like: “it’s all good now! hah hah hah little tiff we had there back to being best friends!”
    so i wave an do a small smile if i see her at school or something, but beyond that we don’t talk anymore and it’s depressing, but i was just trying to be a good friend in that instance- so I understand this from the BEST FRIEND perspective.
    -sorry for the long post just got a bit ranty there-
    Cheers, Izzy!

  90. I would choose my best friend. As over the years they have been loyal to me, and I would never dishonour that by dumping them at first sight of a hot boy. Boys will come and go, but I know my best friend will always be there for me through the good and bad times, and I’d like to think I’d do the same for them. After all that’s what friendship is about.

  91. Ali-becca says:

    I really don’t know what I’d do in that situation but in hindsight, I would hope I’d choose my friend because when you have a true best friend that’s always there for you, you can be happy. where as, happiness is not always guarenteed with a hot guy (or girl). To be honest though, I would probably do everything I could to keep both;)

    • Ali-becca says:

      (If that didn’t work though, I would probably ask both of them to fight to the death over which one gets to keep me… or something like that) ;)

  92. In Italy we say: i ragazzi vanno, le amiche restano that can be badly translate with: boys go, friends stay… in the past I choose friendship and I didn’t regret it but obviously he wasn’t my true love so the answer is who knows?

  93. MaryAngelica Rivodo says:

    it would depend on the type of relationship i have with both of them. there could be that relationship where I’ve known them for a long time but things might have happened and there is a limited amount of honesty and trust in which my choice would be to keep my new boyfriend. But if it was the complete opposite of that then i would keep my friend. i wouldn’t want to lose such an awesome friendship.

  94. I’m not quite sure which one I would choose. I mean everyone needs a best friend. I can talk with him about everything, maybe thing I would not talk about with my boyfriend. But on the other hand what is more appealing than a new hot boyfriend? Someone who love you for what you are. I think if my friend and my boyfriend would love me. They should not expect this decision from me! Maybe I should take none of them :D but then I would be double unhappy, I think. But because I have to make a decision I guess I would take the boyfriend and I hope he is worth the decision ;)
    And Josephine I love the books :)

  95. I would actually feel very sad that my best friend and my boyfriend demanded to pick one of them. They should know that it’d make me unhappy and shouldn’t they (especially my boyfriend) be interested in my happiness? If they loved me, they would come up with a solution EVERYONE could live with.
    I’m so much looking forward to reading your book, Josie! It’s on my ‘must buy’ list which only has 3 other ‘MUST BUY’ books on it. :)
    Will you ever tell us why you’re asking us all these questions? Are they related to Goddess or to the new book that you’re writing?

  96. My best friend for sure!!! I’ve known her for years and I could never throw that away for a guy.

  97. I would choose my friend,no matter what.Even if you’re in a relationship,it will take some time to truly learn each other and what if this whole thing was based on just passion and not deep feelings? After some time you might break up and then you won’t have the person you trust the most beside you to support and comfort you.And that will kind of suck :) Can’t wait for Goddess!Greetings from Greece!

  98. Can’t wait for Goddess!

  99. littlefoot says:

    Friends always come first, especially if it’s a new love. Established love is a different thing, but new love can’t replace what you and your best friend have.

  100. This would be a hard decision. I think it would mostly depend on the type of relationship I have with both of those people. I don’t think I would throw away a friendship I’ve spent years building, but at the same time when love comes knocking who knows what can happen. But my first instinct would be to try to compromise. And if that fails then I would have to reevaluate how I feel about both those people, because if they truly cared about me, they wouldn’t make me have to choose between them.

  101. Christina Bodden says:

    For me, if I had to choose between my best friend and my new boyfriend, I would probably choose my best friend because a friendship bond that has lasted since when you were practically born together is a bond that is stronger than a relationship with a guy you had just met. With your best friend, you can know that they will be there for you through anything, the worst cases in your life to the best time of both your lives. No matter the situation. While as a hot boyfriend you can never know how long you have until either or both of you are gone and moved on.

    Thank you!

  102. I guess the best friend.. It depends, can’t I keep both but separate them from each other?

  103. I would choose my friend over my new hot boyfriend. In the end I know that boys will come and go but keeping a friend for life is most important. I would trust my friends judgement and just let him go. Who needs boys anyway.
    Jokes.

  104. I would pick my bestfriend above all else even if my boyfriend was hot. If i had a long friendship then I wouldn’t give that up for a relationship that could end any moment. Bestfriend all the way not matter how cute or hot my boyfriend maybe.

  105. Emma Gill says:

    In 2 weeks it will be my 4 year anniversary with my boyfriend, and at the beginning of of our relationship my best friend, who knew him first, didn’t like him at all. In the end I realised that this was because he used to put on quite a boisterous act when with certain people, when actually he’s pretty shy. The problem was solved in the end because they both made the effort for me, and got to know each other properly.

    I think that is part of what makes her a wonderful friend and him a wonderful boyfriend; even when they didn’t like each other (they do now!) they never told me what to do or resented any time spend with the other.

    If a friend or boyfriend gave me an ultimatum like this I think I would be a bit annoyed, and would only choose if someone gave a valid reason for it (for example, if the friend had seen the boyfriend cheating).

    I apologise for the long walk for a short drink of water there!

  106. Michelle Bitner Smith says:

    Dump the boyfriend. He’s only going to bring more trouble!

  107. Hello,
    I will never give up my friendship! Everytime you understand each other and a boyfriend cannot give you that feeling!

  108. Tough one, I think I’d tell them both to grow up and get over it. But if I really had to choose, probably my friend if I’d only been with the guy for a short amount of time. I wouldn’t be happy with either of them though!

  109. Definitely my best friend. Based on my own experience, boys strays and best friend stays.

  110. Kaylene Eldredge says:

    Well, If I really had to choose between one of them, the best friend I’ve had forever or the boyfriend that makes my knees melt, I’d probably have to choose the person I’d known for longer, and thus trusted longer, My best friend. If there was a reason that they didn’t get along, there is probably a good reason for that, and I’d have to trust my friend over the boy that makes my hormones go wild. Even though it’ll hurt that I’d have to leave him, I’d trust my friend with this. I might be really bummed with ending this relationship, but there are other boys out in the world , and who knows, choosing my friend over him might save me from a potential harmful relationship: if he didn’t like my best friend and I chose him over her, what wouldn’t say he didn’t like my sister, and made me choose between them. Any boyfriend should put up with my friends and family and if not, he’s not for me.

  111. Jodi Manweiler says:

    I’ve had the same best friend for almost 20 years and I would not give that up for a guy.

  112. Joella Elbert says:

    I think I would have to stay with my best friend.

  113. I would give up both of them. They’re obviously not compatible for MY life and would just be making my life more stressful.

  114. Ahh, Boyfriends come and go but Friends are for Life :)

  115. I would choose my friend if I really had to. BUT if I rkeally liked that Guy I wouldn’t choose. There have to be a, or many, reasons for why they hate each other. None of them is perfect. I would try to talk to them, probably together. If it wouldn’t work I wouldn’t choose any of them. If they really want me they wouldn’t let me choose. They would accept the situation. Then I think that they would change their mind and don’t want me to choose between them anymore. Maybe they would also try to get along?

  116. Pat Frank says:

    Boyfriends come and go….passion wanes. But true friendship, one that has weathered the test of time, is a rare thing. I would choose my best friend.

  117. Susi Marcone says:

    i’ll give up the boy, but it’s so hard to choose!!!!

  118. Awww I hope Pickles gets better soon…. as for the question I would definatly choose my best friend over a new boyfriend :)

  119. alicia marie says:

    I would definitely give up the guy before I’d ditch my best friend!

  120. That’s a hard question. Although, if they were a good friend and boyfriend, they wouldn’t be asking me to choose. But if I had to, I’d probably choose my best friend.

  121. I would definitely go for the best friend. Because I know in my heart, she would not break my heart like the hot guy might do if he ever had the chance.

  122. Elizabeth says:

    I would definitely choose my friend, because we have been friends for a really long time and I can go to her with practically anything. A guy isn’t worth giving up a friendship like that.

  123. Sisters before Misters ALWAYS! My best friend and my ex-boyfriend didn’t get along. There’s a reason why he is my ex and she was my maid of honor at my wedding! <3

  124. I personally wouldn’t choose either. I would explain to both of them that it is unfair for them to put me in that situation. My Best Friend should want me to be happy; voice their opinion and let me make my choice but still be there for me. The new boy would also voice his opinion and then leave it be. So. I would tell them both that I’m not picking and it’s not okay for them to put me in the middle. If you love me then you need to learn to be nice to and deal with my Best Friend/New Boy. :D

  125. Having not been in that situation before as my husband and my best friend get on fine it’s a tough choice. I’d like to think i wouldn’t end a long term friendship because a boyfriend doesn’t like my friends. So maybe try to reason with them? If that fails id have to keep my best friend.

  126. I would choose my best friend, good friends are there for you guys come and go.

  127. Kirsten Davis says:

    If I was ever in this situation I would 100% back my best friend. If we had such a long standing relationship she would try to make herself like my boyfriend and if she couldn’t it must be due to some reason that I have been blinded from by the boys good looks! I also value my friendship more than my relationship with the boy and that if he hates her that much we probably don’t have much in common as my friend and I would be so similar we would be like sisters!!

  128. This would probably be one of the hardest things I’d ever have to do.

    I would probably choose my friend. I have known the person for a long time, and trust me, if she can stick with me-she’s the most wonderful person around, and is as weird as me as well. We can tell each other everything-some things that you can’t tell a guy-especially if you’ve just met them.

    I might be blinded by love though, and make a bad decision-especially if it’s someone I’ve liked for a long time. But you never know how a person’s really like until you get to know them.

    But I might choose none of them. What type of friend or possible boyfriend, would put me through a choice as hard as that, to decide between two people that I may love the most?

    So, I’m undecided, but I’m sort of leaning towards friend, because there’s only one guy I really like, and will only ever like, but I doubt he’s even noticed me! :( Maybe he will, maybe he won’t, but a girl can live in hope right? :)

    Hope you like my answer!

    Hikma

  129. I’d definitely pick my best friend… Although I think a good friend would like your boyfriend because you do. Unless he’s not a nice guy! Thanks for the giveaway!

  130. Friendship, I mean there are plenty of guys around there and best friends are kinda hard to find these days :)

  131. This is totally hypothetical as I have not been in this situation, but i think I would choose my friend.
    I have had some bad experiences with friends that now means I really treasure the friends I do have. In fact my best friend is more like my sister. There is no way I could give that up.
    Yes it would be a very hard choice. Love can take over and cloud your judgement, but ultimately I know that relationships don’t always work and I want to know I have my friend there if that was to happen.
    And besides if the new ‘love of my life’ tried to split me from my friend then he isn’t the guy I thought he was, and my friend wouldn’t dislike him for no reason. There would have to be something behind that intense dislike, so I would trust that she was just looking out for me, and knew something about him that I would be better avoiding.
    As they say “sisters before misters” :D
    Friends all the way. xxx

  132. Patricia Duarte says:

    First of all I wouldn’t like to be told to choose, ultimatums are for narrow minded people….that said I remember that years ago when I met my husband I had a good friend who seemed to be pretty loyal and understanding, when they met my friend started telling me that my husband didn’t send off good energy or some crap like that, needless to say that I continued with him, got married and had a son…we are still happily married and my friend…well…I haven’t heard from her for a loooooong time…but I do simply do not care

    • Andrea Badri says:

      Hello :)

      If I had to choose between my best friend and my new boyfriend I would choose…

      NEITHER.

      Why? Aside from being used to loneliness, I can at least tell the who loves me, and neither of them do. I would understand my best friend not liking my boyfriend, but if it’s just because she can’t get along with him, then she doesn’t have to. I do. My boyfriend doesn’t have to get along with my best friend either, but the least the both of them can do for me is tolerate each others presence while I’m there. I know friendships are more worthwhile than relationships; however, one that asks you to give up a relationship isn’t very nice. The fact that the both of them decided that I have to CHOOSE between them would make me very angry. How could they but such a burden on a person who’s deeply attached to both parties? How would I know either is worthwhile. Not every relationship works out, and not every friendship does either. It would be better to not choose and see if they can compromise on their own, or choose one and break a heart and exchange cold stares across the hallway.

  133. I know I should choose friendship but if I know it in my heart that the guy is the one Mr. Right for me, then my best friend has to sort her issues out, or I’ll leave her. I sound like such a mean person but I know my best friend would never make such issue over a boy, and if she did, then it’s my life. I take risk, and if it’s the wrong one, I’ll face consequences, but what if it’s right? I’m not going to let that guy leave!

  134. I would have to pick friendship; if my best-friend really hated a guy, there must be something wrong with him, so perhaps he’s not the right guy. Although I would hope that if they both loved me, they would put up with each other, even if they could never like each other.

  135. I would give up the guy if a stiuation like that occured. I don’t see why he has to concern himself with my friend. It’s not like he has to be all chummy with him/her so I don’t see why it would matter. If he’s that controlling, then he’s not for me. (I don’t see why a friend would put me in that kind of situation but I would hope he/she has a valid reason)

  136. Stephanie W. says:

    I would definitely choose my best friend. Guys will come and go throughout life, but a really good and true friend is hard to come by and should be cherished!! Thanks for the giveaway!

  137. I’d tell them both to take a hike. People who truly love you won’t force you to make hard decisions like that. (I mean, unless there are other sinister things floating around.)

  138. Well, i can’t imagine that my best friend would be disliked by anybody, because she’s so sweet and gentle, but if a guy actually dared to, he’d have to go. Love is for a moment, friendship for a lifetime.

  139. I would always pick my friend! Thank you so much for hosting this giveaway :)

  140. Samantha Foote says:

    I don’t do steady dating as is, but if I had to choose I would choose the best friend. Which would probably be wrong. I can never seem to keep my friends for very long and so I struggle with even having a best friend. I would still choose the friend because if the guy really loves you then he’ll wait for you, he’ll wait for your friendship to fall apart and then comfort you over it. lol. Friendship means a lot to me, even if I don’t have strong ones. One day I like to think that my boyfriend/future husband will be my best friend.

  141. Meaghan Kells says:

    I would choose my friend.
    It would be much more important to keep a lifelong friendship than a new, just started yesterday, relationship. Especially if they gave me the ultimatum. But I would hope a best friend would t make me choose between them and a new relationship, friends shouldn’t do that.

    So I guess I would evaluate the friendship first, but if it was a good friendship I would put that befoe a brand new relationship.

  142. There are two factors to consider. Which relationship is more likely to last? If it is a boy you are going to marry forever, ditch the friend. The second would be, why do they not like eachother and who really has your best interest at heart? Is the friend or significant other just jealous having to split time, or are they aware of something that you in your love drunk state haven’t noticed. If I trust my friend and we have had a long relationship, I would look further into why she doesn’t like the guy and probably ditch him.

  143. A friend can’t call himself/herself a friend if he/she gives up on the friendship in this situation. So – best friends for life! There’ll still be plenty of love interests in the future but only one true friend ;)

  144. Katherine Beaulieu says:

    I think I would have to give up the guy because guys can come along at any time a best friend takes time to find and I don’t think I can go back to the seventh grade to make a new one. I think my best friend would be happy to hear that answer:P

  145. Katherine says:

    I dont think I coud choose either because if I went with the guy it coud all end and then I woud always regret my choice and the loss of a friend who could get me through it. If I went with my friend then I would eventually end up recenting her as who knows he could have been the one. No if they both care for me they shouldn’t make me choose, life is built apon constant changes and me being able to be a part of both of theirs would be a change they would need to learn. I wouldn’t ask them to be in the same room together or expect any form of communication between them, I would just wish for them to accept that I need them both and that if they accept that it could help in ensuring both relationships are maitained and grow.

  146. I would probably give up the new hot love interest. Long time friends are hard to come by! Thanks for the giveaway!

  147. Ashley Orellana says:

    I would choose my friend!! I mean if we’ve been friends for such a long time easy choice!!

  148. I would choose my best friend so I had a shoulder to cry on after I had to break up with the super hot guy. Best friends are more important than a relationship that may not last, even if the guy is smokin’ hot.

  149. I would pick my best friend every time! Guys come and go, but best friends are forever and they will always stick by you no matter what.

  150. I think it would depend on the boyfriend. If I really loved him, then definitely him. But if we were just starting to go out… Best friends rule.

  151. India Barnett says:

    I would have to choose my best friend over my new boyfriend, because honestly I have always been one to cherish the friends closest to me, and could not bear to lose a friend I’ve known for years over some guy that may not last long at all.

  152. Courteney says:

    Lose the dude! Boys will come and go, but your best friend will always be there for you any time, any day, no matter how long you go without actually seeing each other.

  153. Aoife McCardle says:

    Hello,
    I am 15 and don’t exactly have a boyfriend right now, but if I had to choose between my best friend and my boyfriend, I would choose neither. They shouldn’t give me an ultimatum if I love them both, and to have one without the other would be heart-breaking. Also, if they love me as much as I love them, then they wouldn’t force me to choose, they should want me to be happy. That is if I love them both with all my heart, if the guy is new and just being a jerk then I would definitely pick my best friend. There are plenty of fish in the sea when it comes to guys, but only one best friend.
    I would also like to say that I love your books, I haven’t read anything since Starcrossed that’s been even remotely as riveting! Whenever my best friend and I spot a cute guy, in order to determine how hot he is, we compare him to Lucas, like a rating out of 10 I suppose.
    (Quick Question:- Will you be making a trip to London any time in the future? It would be amazing if you did!)
    Love, Aoife x

  154. Veray Carter says:

    I think I would choose my friend, but it would definitely be a difficult decision. I would be very angry with both for making me choose though as that is very childish. People should be able to get along on some level at least.

  155. i would choose my best friend because a long friendship is worth a guy, no matter how hit he might be.

  156. Honestly , I believe a true friend wouldn’t ask you to choose. There for if I was put in that situation I would have to reevaluate the friendship, and then ask myself would this friend choose me ? If the roles were reversed ? I doubt it, like I said a true friend really would not put you in that situation . They would attempt to work with you , figure something out, though its true the friendship would never be the same, at least it would be there in some form …

    Anyways! I would choose love. You need to follow your heart and find your happiness!

  157. If it came between my friend and a new boyfriend, I’m glad to say that I’d pick my friend. You choose your friends, they are people that have things in common with, they are the brothers and sisters that you got to pick, not the ones you were born with. It’s quite an old and true adage, there are many fish in the sea. If this new boyfriend really wanted to be with me then we’d find a way that my friend or him wouldn’t feel so threatened of each other. The least that they could do is learn to be civil.

  158. I’d choose my friend. No contest. Can’t throw a friendship away for a guy. It’s just not right. Like everyone else said.. there are other guys.

  159. If either of them really cared about me, they wouldn’t make me choose sides. But if I really must make a choice, I would choose my best friend over the new boyfriend.

  160. Juliana Engler says:

    mhmm.. Well I think it all depends on how well your relationship is with both the boy and the friend. If it were me I would have to go with friend, my best friends and I are extremely close and I would not be able to give up our friendship over a boy, however I really think it depends on the persons relationship. But I would go with friends :)

  161. I’d still choose my best friend. At least, it could either stay that way or lead to something more and better. Whereas, a hot and new love interest is just hot and new, which is superficial to me in the long run. :)

  162. always the best friend.
    there are plenty fish in the sea.. not worth risking a long time frienship over it.
    bros before hoes, sisters before misters.

  163. I would choose my friend, but honestly if either of them are making you choose than neither one really deserves to be chosen. A real friend or a boyfriend who really cared wouldn’t make you choose.

  164. I would choose my best friend, because at the end of the day guys come and go, but friends are for life. And you share so much more of yourself with your friend then you ever would with a guy. Besides if the guy truly loved her, he would never make her choose, he would either step back and now their friendship is too important or try and get along with the friend for the girl he wants.
    Really looking forward to the book coming out.
    Rosie

  165. I have to say, I’d choose the friend, because I know we get along, and the new guy, I don’t have that certainty, and if the relationship fails, then I’ve potentially lost them both. Better to ditch the guy and keep the friend. There are more guys out there, but good friends, they’re worth more!

  166. As difficult this decision would be, I would choose my best friend who has been there with me through thick and thin. How else will she have earned the title “best friend”? I would be broken hearted on giving up on this new guy who probably seems to be very promising but if he truly was falling for me, he wouldn’t have had to make me choose and would know how much my best friend means to me and would have done the effort to patch things up or even try to be friendly with her. Though one would think that a best friend should be the one to make that effort, I would still not give them up nor all those years of friendship unless their cause for hating the new guy was beyond unreasonable. If a guy wanted to be with me he has to know that he gets the whole package: me and my motley crew ;) I would never let a guy come between me and my best friend.

  167. I would choose to keep my friend because there are a lot of other potential lovers out there but only one unique friend who shares memories with you of things that I would probably not do around a lover.

    Thanks for the giveaway! :)

    I hope Pickles feels better soon!

  168. I would probably have to drop them both…your friend should stand by you no matter what (even if you aren’t making a decision she agrees with) as for the boyfriend I would have to say the same. If he truly like you he wouldn’t make you choose. You can still keep both of them, they may just have to share your time.

  169. I would keep the friendship. There are plenty of love interests in the world but true friendships are few and far between. Thanks for the awesome giveaway!!

  170. I would choose my best friend definitely! Without a second thought! Friendship means for me everything, and even though I would like this new hottie boyfriend it doesn’t matter. I know my friends and they know me and want me the best, so I think if the boyfriend would be a great guy than hating from my friends’ side would be out of the question! They would like him.

  171. Valeria B says:

    I would probably find a way in which they can have situations that would bring them together or have simpathetic thoughts for each other events concerning me or common things they like and i would hang out with my best friend during the day and with my boyfriend in the night :)

  172. Theresa C says:

    Personally, I would choose the friend. As much as I would love to be in a relationship I don’t know how I would survive without my best friend. She is always there for me and always helping me when I’m feeling down. No matter what it is, and as crazy as it is I can depend on her to be there for me. I’m hoping my friendship will last forever with her, I could never leave that for anyone. Hope you pick me :)

  173. Mavel Diaz says:

    I’m pretty sure I’d pick my best friend. Although I’d talk to them first and really explain to them that they are both important to me. But if even then they can’t get along I’d choose my friend.

    Thanks for the giveaway!

  174. Lisa Harwood says:

    I would pick my friend. She’s one of the best things thats ever happened to me and I never want to lose her, no matter how hot the guy is (even if he was my ultimate perfect dream boyfriend)

  175. I’d give up the boy. Best friends are one in a million. Sure, boyfriends are too, but if the boy really loved you, he would understand, but still be with you in a way that would make it work. maybe never be around the best friend when shes around.

  176. My long time friend. They stick by you when the guys come and go.

  177. I would choose my best friend, I’ve known them for years and I know they would be looking out for me if they told me they didn’t like my boyfriend. After all, best friends are hard to come by and relationships need trust, which is unlikely to happen if someone who really cares about you can’t get along with them.

  178. Renee Grant says:

    I would choose my best friend!! Guys come and go and if he’s can’t agree to be at least civil with my BEST friend then he’s not worth it!!

  179. Kristin Bernet says:

    Hos before Bros! In principle I would choose my friend but in reality I always choose love instead. Now that I’m 30 and a mom I can see that friends come and go but a chance at real love is priceless. I didn’t realize it while in college but I gave up my best friend to be with the guy who eventually became my husband and the father of my child. No friend can compare to the best friend that I ultimately have in my husband!

  180. Never in a million years would i trade my friendship for a guy i had just met. Good trustworthy, supportive friends are really hard to find. Besides if it’s supposed to work out with the guy, and he’s really into you then he will wait for you or better yet, try to show your friend he is a half decent person :)

    As always thanks a tone for the giveaway Josie xx

  181. This would definitely be a hard decision, but I would probably give up the new boyfriend. A long-standing friendship means so much more than a cute crush.

  182. Reem Al-Bakkour says:

    I would choose the best friend, because you know they will always be their for you, and are more understanding. I would totally choose the best friend.

  183. *If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends, make it last forever friendship never ends* Dude, there’s a reason why that song is soooo famous! It’s 100% true! Don’t throw away a good friendship just for a guy you don’t even know that well… Anyways, if the guy really liked you, he wouldn’t make you choose between you and your good friend.

  184. Markie Beazer says:

    You would need both of them in the room for the decision.
    I WOULD CHOSE MY BEST FRIEND, she is always there for the thick and thin. If she was firm in her decision about not accepting him, then there must be a reason. She would either be trying to protect me from some unspoken truth about him.
    A best friend is someone who knows you, when you don’t know yourself. In addition, it will make your friendship stronger.
    Saying that, if the broken hearted doesn’t perk up after losing ‘the boy’, the best friend will see it, and try to make things right. Whether that is by reuniting the couple, cheering her up, or by finding her another man.

  185. I don’t think I could date a guy who hated my best friend so… yeah, I’m going with the bff over the bf on this one.

  186. Stephanie P. says:

    I would choose my best friend if I really REALLY had to choose between the two :)

  187. I would have to choose the friend. A long friendship is a loving relationship and breaking that long lasting bond would be unthinkable.

  188. I would probably choose my friend. Friendships are made to last forever! Plus, you’re more likely to get hurt by your boyfriend than your best friend.

  189. I would probably keep the friend. If you new love interest doesn’t like the friend that you have had in your life a long time then he isn’t right for you. Just my thoughts on that. Thanks for the awesome giveaway. =]

  190. I would definitely choose my BFF over some hottie… as others have pointed out, there are plenty of other guys out there. But none will ever come between me and my friend. Ever.

    Thanks for the chance! ^__^

  191. I have actually been in a situation like this and due to experience I would choose my friend. Boys come and go but friendship lasts for a very long time. A true friend is hard to find so when you have one its good that you appreciate it and who knows you may get a much better boyfriend than the one you had. Friendship is a precious thing

  192. I’ve actually been in this situation before. O.O In the end I chose my best friend, because she’s always been there for me and was loyal and understanding long before the guy showed up. My best friend almost never objects to what I do unless it’s not good for my safety, so when she says something, I take it seriously. I would definitely try to work it out with both of them first, but if it absolutely cannot be diffused, then best friend.

  193. I would have to choose the friendship. Good friends are few and far between. Lifelong friends are even rarer. Thanks for the chance to win!

  194. I would choose my best friend. Friendships lasts forever. There may be a very good reason why your best friend doesn’t get along with your boyfriend. Friendship is something you should cherish because these days good friends are very hard to find. And of the boy/girl really loves you he/she would put the hatred aside and make sure that relationship work. Your best friend knows you more than your best friend and they can see he’s not worth it so they don’t want you to be in pain

  195. Alyssa L. says:

    I would not choose. If my best friend were really my friend than she would never ask me to give up the guy I love. The same goes for my boyfriend, he would never ask me to give up my friend. You just don’t ask the people you love to do that in my opinion. They wouldn’t have to be in the same room together and can have joint custody of me ;)

  196. I would go to my friend and say I chose her. Then go to my hot love interest and tell him I chose him. Then try to balance living two lives at once until they both find out about each other and one of them leaves on his/her own. Haha.

  197. Agnes Ledbetter says:

    I would dump them both.

  198. Maryrose Moore says:

    I honestly would pick my best friend, because if a guy really loves me, he should understand what my best friend means to me. A hot guy would come and go, but your best friend was the one with you through all the ups and downs of life. Your best friend was the one who helped you through pretty much everything so its not worth it to give up all that just because some hot new guy came along. I would pick my bestfriend any day than a hot new boyfriend.

  199. Depends…if I thought the relationship was going somewhere I would choose my boyfriend. If I didn’t know then I would definitely choose my friend.

  200. If forced to choose (not that anyone should ever have to be put in the situation) I’d choose my best friend. You shouldn’t throw something like that away over a guy — no matter how hot he is. But honestly, I’d rather not choose at all. If she were my real friend she wouldn’t try to make me choose, especially if you love that someone else. The same goes for him… he would never ask me to give up my best friend (or at least he shouldn’t). You just don’t ask the people you love to do something like that.

  201. I would def. pick my bestfriend. After all you just met this guy, and she/he has been your friend for ages. Loyalty, respect, and compassion has been established in your friendship, whereas you haven’t had a long itme to establish all of that in a short time with a guy… hot or not! Besides I trust my friends and if they aren’t getting along maybe she sees something that I can’t, because I am to close to him or the situation.

  202. I would choose my best-friend. There are always different (hot) boys but you can never replace someone who has been in your life forever. But, I don’t think that I would look at my friend the same way, that would be really selfish. I wouldn’t ever do that to a friend, unless her boyfriend is a drug addict or something equally bad. Then if my boyfriend really missed me then he could learn how to deal with her. What’s that saying? “Sisters before Misters.” :)

  203. If the best friend was a good best friend (which actually doesn’t work because a true best friend wouldn’t demand you break up with your boyfriend because she doesn’t like him), I’d choose the best friend over the boyfriend. Or maybe I’d get mad enough at both of them for giving me ultimatums like that and not just letting me be that I might take a break from both of them.

  204. Honestly I might have to reevaluate both relationships because no one who truly cared about me world force me to make a decision like that. I would want some valid reasons from my friends, and I just don’t like him does not count. Now the friends I have, we have been together so chances are they’d have some valid stuff and I would choose them over him. Because honestly, the friends I have are the kind that are true no matter what and are a rarity in this world. Any possible guy, would have to accept them in my life. If he could not, we’ll I’m a lot like my friends so if he would not except them, he won’t accept me for very long either.

  205. Thats a hard choice! I think I would have to go with my best friend, although I would hope she would be more supportive than this. It would be a tough time, turning your back on new love when your probably more than a little angry at your friend. But friends are so important, and I’m pretty sure there’s a rule out there somewhere about sticking with your best friend! And I know, if it was my best friend, she would had done everything trying to get along with this guy, just for me. That’s what friends are for. :)

  206. I would propose to spend time with them separately as the last option, and if they decline I would drop them both for trying to make me choose between two persons as if they were different shirts. “Should i wear the red one or the blue one? Should I dump my friend or my boy?” No way.

  207. Susan Updegraft says:

    I actually had this happen. I had known my best friend since high school, and when I met my now husband we were in college. They tolerated each other, but definitely it was more my husband who didn’t care for her. He was never rude, and never really went out of his way to be inconsiderate, but I could tell they were never going to be close. It went on for several years, but my best friend was the one who walked away from me. I think it gave her the excuse she wanted to move on. I have been married 28 years and together 33. I think that what Stina said is absolutely true, a true friend wouldn’t put you in that position. She would support you, and be by yourside. Unless their is drugs, or abuse then support is the only thing that should be expected. I think my husband saw her selfishness for what it was, and I was willing to overlook it. I would never change the choice. Though I don’t think that I ever made a choice between them it ended up that way. But if I had made the choice for the best friend over my husband, I don’t think I would have ended up with either. Never would I put a guy before a girl if it were casual, but I knew when I met my husband that he was the one. And a true honest to goodness good friend wouldn’t ask it. And if in the end the friend was right she would be there to help you put the pieces back.

  208. if i had been best friends with the person for a really long time then i would get rid of the boyfriend but if the best friend was a frenemy I would stick with the boyfriend. But if neither of them were great I would go find a new best friend and a new love interest.

  209. Jacklin Updegraft says:

    I would pick my friend over this guy. No guy is worth losing such a great friendship over. My friend is a good judge of character and if she doesn’t like him then there is something I’m not seeing. The guy I end up with is going to love my best friends and be friends with them. My best friend has been through so much with me that I could never just toss her aside for some random guy!

  210. Maybe my best friend, though if she was my best friend she shouldn´t ask me to choose without a good reason or explanation.

  211. Give up the boy. My best friend has their reasons (and I doubt I’d be bffls with someone who is clingy/purposefully wanting me to not leave my comfort zones) and at the end of the day I’ll trust those instincts more.

  212. Best Friend. No doubt about it, I would every time choose my best friend over a new hot love interest.

  213. Courtney Pierce says:

    That could be tough in some cases. However, your best friend is usually someone you have known you’re whole life and a boyfriend might just be someone you met two days ago skydiving. Who knows. Maybe you could have met your boyfriend a few years ago. In that case it might be harder to make the decision. Do I want to keep my best friend who has helped me through every heart break, every celebrity crush, every stressful situation, or, do I want to have this guy that may or may not be the one? Although, I’m a hopeless romantic and firm believer in true love, that boyfriend might not be the person you will spend your whole life with.

    That would be a hard decision, but I think that at the end of the day, my best friend would be the one I can turn to. They could mend your broken heart easily. So, I’d have to go with best friend…final answer!:)

  214. I think both would suck if they force me to choose. A real friend or bf wouldn’t force me to choose…

  215. I’d like to say this is an easy decision but I’m a bit of a hopeless romantic so I would probably REALLY want to give a new romance a shot, but in the end I have some really amazing friends that I’ve known since childhood and I know I would definitely choose my friends over love if I had to.

  216. Aimee Nelson says:

    I would choose the bff esp if it was a new boyfriend! Its hard to find good and trusting friends, But I dont think a real friend would make you choose, they would always be there! I dont know if there is much that can happen that can break the true bonds of a true friendship!

  217. I think it would definitely be a really hard choice. First of all, if my boyfriend made me choose between him and my best friend then he isn’t someone I would want to be with at all. But at the same time, if my best friend made me choose between her and my boyfriend, she probably isn’t a very good best friend either. I would be tempted to choose neither of them in this sort of situation, but if I really had to choose between a long and wonderful friendship and a new and hot love interest, I would pick my best friend, because I would never give up my best friend for a boy.

  218. Wow everyone is going for their friends… maybe I’m, the only one but I would choose the hot guy, because if she was truly my BEST FRIEND, and we had a long and wonderful friendship she would respect my decision, obviously if she feels something is dodgy with the bloke i would listen, and the analyse the info… but if she feels that our “long and wonderful” friendship is worth a hot guy, then something about her is dodgy.

    Josephine Angelini, i blame you … if your books were drugs, I’d be a Class A addict refusing rehab, feed my addiction, or let me starve until the 6th of June, all I know is that I will get my hands on the book… somehow!

  219. Ashley K. says:

    Honestly, I do not know who I would choose. I would like to say that I would choose my best friend because that seems like the ethical choice, but in reality I feel like I would choose the guy. Especially, if I knew my love interest was sticking around for forever, and hope that my best friend would see that and come around. Nevertheless, I think I wouldn’t know the choice I would make until faced with the situation.

  220. Depends… if that man you find is your soulmate – could you really give up happiness for the rest of your life? A true friend wouldn’t make you choose. I may not be in the majority, but I choose the guy.

  221. I think that I need to dump my boyfriend and find a new best friend, because if either of them can’t get over their hate for each other for me, then they clearly don’t care enough about the position they put me in and didn’t consider my opinions. Sucks for me either way, but I’d rather be around people who support me so I can support them and not be having any guilty feelings.

  222. Filia Oktarina says:

    I would choose my friend over my lover. But real friend will not force make you choose….

  223. Wow talk about a hard question. I guess it would completely depend on each person. I guess I would need to figure out who is the true issue and why they don’t get along. If everyone else isn’t liking the boyfriend that I would get rid of him, but if others didn’t understand why I was friends with the friend that I would probably get rid of the friend.

  224. Christina says:

    In this situation, I would chose my best friend because there’s a reason that they’re my best friend. They’ve always been there for me, always tried to keep my best interests at heart and only wants the best for me. Years of friendship with friends should not be thrown away because of some new, hot guy on the scene. You never know how long he would stick around for, however your best friend will always be there for you because they’ve already proved by the years of friendship and love that they’ll always be there for you. No matter what.

  225. Arni Dyan says:

    No matter what guy, I’d give him up for my bestfriend.

  226. I would choose my best friend. No guy is worth losing a best friend. If they are truly your best friend though, they would never make you choose. A true friend would try to make it work between them because they care. On the other hand, the boyfriend should never make you choose either. It they both truly want to be a part of your life they would try their best to make things work because they care.

  227. If it was a new love interest, I would have to chose my friend. I can only imagine how horrible I would feel if i had dumped my best friend only to get dumped or dump the guy a few weeks later. If it was an established long term relationship I’d really have to think about it and chances are the friend would go.

  228. Avery Vann says:

    In that situation I would tell both my best friend and boyfriend that if they cared about me like I care about them then they would put aside their anger and be respectful of each other when in my presence. Cause if they truly cared about me they wouldn’t make me pick between the two of them. So if they wouldn’t put it aside I wouldn’t choose either of them.

  229. Sophia Fosdick says:

    I would definitly leave my boyfriend. Friendship will always come over new relationships, especially with your bestfriend that you have been best friends with for years. Also, if your best friend, who is then probably most like you, doesnt like him then there has to be something wrong with him, your friend can see through the hotness and sweetness to see the real him, he is not trying to impress her so she sees him. So I would definitly choose my friend over a new hot boyfriend anyday. Besides there are plenty of hot guys in the world but not alot of best friends.

  230. It depends on the details of the situation and what caused the animosity between them. If it’s just some petty issues they have with one another, a true friend would never make you choose. At the same time, if he’s the love of your life and truly deserves you, he wouldn’t make you choose either. If they are both making you choose, I say send them both on a hike.

  231. Josephine thanks for the fantastic giveaway, but your really making us sweat it out for it huh LOL

    My answer:- Neither! If both of them are making me choose it means neither of them really love me enough to think of my happiness. They don’t even need to interact so what need would they have to make me choose? If they continue to make me choose, it’ll be the one that’s pressuring me to choose the most that I’d get rid off, as obviously my happiness is not a consideration to them.

  232. Sarah Handrich says:

    I think I would choose the friend that I have been close to longest. Since it is just a new relationship, it obviously isn’t love.

  233. Delena salvatore(gab) says:

    I would choose my best friend. No matter if they were a boy or girl they are still the best friend & they have been there more the boyfriend has. Also if he asks you to give up your friend he is not a very good boyfriend.

  234. My choice would all have to depend on how much I like my best friend and boyfriend. If my boyfriend wasn’t pretty much everything I’ve wished for or had some serious issues, my best friend would definitely come first. I think most people would pick their best friend first anyways. If I felt that both people were people I couldn’t live without, I’d try to make things at least almost comfortable. It’s just a situation that has cause for a lot of though :] Thank you

  235. Kim DeFonce says:

    Since I am Angie’s oldest fan (far older than she), I can say that I have lived this scenario out in real life! I chose the boy!! I chose romance and thought I had found the love of my life. Well there were many years of love and good times but in the end (16 years later), I realized he wasn’t who I really thought he was, and I walked away. I ended up without the boy and without the friend. If I had it to do over again… I’d still choose the boy because I’m a hopeful romantic. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer when it comes to questions of the heart. <3

    • rachel bull says:

      Finally i completely agree with you and you are the only person i seen on here that picked the guy like i did i totally believe in true love and that its the most powerful thing and thats it worth it in the end :)

  236. I’m definitely in the camp that there’s no reason that anyone should have to chose. Seriously, that’s not fair on the part of the best friend or boyfriend. But, if it came down to it, and like I could only save one, I’d go with the best friend. Years of good friendship outweigh a (new) relationship. Now if it was my husband or something, who knows!

  237. Victoria Zumbrum says:

    I would pick my friend who has been with me through everything. No man is worth losing your friend over. Tore923@aol.com

  238. Kelley McElyea says:

    My boyfriend and besty do hate each other actually. However, in the case of your situation, it would depend on if the boy was just a “hot love interest” or my forever special someone. But honestly either way if you somehow chose one or the other they should love you and be there for you anyway, right?

  239. Elaine Dang says:

    That’s a really hard one and the one question I have to think is if they both really loved me then wouldn’t they want what makes me happy therefore the others presence and if I had to decide it depends is the boyfriend somebody that I know would be happy to spend the rest with my life with and does he feel the same way or is he just something for right now and how long have I known my friend is she a friend that I’ve just met or is she somebody whom I’ve known since birth and has always stuck with me till thick and thin. In my case it would be the person whom I could always talk to , rely on, lays there for me, be myself around, and at the end of the day cannot imagine living without that is the person I choose

  240. Hi Josie and Happy 2013! May Pickles get well soon :)

    My choice would be my best friend. I’ve had terrible experiences already making wrong choices and I’m sure by now that a good friendship is priceless.

    Hugs!

  241. Heather Heslip Alexander says:

    That is such a hard question but I would have to say goodbye to my girlfriend. Young friendships generally don’t last into adulthood, whereas a real relationship can. Not only that but a REAL friend wouldn’t ask you to choose, she would just avoid the bf.

  242. KJ Santarelli says:

    I would SO choose my best friend over ANY boyfriend. True friendship is 100 times as important as a romantic relationship.

  243. Renee Sherman says:

    I would choose my friend, I had a situation when I was younger and it almost ruined our friendship apart. My best friend past away from cancer and I miss her everyday. Take your friendships seriously :).

  244. I would definitely choose my best friend over a boy any day, you can’t replace years of friendship!
    Saying that, I don’t think that you should have to choose, a true friend should respect your decision and if a boy is making you give up your best friend for him, he is definitely not worth it.

  245. Having to choose between someone that could possibly be my “soulmate” and my best friend? That’s something I have actually gone through. At the time my boyfriend had already succeeded in making me love him and my best friend was, well, my best friend. She knew everything about me and we’d been through everything together, but she always pointed me to do something bad. In the end I chose the boy, which ended up being the right thing because now I’ve been with him for three years and my ex-best friend is still making bad decisions while spreading rumors about me.

  246. Rachel Burkhardt says:

    I would give them both up. If you truly love someone, you should be selfless. Asking a best friend or a significant other to give up someone that they care about simply because they don’t like the person isn’t being a good person, friend, or significant other. If they asked that of you, neither one deserves to have you in their life. I would never ask that of someone, but rather would be the bigger person and get over my dislike for the good of my friend. There are too many bad things in life to waste time on petty hate and dislike.

  247. cianna fernandez says:

    I would definitely choose my friend. Men come and go but friends like family last forever.

  248. Caroline Cartwright says:

    I would choose the friend! If the boy is just a new addition then it’s a bad sign if he’s already causing drama!

  249. Honestly, I hope this would never happen. I would want to be able to have a relationship with both and live happily ever after. (Unless their was a real, major issue, I would pray that my friend/boyfriend cared about me enough to not put me in this position) However, since this is a hypothetical scenario my answer would be: I’d drop him like it’s hot! Years of a good friendship with a person who has been there with you through it all is way more important than a guy in my book. I had the pleasure of meeting my best friend/ long lost sister my freshman year of high school. Along with my best guy friend a couple of months later. I couldn’t imagine losing that and having no one to talk to (seriously talk to I mean, about anything), no one to listen and give me advice, no one to have a conversation with through a single look. And, all the hilariously funny inside jokes and conversations we’ve had would be a tragedy. My life would not be the same. School would not nearly be as interesting. In the long run, guys come and go, crushes are fleeting (unless, you know, he is ‘the one’), but a good, quality friend(s) that will always have your back is something that should not just be tossed away and should always be cherished… :)

  250. Kami Bryant says:

    That is a tough one but I would have to say I would pick my friend. Guys comes and go but a best friend is forever.

  251. Ivanna Adams says:

    ” I would like to know what you would do in this situation. Your best friend and your new boyfriend (or girlfriend) HATE each other. You realize that there is no way to fix it, and both of them agree that you have to make a choice. You have to give up either your long and wonderful friendship with your friend, or the new (and hot) love interest. Which do you choose?”

    That is probably one of the hardest, most real life question I have been asked. There are a fews things I would have to consider before I make any final decision. First I would have to question my feelings for my boyfriend if I feel that I am totally head over heels about this guy I would expect my best friend to support me and to be happy for me no matter what the cost, including her personal feelings towards my boyfriend. As a person who has been the best friend in this situation, I have had to recognize my friend’s feelings for the guy and have a long a deep talk with the guy and tell him, ” I know that you and my friend are dating even though everyone knows how I feel about you but if you make her happy I can at least tolerant you not meaning we are friends not meaning we are enemies but as long as you are making her happy you are making me happy and I cannot hate you because of that now if you do something stupid and break this balance I WILL go back to being the greatest adversary you have ever met”. That would be the dream to have a friend who loves you so much that they are willing to sacrifice their personal feelings for your happiness, that is what makes them best friends. In this way you would end up closer to both your best friend and boyfriend. Secondly I would have to try and see where these relationship will take me. In the case of my boyfriend, I have no idea where the relationship with him might lead to it might just be like a one night stand or a love that last until eternity, and hey who wouldn’t love a hot love interest. If I feel like we don’t click or have some sort of special connection there would be no point in me wasting my time chasing after a fantasy. With my best friend I will hope that it will last forever, but sometimes things happen and people change even though I would trust her, that is all that I could do there is no way I would know why she is my friend or if she is just friends with me because of what she thinks I can do for her. Third I would have to put myself in the shoes of the opposite person: What if I left my best friend for a guy? What would my best friend feel? Would that make me a best friend back? What if I left my destined to be lover for my best friend for now? How would the guy feel after this rejection?
    Overall it all would depend on the situation, if the guy you were met was meant to be you husband or just a temporary thing. If the answer is him being a temporary thing you would have to ask you self if you having somebody who will support you no matter what all of your life is worth being put down to someone you cannot see yourself spending the rest of your life with. But if I had to choose I would choose my best friend. Personally my best friend has been with me through thick and thin and has become more like a sister than anything. I would trust her with my life and also I would believe that she has my best interest at heart. And also since this is a newly founded relationship I do not have the same level of trustfulness with my new boyfriend as I have with long time friend.
    As they say sisters before misters and as Beyoncé says ” I can have another you by tomorrow so don’t you ever for a second get to thinking you’re irreplaceable”, because there are other yummy, healthy, and tasty fish in the sea.

    ——Sorry for the long post, I just had A LOT to say because this is a very tricky situation——–
    Love the Avid Reader of the amazingly, incredibly, and wonderful Starcrossed Trilogy,
    Ivanna N. Adams

    • Ivanna Adams says:

      oh and also a late add: It is very hard to find and make best friends usually most people find a few for life if they are lucky, but girlfriends and boyfriends are a dime a dozen.

  252. Laura-Kate Duffy says:

    Unfortunately I have had to choose like this before, neither asked me to choose between them but I knew I had to. I definitely made the right choice by picking my best friend. I could never love anyone like I love her (in a different way of course) but I’m sure it all depends on the individual situation! As for me partners may come and go but best friends are for life. She’s seen me through the worst period of my life and still supports me now and never asks for anything in return, a true “Goddess” if you ask me ;) and I can safely say I’d do the same for her any day of the week.
    Laura-Kate
    x

  253. Well, my first response after reading the question was, “Why do they hate each other?”
    I mean if it’s a serious issues, then it depends. What if I disagree with my friend?
    My instinct is to choose my friend, but what if my friend is the one being a jerk?
    And I hate being forced into having to choose. That’s just so juvenile. If they really just don’t like each other and my best friend is actually a great friend, I’d choose my friend. However, I’d be sure to let them know that they don’t get to pick and choose my dates.
    It gets all the more complicated if the boyfriend in question is a long term thing. If my friend can’t make and effort and be happy for me when I found a long term partner, then really how good a friend is she?
    UGH. I don’t know. Generally, speaking I’d pick my friend but it really, really depends.

  254. Charlotte says:

    I would definitely dump my boyfriend as I having a best friend is a lot more important as you can have a lot of good times and memories together. Even if the boy was really hot, I would still dump them unless it was true love, but I highly doubt that it would be in my teens. I would dump this boy to hang with my best friend as friendship is more important than one boy I may go out with, even if they are hot.

  255. Alex Yang says:

    Given the context, I would assume this ‘hatred’ is backed by uncompromisable reasons…I would most definitely choose the best friend due to the history, memories, and happiness that we would have already shared. Considering the time being ‘long,’ our friendship would have survived many mishaps and bumps along the road in the past, and that bond would more likely continue to grow stronger. The context for the girl/boy-friend is ‘new and hot;’ if they’re new, there would probably not be such a strong and developed bond, not to mention there wouldn’t be much of a chance that I’d be in love with them (not to mention that there are less memories to grasp onto). Just because they’re ‘hot’ doesn’t provide any reason to choose them over someone who has been by my side and stuck with me for so long-I would probably be lost without my best friend, not to mention I wouldn’t be able to handle to guilt that would follow.

  256. Boyfriends come and go. A true best friend is impossible to replace. I would keep the best friend and get rid of the guy if they couldn’t find a way to co-exist.

  257. Flavia Claire says:

    That is a real pain in the bum. I’d be so mad at both of them that probably neither would want me on their side for their stupid doggy fight. Even though she wouldn’t deserve it… I’d stick with my best friend. Unless she was just acting like a bitch because she’s jealous. In that case I’d wonder why we’re still friends

  258. I basically had this problem, since the two of my best friends didn’t fancy the guy I was dating, but luckily they didn’t hate each other and although some evil glares were exchanged, nothing big happened. Once we broke up, the girls gave me a party, heh. And yeah, that guy was great as a friend, but not as a love interest as I later realized. I got off pretty easily, to tell you the truth. But if they were to hate each other and I’d be put in front of an ultimatium, I’d probably choose my friends, because there’s no point in losing them when there are so many guys in this world, but only so little people who you can truly trust. Also, when I was with that guy, I didn’t hang out with my friends as much so the finally stopped calling me to hang out with them, because I was always with a different crowd, so yeah, I missed them more than I would have missed the guy. It felt lonely. But when we broke up, we stayed friends and my friends were happy that they got to see me more often than before after that. However, there’s also the case that if my friends truly want me to be happy, would they even put me in this position to choose between them and the guy? Yeah.. Luckily my friends didn’t, but if the were to do this, it’d suck. In the end, it’s a hard question to answer to, but I think I’d choose my friends, wouldn’t trade them for the whole world:)

  259. First the person should figure out why they hate each other. second the person has to really think about is their friend good for them?is the boy(girl) friend good to them? in my experience normally the friendship is chosen because the boy(girl)friend is a jerk and not good for you but a good friend of mine best friend was the one being a jerk and the friendship wasn’t good for her so she chose the boy and they’ve been together for 2 years . But you really shouldn’t have to chose in the first place, they should both want you to be happy.

  260. Alexandra says:

    I would choose my best friend, of course:-)

  261. I think that if the girl was really, truly my best friend, she’d support me no matter what. I happen to not care for the guy my best friend is dating and she knows it but I’d never do anything to break them up as long as he’s not hurting her and making her happy. So, I’d choose the guy.

  262. I would say to both of them that they are silly and that they should grow up. If they can’t get along, this doesn’t mean that I have to choose but that they have to change their attitude.

  263. Even though I’ve never been in a relationship before-and even if I have been in one-, I would most likely choose my best friend. A true friend is hard to find and considering all the moments we’ve been through, how can I leave my best friend for some guy that just became my boyfriend recently? If that guy really loves me, then he should at least try harder to get along with my best friend, not make me choose between them.

  264. Rashika Bahl says:

    I wouldn’t chose either because neither are worth it if they cannot bare each other for me.
    Best friends are supposed to be there for you no matter what and if my best friend has a good reason for hating my love interest that I should know about I’d like to know it. It may tell me something about the guy I don’t know. Even if i am making a mistake he/she should be there for me no matter what because isn’t that what friendship is about?
    The love interest, if he really cares about me he wouldn’t be crazy enough to ask me to ditch my best friend, no matter how good the love interest, you cannot survive without your best friend because the love interest cannot replace your best friend. If he and my best friend have a disagreement I don’t see why they cannot fix it and if they cannot they don’t need to drag me in the middle of this.
    Although if i had to make a choice in the end i would chose my best friend because i know my best friend well enough to know that his/her reason wouldn’t be stupid, they are only looking out for me.

  265. Oooh, tough question.
    Friendship is one of the most important things to me but so is love.
    I suppose it would all depend on how serious the relationship was but i would definitely try to keep both.
    You’re best friend may not be your lover and you lover may not be your best friend but you do need both in your life whether they like it or not.
    I have friends whose partners i don’t like but it’s not my place to interfere with their relationship. I am a friend and will always be there no matter what.
    I also have friends who don’t like my partner but again, they don’t have to like him. They are there for me regardless of who i date.
    You know what they say. Friends and lovers don’t mix. :)

  266. My best friend, of course. I’ve known her for a long, long time, shared secrets with her, been with her through tough and soft, cried, screamed and laughed with and at her, and gave her something I’d rarely give a person.. TRUST, and she gave me hers in return. Finding a best friend is a rare occasion, especially having the environment and stereotypes as enemies in doing so. You can’t just meet a person and be your best friend in a split second..it takes time. It’s not worth the risk breaking years and years of unconditional friendship.

    What’s a hot guy anyway, you can find a hot guy everywhere, anytime. Yes, of course, I’d be sad letting the hot guy go.. but my best friend has a better judgement, she knows what is and who is the best for me and she’ll even help me in finding a new one.. Or make me see who’s the better one.

  267. Gabriella says:

    Not an easy question to answer. I would drop both of them, a best friend should be happy for you especially if he’s hot and new. She should give you a chance to find more out about him. And if the boyfriend cared about you he should understand the long time relationship you have with this person. So if someone puts you to a choice niether one is Worth holding on too.

  268. definitely my best friend..she is always supporting me even i do some mistakes and that’s are friends for. boys can come and go but a true friend can’t be so easily forget

  269. I think it all depends on the reason they hate each other. If it’s just a case that they don’t like each other then I don’t think I could pick either of them for giving me the ultimatum in the first place. If they both cared for me they would try to put their differences aside.

  270. Sophie Wilson says:

    I would difinitely have to think about it first. If I KNOW in my heart that he IS the one, my soulmate, the love of my life or whatever you want to frigging call it, I would be seriously pissed off and dissapointed at my best friend. But If I do know that he isn’t the one. The one that gives me Butterflies everytime I look at him, think of him or hear someone say his name… then it would still be a seriously hard decision to make. As my boyfriend I expect him to support me, but as my best friend that is something I would do for her, and expect her to be here for me, in return. I mean: I would pick my best friend over a boyfriend any day. She allways suports me, makes me laugh when I really just want to cry, and she is always there for me, which in my opinion matters a lot more than being hot and a good kisser. But If my best friend were the one pushing me, telling me to choose, I would have to overthink it. Has she done this to me before? Is he “the one”? Is my boyfriend pushing me, too? Well, either way I think I WOULD go with my best friend. That’s just how we roll…. okay no, but seriously: best friends hold to one another. I’m sure I’d find another hot boyfriend one day, and then she’d be there for me to support me. So: my best friend. <3

    btw. Just as a side note, I love your books. I don't think there is another way to put it, but your books are seriously the best books i have read. Ever. And I've read them many times, I seriously alredy know the lines while I'm reading them, even know what happens on this and this page a couple of times… I lost count after about a thousand times, but that's just how many times I've read, and adored them. And like many others I've fallen for Lucas as hard as Helen has. I would Love to win the ARC Giveaway, but If i don't then I'll just wait until may, until I buy the English, German and Spanisch (might even buy the italian one, depending on how fast I'm learning :) ) version of Goddess… gotta adore it in every Language, ya' know? :D I really hope you have a great year, and lots of love from Germany :)

    Sophie xx

  271. nurmawati djuhawan says:

    i would choose my best friend…

  272. I would almost always pick the friend because a friend that’s been with me that long is probably going to be there the rest of my life. If she’s a good friend, she probably knows me better and has better reason not to like the guy than vice versa.

    Now, if the girl is just being stupid and really has no legitimate reason not to like my man than perhaps the friendship isn’t as solid and I once thought so…it would kind of depend on the reasons each one had for hating each other.

  273. I would choose the friend! Having known the friend for eons, I would trust her judgment or instinct. But I would still ask for her reasons though!

  274. Carey Tran says:

    I say.. BUILD A BRIDGE AND GET OVER IT! This hatred will not last forever and if they are so selfish to put me into the middle of their relationship, i would leave both of them until they sort it out together.

  275. Miriam Werner says:

    I’d probalby choose my best friend even if it is an extremley hard decision to make. The passion of love is huge, but who would you talk to about your boyfriend? Somehow you need both. If the friendship from you and your best friend survived for more than a few years, it will hold much longer. Even though love and romance seems very tempting, I ‘d stick to my best friend because there will be more than one hot guy, but there will only be one very best friend.

  276. Miriam Werner says:

    Late Input: I’m not really someone who goes forward with people. I stick with friends that I know and you never know if your boyfriend understands you like a girl would

  277. I have the bestest friend in the whole world so I would never pick a boy over her. I would definately question why she was making me choose though. Perhaps it would be an issue that could be resolved. If the boy was serious about me i’m sure he would understand and try to overcome any obstacles in our way.

    Can’t wait for the new book!

    Lou x

  278. Jay Swift says:

    I would choose my best friend, she’s the best and wouldn’t choose anyone else!

  279. Rachel Chipperfield says:

    Friends will always be more important, if the guy (or girl) really loved you they would understand that so would never expect you to give up your closest and oldest friend. X

  280. Unfortunately I picked the guy.. To be fair he was one of my best friends also so when we started dating it felt right. However, because we were so close it pushed my girl best friend to the side. They made me decide and I picked him because he was both a friend and lover.

    Looking back now I realise it was the wrong decision. I was with him for 7 years but i could never forgive him for allowing me to lose my friend. She wasn’t the only one he forced out of my life. When I finally broke up with him I got in touch with my old friend but things would never be the same as she knew i didn’t pick her. He, ironically, turned out to be the jerk she always said he was. But because he treated me like a goddess in the start of our relationship I was over the moon.

    Ah well, live and learn and all that!

  281. I would totally choose my best friend. Hot boyfriend is a passing thing – because if he was the love of my life then he and my best friend wouldn’t hate each other. And my best friend is awesome and wouldn’t make me choose. So, since he’s both passing and the one being demanding he’s gone.

  282. I would always choose my friend because there would be more between us, like more memories and laughs and love. Besides, boyfriends come and go.

  283. I would ignore them both until they both stop being jerks. Sometimes you gotta compromise! If that doesnt work…Who knows and if they make you choose, then they aren’t really a good friend or boyfriend anyway!

    Janina

  284. omg it’s so difficult but i think that if despite trying to work things out with them don’t work i think that i would have to choose my friend because friendship is more important to me.

  285. Imel Cullen says:

    I will give up either my long and wonderful friendship with my friend

  286. Well, you don’t, of course!! If they both cared about you as much as they say, they’ll totally understand it when they finally discover that you’ve been lying to them both behind their backs…. Right?! Right? *Sigh* I’m sure that facade wouldn’t last for long, but I would fight for for the guy if I was in love and I would fight for my best friend. If they can’t understand that, then neither of them should be in my life.

    SERIOUSLY can’t wait for Goddess!

  287. No matter how hot this guy is, and how deliciously amazing he is, I would stick with my friend. Boys aren’t what’s important, my friends are and if they didn’t get on for a real reason, I wouldn’t be with him, I would stick with my friends and eat ice cream, hoping that someone as delicious and who gets on with my friend, comes along to sweep me of my feet

  288. I would probably not give up my best friend for a boy but thats maybe because I haven’t really found someone(a boyfriend) I would give up any important part of my life for. and my best friend is definitly a really important part of my life!

  289. Hannah McCormick says:

    I would give up the boy as I couldn’t throwaway years of friendship for a boy. I would only be as a last resort though, I would do everything I could not to give up either.

  290. As some people sais earlier, if your best friend makes you chose between her and the (maybe) love of your live (if it’s just some flirt then well… okay) then there is something wrong, but the same is for the boyfriend who asks of you to give up your best friend. That is not good for a relationship. We never know who will actually stay with us in the end, but we should not base those decisions on what other people think about our friends or lovers.
    But I guess if i absolutely had to pick one of them I would probably go for my friend, at least if the boyfriend is still “new” and we haven’t gotten to know each other completely (with all the negative sides there are) because I know my best friend loves me for who I am and even if my boyfriend seems to do the same (or even thinks it himself), he can’t know yet. :)

  291. Samreen khan says:

    I wouldn’t want to hurt anyone.If that love interest was worth it, and I think it would last for a very long time then yes, maybe I’d choose him. But I’m only fifteen so that doesn’t seem likely. Not going to happen. Where as friends, theyre special, different. In that case I would choose friendship over a relationship. It’s hard to find a good friend, and I have one so it would be stupid for me to give that up like it didn’t matter

  292. I would choose the friend. Guys come and go, and if he was the one he wouldn’t hate my best friend.

  293. Claudia Garcia says:

    I would choose neither. If my friend and boyfriend truly cared for me they would never put me in such a position. I would never choose one over the other. If they can’t get along the I’m ok with that as long as they don’t do a tug of war game with me. I have been in a position where a boyfriend and a friend didn’t like each other and so I made things clear. If they didn’t want to hang out with each other then fine, but my time would be split evenly with both of them. If you really love someone, you would never deny them anything whether it was friendship or love.

  294. Oooh, that is a tough one. I would think that they both would want to see me happy and get over it. If they couldn’t then I wish I was strong enough to walk away and say screw them both.

  295. I couldn’t answer the question Josie posted. Due to the fact that I’m a fiercely independant person I couldn’t imagine myself agreeing to be placed in a situation where I would be forced to choose. My stubborness would end with me chosing neither boyfriend or best friend. Hopefully this would end up showing them how unfair this situation is as they are both meant to love/care for me and this situation is just hurting me which is something I would strive not to do to anyone I love.

    How do I end up making an impossible choice and placing my stubborness aside? I asked myself a different question. Which of those two people would know, with every fibre of their being, how to care for me when I’m sad and heartsore? Hands down that would be my best friend. The person who’s seen me through a dozen bad boys and knows just how to make me smile….

    I know my answer’s corny but anyway…

  296. Brittany Williamson says:

    I know the “appropriate” answer would be to dump your boyfriend and choose your best friend, but I think that it is not as easy as this. As you get older those BFF bracelets become more irrelevant and you start to understand that some friendships do not stay the same or last forever, (much like the situation we see in Dreamless; Claire and Helen are pulling away from each other a little more now because Claire devotes more energy into her relationship with Jason). That being said I think this situation would probably have many different outcomes depending on certain people’s personalities. If this had happened to me I suppose that I would have to first understand where this apparent mutual hatred came from, even if there was no way to fix it. Because it could just be that my best friend feels that I am rejecting her by spending more time now with my boyfriend. Or my new boyfriend feels threatened by my closeness to my best friend and feels that he can never have me completely to himself. But in the end if there was absolutely no way that this could be resolved, then I suppose that I would have to walk away from them both and hope that in time they realise that it was extremely foolish and childish of them to ask me to choose (…but now and then I would still probably sneakily text my best friend to see how she is).

  297. Have to say I would choose my friend over a boy. The way I see it, if the boy thinks I’m really worth it, once he knows my choice, he would find a way to get along with my best friend! :)

  298. I would choose my best friend. Guys come and go but who will always be there for you when the guys are gone? Your friend. What if things didn’t work out in the end with the guy. Not only would you be boyfriend-less but also friend-less. Although I would like to think that they would both just get over themselves and try to just deal with each other

  299. I know the easy question is get rid of your boyfriend and i understand that but what if you are truly devoted to your boyfriend and he is to you? But I’m going with my bff!! I’m old enough to know that my bond with my friend is strong and we’ll never fall apart over a boy!There are plenty of boys out there and maybe he might not be as perfect as your previous boyfriend you’ll still love him and he’ll love you aswell!! Boyfriends come and go but best friends are for life!!

  300. I would chose my bestfriend because they have been there for me longer than this new boyfriend. Bofriends come and go but bestfriends stay close forever. Xx <3

  301. I know the easy answer is get rid of your boyfriend and i understand that but what if you are truly devoted to your boyfriend and he is to you? But I’m going with my bff!! I’m old enough to know that my bond with my friend is too strong and we’ll never fall apart over a boy!There are plenty of boys out there and maybe he might not be as perfect as your previous boyfriend but you’ll still love him and he’ll love you aswell!! I’m young so I Iam aware that I have a very slight chance in marrying the guy!! Boyfriends come and go but best friends are for life!!

  302. No matters how hot he is… I would choose my best friend… but probably they should solve the problem for me :)

  303. I think that I would dump my boyfriend and choose my best friend.

  304. Ok…
    Well I think both are very important to us.
    Personally a friend I was very disappointed, but not all are like that, if I find a person I really want to be, who only think not bear to lose, this will be my choice.
    Luke and Orion will hate on Goddess?
    By the way my birthday is January 30. I would love to win: D

  305. see if they can get along for your sake, that them not liking each other is hurting you….

  306. I’d choose my best friend, cause if she’s that set against him, there’s probably a good reason for it and a best friend is more important to me than a new relationship. But I’m lucky cause all my friends like my boyfriend ;)

  307. Firstly, she wouldn’t be much of a good friend making you choose. But I’d say boys can come and go, friends are for life! I’d choose my bestie!

  308. In this situation I will try to talk with them and fix things. But if there is no other option I will choose my friend. After all I know my friend for many years and the boyfriend for not so long. Like people say friends are forever but boyfriends not (or something like that lol).

  309. With the kind of amazing, friendship-bracelet, love-you-until-I-die friends I have, I’d definitely have to say a tearful bye to the boy, no matter how hot or cute…or how close he is to my fictional book boyfriend. Le sigh.

  310. I will choose neither,because i think if my friend or boyfriend really know me they will know that both of them are important to me so there’s no need to choose, besides people come and go, friends and boyfriends included. I mean obviously the feeling for both of them are different,but when you truly care for people you can’t choose between them as they were some kind of contest. So i will choose neither, and if that’s ok with both of them, everything will fall into place, if it’s not, we’ll I will move on like always do.

  311. Keep the best friend and ditch the guy. Thanks for the contest, fingers crossed!!!

  312. First instinct always tells you that you choose your life-long best friend! This person was your safe haven whenever you had difficult times. This person (your long life best friend) has been the first person you wanted to call whenever you were sad og happy. But on the other hand a love interest might turn out being THE ONE you spend the rest of your life with. A companion for the future. Not a person that you want to go to in hard times, and not the person you call whenever you are happy or sad. This is the person that is going to be with you through all these times. Through all these ups and downs. Your companion for your future, is your best friend for the future. And that long-life best friend is probably going to find their companion as well. Because let’s face it: this person is amazing!
    So no matter how risky it might be, at some point you have to choose your new love interest/boyfriend/girlfriend.
    So the answer for my mood today is that you choose your love interest. Despite the fact that is feels wrong at first. You just have to give your future a chance!
    And who knows? Maybe if I was answering a question like this tomorrow the answer would be different …

  313. If they were really my friend or boyfriend or whatever I’d wouldn’t like to think that they’d expect me to choose between one or the other, I’d tell this to them and whichever one still sticks with what they said, well I suppose I’d leave them

  314. mikaela Glover says:

    In that situation i would tell them to both grow up no best friend or boyfriend should ever make you choose between them and if they do then they are no friend or boyfriend to do that! if all else fails then i would choose my friend cause no matter what she will always be my friend but you could always get a hotter boyfriend next time ;) haha x

  315. I don’t think I’d know what I would do with 100% certainty unless I was actually placed in that situation, but I’m pretty sure I would choose my best friend.

  316. Best friends are for life! I wouldn’t throw that all away for a guy

  317. I agree with everyone who says neither…if they insist on ultimatums, then they aren’t people you want in your life for the long haul!

  318. I think that if they are asking me to to chose then it would be neither or both. It depends on the situation though and if my friend really didn’t like the guy for a good reason I’d listen to her.

  319. Personally I think that a true best friend would try to make things work because they care. They should never make you choose. Also if the guy really does like you, he would do anything possible to make it work as well. You should never have to choose between either.

  320. Taking time to evaluate this question, rather than immediately choosing friend like I was about to, I would say I’d try to figure out WHY they dislike each other. And then… well I’m not sure. It would depend on what I discovered.

  321. Nailah Malone says:

    Easy, get rid of the bf, the best friend has had your back since the beginning through thick and thin, and if your bf and bff can’t get along it’s usually a sign anyways!

  322. Aydan Durmaz says:

    in this situation i would probably choose my best friend because she has been my friend for a long time and friendship means a lot to me. to be honest i would be really pissed off with them both for the fact that they are making me choose when they should try to be civilised because of me. sometimes i feel there needs to be the third option where i would walk away from them both because i feel they would be idiots to have to want me to choose between them. if they really cared about me they wouldn’t do that to me. if my boyfriend was to be the love of my life, i think we would still be together and this hating my best friend wouldn’t happen. sometimes you have to realise they are plenty of fish in the sea and maybe this is a sign saying your true love is still out there.

  323. I would expect my friend to accept my boyfriend no matter how she felt, but if they absolutely could not get along and forced me to choose, I would choose my friend.

  324. my bestfriend is the love of my life…. so Idk I’d lose either way!

  325. They shouldn’t make you choose! I’d probably end up picking my long time friend, because even though it’s wrong of her to make me choose, I’d miss her.

  326. Linda trinklein says:

    How How How can I answer this question???
    I guess im going to have to say my lover over my friend.. I have had so many people come and go (that were not true friends)
    I love my hubby ;)

  327. That’d be horrible to have to choose between the two but at the end of the day your best friend is probably just looking out for you and has your best interests at heart. I value any advice/opinions my bestie has to give me. I’d choose her any day!!

  328. Ash Frame says:

    Oh my, that is a difficult question. But ‘broes before hoes’ (or whatever the female translation is) and all. I’d have to dump my boyfriend in favor of my best friend, although I would Not be happy with her about it.

  329. I would definitely choose a long time friend over a boyfriend because one, me and this guy might not even last and there are way more guys to go out with. Second, you only have 1 true best friend so therefore it isn’t worth losing a friend over a guy

  330. Elizabeth says:

    If my friend and my new love interest made me choose between them, I would think something else had to be going on. Ultimatums are not a healthy thing to have in any relationship. A friend isn’t being a good friend if she tries to make you choose, and the love interest should not do that either. I would tell them they aren’t dating each other and don’t have to be best friends or anything, but I would not choose. They would have to get over their issues or just deal, it really shouldn’t be an issue. If there was more to it than that, they would need to tell me and I could re-evaluate.

  331. Always go for friends, I mean I cannot lose my best friend, and we do not let guys come in between us. They can try and we get mad at each other but we know we’re the ones there for each other, always. I would actually try to understand why they hate each other before making this decision but I guess my relationship is different to friendship. Even if my best friend hates my boyfriend she wouldn’t make me choose because its my life and my choice and she’ll respect it. If my boyfriend doesn’t understand that I will not give up my best friend then and respect her then I’m sorry but you’re out.

  332. I’d definitely choose the friendship. I’d never leave my wonderful relationship with a friend just beacuse some new guy in my life is asking me to, no matter how hot he is :P

    Thank you for the giveaway!

  333. I feel that I would have to drop both. If they make you choose, they really do not care about you. A true friend and a great guy would work to make things better so they can be with you.

  334. I would say choose your friend because a good friend would stay with you forever; if the guy can’t get along with your friend, then he should stay away from the friend and maybe he is not worth it because of this. In a way though I see this as being both their faults at not getting along and you in the middle.
    Thanks for the giveaway and I love your books! :)

  335. I think I would have to choose the friend. Friends are very important plus guys come and go. Cant wait to read this book!! Thanks for the give away.

  336. I would choose my best friend because a relationship with a guy is not nearly as important as a relationship with my best friend. Friends are forever.

  337. Of course I’d choose my best friend. Our friendship and love for each other has been established for a really long time and I wouldn’t exchange that for anything. She’s like a sister to me and I know that she’ll always be there for me no matter what happens. Thanks for the opportunity to win a Goddess ARC! Happy New Year! :)

  338. Christina Z says:

    I’d go with my best friend. Who knows, the relationship might end one day and then I wouldn’t have anyone left. Friendship lasts, most of the times.

  339. I’d choose my best friend.
    Thanks for the giveaway!

  340. I wouldn’t like to pick between either of them! But, if in case, I will choose my best friend because it’s probably my bestfriend that’s been there from the start. Besides, a friend is harder to find than a guy. :)

  341. Mary Preston says:

    The hot love interest would have to go & then I’d need the good friend to console me.

  342. When I was younger, I probably would’ve chosen the guy. Hormones and all that. But now, knowing what I do, I’d take the friendship any day. Guys come and go, but a really great best friend can be really hard to come by, so it’s important to hold on to a good friendship.

  343. If it was me, I would keep my best friend, especially if you’ve known him/her for a long time. Thanks for the give away, can’t wait to read Goddess!

  344. I’ll choose my best friend. She’s been around longer, and there’s no replacing the relationship we have. I can always find another guy : )

  345. I would leave my boyfriend. No question.

  346. Kathrin H. says:

    I would choose my best friend, because it’s hard to find a good friend with whom you go through thick and thin. And you can’t say if the relationship breaks or not. If that happens you have lost your friend and your boyfriend.

  347. This is kinda difficult, because I haven’t had a boyfriend since kindergarten *awkward silence*. But being old enough to think this trough now, and knowing one of my best friends, Iva, would react exactly like that, I’m pretty sure I’m gonna have to say goodbye to the guy. We’ve lived trough so much together, so I don’t think I could live without her or without any of my best friends. And if he isn’t mature enough to understand me, I wouldn’t have had started dating him in the first place. Thanks for the giveaway btw! :)

  348. This is a bit difficult but I would choose my best friend. I mean, I know her for so long and I wouldn’t give her up for a boy. You can date a million boys but you only have one best friend who knows everything about you and who will always be there for you no matter what happens.

  349. After trying as much as possible to get them to like each other and they still didn’t get along, I’d drop the guy because, well, that’s what best friends mean. And if he couldn’t get that, well it’s no loss. :) Thanks for the awesome giveaway!

  350. Maria Eduarda Helm says:

    I always had the opinion that a friend should come before a boyfriend, but thinking about it, O think I would choose the boyfriend, because if the girl was really my friend and really loved me for who I am, she would understand that I liked the guy and she should stay by my side, because thats what real friends do, so I think that would be a way to discover if the friendship was worth it and at the same time it would be a way to at least try to be happy with a boyfriend, and I think that good friends is easy to find, but love i’m not sure, if I had the chance to find it, I would take it!
    Xoxo Josie, I really hope you read this because this is exactly what I would do!

  351. Nicole Yacoub says:

    I would give up my boyfriend because of a few things:

    1. A strong friendship is built brick by brick with trust, honesty, and just being there for each other, so after years you can’t just throw that away for a boy because you don’t even know him very well therefore you don’t know if it’s going to work out. I guess what I’m trying to say is that you can’t give up a mature friendship that you’ve had for years for a new relationship that is unpredictable.

    2. There are plenty of fish in the sea – if you give up your boyfriend then you can always find love with someone else.

    3. If you were to give up your friend, in the future your boyfriend might expect you to be the one who has to compromise again if you were ever faced with a situation similar to this.

    4. If your boyfriend really likes you and thinks that the relationship will last, he would definitely try to work it out with your best friend.

    Can’t wait for the last book! :)

  352. Chloe Murphy says:

    So excited for this giveaway!!

    It’s a tough question but I would have to pick the hot boyfriend, which makes me feel so guilty but if my friend couldn’t just put up with this guy that could be my true love, is she really a friend? I would always try for her even if the guy was super crazy and full of hate so why not her for me? And I’m probably a teensy bit biased because I would do anything for my boyfriend don’t get me wrong but I would totally give him a hard time if he made me choose :)

  353. Friends are forever. They will be there to comfort you through letting the boy go. Who would you turn to if you and your boyfriend broke up at some later stage.

  354. Alexandra Jackson says:

    Honestly, I would be upset with both of them. Especially if it’s over some petty reason. If they couldn’t put their differences aside and accept the fact that I love them both and then tried to force me to choose between the two, I would leave both. Each one would be trying to force me to be someone I’m not. If I liked apples and they told me to ditch it because /they/ didn’t like it, would I just do as they say? No.

    My best friend and mate are supposed to be there for me and accept me for who I am. Even if I ignore their advice and they say “I told you so” later, a true friend will be there for you (granted they will be slightly or greatly annoyed). And that is what a best friend and a mate should be to you. True friends. Even if they don’t get along, they should be able to accept that you have friends all over the spectrum and don’t seclude yourself to some narrow path. And learn to tolerate one another’s presence for my sake.

  355. Fare'aa Khalid says:

    For me the answer is quite obvious. Your bestfriend will be with you before, during and after boys. Boyfriends, however come and go. Seriously though, “if you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends.”

  356. Fare'aa Khalid says:

    Wait, what if they’re the same person! :o

  357. Claire Morton says:

    I would definately choose love, which means i would want to be greedy and have both my friend and the boy! Its just as simple as life without love is no life at all :) so hopefully my friends would understand and if they didnt they werent friends at all really!!

  358. Kristen S says:

    The boyfriend because if a friend was a true friend they would understand what the boyfriend meant to me! Thanks for the giveaway!!!!!:D

  359. Moa Bergsten says:

    Something went wrong when i was about to comment on the question on the entering thing so i´m going to do it here instead and i hope that it still counts!
    My name is Moa, i am from sweden and i love all your books! i can´t wait for the last book or the movie! The passion and the reality feeling you get when you read the books, is mind blowing! When i read your books, i can´t put them away even if i already read them and my friends get really annoyed because they think that i becomes unreachable. Well, maybe it´s true but if they read them they would understand!
    To answer your question, if i have to make a decision between my best friend and my boyfriend, i would definitely choose my best friend. For me, friendship is more important and if you want me, you got to deal with my bff because we are a package deal. And if someone really loves me, they wouldn’t ask me to choose between two people i love.
    If my bff hadn´t been there for me when things were rough, i wouldn´t even be the person i am today. She has picked up the pieces and put them together to many times to count and if i just threw that kind of friendship away for a boy, then what would that make me? The worst friend of the year? Or mabye the bitch of the year?
    And when that boy dumps me, who should i turn to if i stabbed my bff in the back because of him? No, I wouldn´t choose a boy over my bff, she is family and family sticks together!

    I hope that i have a chance of winning even if the entering thing became wrong. It was just the comment thing that got posted blank, so i really, really hope this still works!!
    By the way, i think it´s cool you like sweden ;)
    Love your books!
    // Moa Bergsten, from Sweden <3

  360. Long and wonderful friend hands down.

  361. It would be a tough decision because good boyfriends can be hard to find, but I would pick my best friend. My best friend would be there for me in the future ahead and if my boyfriend really cared, he would do everything possible to try and accept my best friend.
    If my new, hot boyfriend would want me too give up the friendship I have had with someone for my whole life, he would have to go.
    But if this question involved a long relationship with the boyfriend.. my answer could vary.

  362. Deanna Lamb says:

    If this person is a true friend to you they will not ask you to chose. I’ve been the dissapproving friend many times and have learned to keep my mouth shut. I don’t have the right to try to control someone elses life. All you can really do is be there for them when the crap hits the fan and they need a shoulder to cry on, or if it works out, a bridesmaid. Most people have learned when you try to steer someone away from a person or situation it just makes (the person or situation) all the more desireable anyway.

  363. bestfriend always.

  364. Moa Bergsten says:

    Something went wrong when i was about to comment on the question on the entering thing so i´m going to do it here instead and i hope that it still counts!
    My name is Moa, i am from sweden and i love all your books! i can´t wait for the last book or the movie! The passion and the reality feeling you get when you read the books, is mind blowing! When i read your books, i can´t put them away even if i already read them and my friends get really annoyed because they think that i becomes unreachable. Well, maybe it´s true but if they read them they would understand!
    To answer your question, if i have to make a decision between my best friend and my boyfriend it would depend on different reasons.
    First, i need to know why the hate each other. That information can really make a difference between who it is who really loves me.
    Second, it depends on who demands that i should make a choice. If the boy would say that it´s either him or my bff and don´t have a good reason, i would dump him faster than fast.
    Me and my bff is a package deal and he can either deal with it or walk away. Friendship is more important and if he really loves me, he wouldn´t ask me to choose between the two people i love most.
    And besides, my bff has always been there for me and picked up my pieces and put me together so many times i lost count. I can´t just throw away a friendship like that for a boy without any reason. Besides, if he dumps me, who should i turn to if i have stabbed my bff in the back because of him?
    No, my bff is like a sister for me and family don´t turn on each other.

    If it was my bff who said it´s either her or my boyfriend, and didn´t have a good reason for the demand, i don´t really know what i should do.
    She is supposed to be my best friend, and if she don´t like my boyfriend she is supposed to suck it up and be there for me anyway.
    She is supposed so accept all my flaws and still be by my side because, like i said, she´s like my sister and family don´t turn in each other.
    But if she had a good reason to hate him, like if he was cheating on me, i would dump him immediately and not think twice about it.
    But if the boy had a really, really good reason for hating my bff, i would have to think more about what i would do. If she was, i don´t know, lying to me about a important thing or something then i would… No, i can´t even imagine taking the boyfriends side over my bff. Even if she has done something, she is family. I would always forgive her and stand by her side, so, byebye boyfriend.
    Like you say in sweden, killar kommer och går men vänner och familj består!

    Now i feel sentimental so, even if i know my bff won´t read this, love you the Wallin twins! Wouldn´t change you for anyone and even if my prince charming came, i wouldn´t take his side agains yours for anything, remember that!! Love youuuuu <333333

    Anyway, i hope that this still works because i really, really want to win!!
    It was just the comment thing that went wrong, it got published empty, so i hope this count.

    Love your books
    //Moa Bergsten from Sweden <3

  365. Probably my best friend but I would try to find out WHY they hate each other :D

    ~Taherah

  366. Vickirluv says:

    i have to say i would stick with my friend. if the guy really likes me, he’d try to befriend her!

  367. Well I think that if they both truly cared about me then they wouldn’t ask me to choose because they’d know that I want both of them in my life, but if they really did, I would have to choose my best friend because she’s been my friend my entire life and always been there for me, so I’d have to do the same for her even if it meant giving up the guy.

  368. I would definitely choose my best friend because if it came down to my lifelong best friend who i have and will know for the rest of my life i would choose her over a guy that i would most likely break up with later on.

  369. I would choose my best friend even though i’d love a hot boy to put his arm around me in the cinemas, boyfriends come and go. I’ve learned that recently and after 2 years, my best friend who i didn’t see all the time was there for me straight away. She gave me a shoulder to cry on even though I cancelled plans all the time, we watched Easy A and she got me a hot chocolate. I really couldn’t ask for a better best friend or group of friends. They all care and I believe they always will i love them :) This is coming form a girl who’s a sucker for love as well

  370. I don’t have a clever answer for this. Since I don’t have a best friend, and I have never had a boyfriend. But I assume I would stick with my long time best friend :) But yeah. My sister is my best friend, and she has had the same boyfriend for 10 years. And I hate him so much. But she’s still seeing him. But yeah. I’m not happy about it, but I’m dealing with it. Maybe :) Thank you for the perfect giveaway. <3
    Love, Carina

  371. It’s a case of loyalty vs love! Of course, I’d try everything in my power to try to work something out between them, but ultimately, I would choose my friend. My friends are dear to me and no guy is worth losing any of them.

  372. I think that before making such a choice i would do everything I could to resolve their issues if they really cared for me as much as I care for them than for my sake i’d hope they would at least try to get along. At the end of the day if they don’t at least make an attempt that neither of them really have any respect for you and how you feel i’d walk away from both. Relationships should be about respect for each other if they they don’t respect how you feel about the other (friend or partner) enough to at least try than neither of them deserve to be in your life.

  373. Roxana Z. says:

    I would choose my long and wonderful friendship. Love comes and leaves, but a friendship stay forever.

  374. I would pick neither. If both of those people understood how much the other means to me they wouldnt make me choose.

  375. I’d pick the new hot guy! ;)

  376. Moniek Haverkort says:

    Honestly, it’s easier to say when you’re not in that situation. If I’d been asked this question a few years ago I would have picked my best friend in a heartbeat. But recently two of my best friends started dating and they made me realise two things… Firstly, love is likely to be challenged. Not everyone can be happy with your decisions but in the end you need to be happy with the way your life turns out ’cause you’re going to have to live with the hauntings what ifs and the heartbreak or the relief and happiness of having made the right decision. Secondly, they showed me that true love is not selfish. If your boyfriend and best friend love you, they will be glad you’re happy. They wouldnt ask you to pick one…. My best friends had to fight against even their families who you’d expect to always have your back but because they loved each other so much all they can do is pray for the best and that their families will understand their relationship. After seeing everything they’ve been through, I realised I would choose love and try to tell them to get along….for my sake. Most people would think that might be too much to ask from your bf and boyfriend but it shouldn’t be if you love each other. That is if the relationship is meant to be…. God things like this would be easier if you had an Oracle on call to lecture you about fate huh? :P

  377. Alexine Quaisser says:

    I would choose my best friend. We’ve known each other for forever due to the fact that our mothers are also best friends…. We live in two different countries and have gone through quite a lot and even though we only see each other once or twice a year it doesn’t weaken our friendship, the distance strengthens it. I would never give all that away for a new love interest, who doesn’t know and understand me like my friend does.

  378. Estela A. says:

    I would choose my friend because she understands me better than my new boyfriend.I will not let friendship years go to waste!!!!

  379. I would have to say that I would probably not pick either one of them, because if my friend doesn’t like me having a boyfriend how will I ever get married? Second if my boyfriend doesn’t let me have friends than what am I suppossed to do? So I would have to drop both relationships, because in the long run you need friends (a boyFRIEND is a friend as well) who support you and love you even if you can’t give them all of your attention.

  380. I wouldn’t choose. I think it is wrong to be asked to do so. (I have always said, whoever asks you to choose is someone you can do without.) I would say to them both ‘If you really care for me, you will find a way to get along. You don’t have to love each other, but be civil for my sake.’

    Unless of course, the reasons for hate were pretty strong. Like murder or something. Then that would be a whole different ball game.

  381. I would pick niether of them. First of all if my best friend and boyfriend are both so selfish about me spending time with people they don’t like, why would I want them in my life? Hopefully they would eventually come around to the idea but if not, I will always meet new people.

  382. I think, having gone through this, I would choose the boy. At the time I had already fallen for him and my best friend was, well, my best friend. She always was a bad influence and he knew that and didn’t like it. She didn’t like the fact that he wouldn’t let me “party” and have fun. After a while of fighting on both of their sides I got tired of it and started to realize that my best friend really was pushing me into a bad life. I talked to her and she agreed to stop doing things around me. That seemed to put a band-aid on it for a while but she started to want me to hang out like we used to. At that point I decided if she couldn’t respect my opinion then we couldn’t be friends, so I picked the guy. We’ve been together for three years and my old friend let go as soon as I did and never looked back or at least never when I did.

  383. I wouldn’t make that choice. If either of them truly cared about me, then they wouldn’t ever ask that of me. What I would do is sit them both down so they can settle their differences. I would explain to them both how much they mean to me and how much it would hurt to ever lose either one of them. If they truly care about me then they would put their differences aside and let me be happy. Your relationship with your best friend and boyfriend should never interfere with each other because they are two separate parts of your life. There are different bonds that you share with each.

  384. Makayla W. says:

    Best friend all the way especially if it was a friend like gig. You never know that not steamy love could fizzle out. Who’s going to veg out with you eating a carton of ben and jerry’s when you break up?

  385. I would pick my best friend. There will always be other buys in your life, but you only have one true friend. Friends will support you more thnt a boy friend will ever support you.

  386. Stelina Papagianneli says:

    Ohh that’s a tough one. I would probably choose my best friend over the guy, but what kind of guy asks you to leave your best friend for his sake?! :/ I would not accept that. No matter how hot he was haha. It depends on if he was my soulmate though. But friends are forever. <3

    Many many kisses from Greece Josie! Love you so much :*

  387. I would choose the best friend because that relationship has so far stood the test of time and they have stood by you until now so they are probably looking out in your best interest, whereas the new boyfriend has only been there for a short time and then asked you to decide between himself another person in your life without paying his dues the relationship with him would most likely end badly any way so stick with the friend who’s already probably shown that they are loyal to you

  388. i would choose my best friend.

  389. Its easy for me to tell someone to choose their best-friend over the boyfriend…(which is what my instinct tells me to do)..but i would rather try to understand y they can’t get along n figure out who is being more unreasonable…if neither can see me happy with the other..then both are being silly!!!
    I reckon, I havent yet really answered ur question…so ill just say that as a last resort (i.e. if they can’t find a way to get along) i would choose my bestie:))

  390. Of course its the hardest thing to do in my whole life if I were asked to choose between those two and I’ll definately don’t want to lose either of them if I had one because they’ll need me and I to them.

    My point of view, its cruel if they asked me to choose because it will put me in a difficult situation and I don’t want to hurt either of them but its hard to please everyone so you need to love yourself first before you love someone else.

    So, I won’t choose either of them to be fair. That’ll save a lot of my energy to quarrel and I’ll have my own sweet time doing my own things. Hah! How about that? :)

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  391. Emma Falconer says:

    I would want to say good riddance to both for making me choose resulting in me living a lonely yet satisfying life surrounded by books and cats, but I love my best friend too much to live the rest of my life without her. Who else would humour me and laugh at my rubbish jokes?

  392. Bye-bye new-found cutie! If I’ve known my BFF for a while, s/he probably wouldn’t hate the new guy without a good reason. If I like the new guy, and my BFF knows he’d not bad news for me, they’d probably make an effort to tolerate us being together even if they don’t like him.

  393. Marcela Simoes Alves says:

    I would choose my friends. She’s someone who always be there for me, I am sure she’ll be by my side when I need it. I know she probably have a reason for not like him, this is bad, of course. But I would choose a friend.

  394. Emer O' Connell says:

    Well, I wouldn’t pick. If the guy really liked you then he could put up with your friends, if it’s a new relationship and he is trying to get you to choose between him and your friends then that’s not a good start to your relationship. You’d resent him and it’d lead to the two of you fighting and honestly, that relationship would go nowhere.
    If you’re best friend really cared about you then she wouldn’t ask you to choose either. She might say that friends are forever while guys come and go. But she’s not a true friend if she asks you to give up a guy you like because she doesn’t like him. Obviously you’re best friend is more important than a new relationship, but if she asked you to do this then is she a true friend? Again, picking her would only lead to the two of ye fighting and drive a wedge between ye.
    There might be no way for them to get along, but if they both care about you then they should at least be able to tolerate each other for your sake. I’d talk to them both and explain how I couldn’t make that choice. I wouldn’t put them together unnecessarily but when they were in the same room they could at least not fight. I feel like any real friend would accept that. You’re the one dating him, not your friends.
    The only exception to this would be if there was a genuine reason; if he had done something bad to hurt your friend, but if that was the case then I shouldn’t be dating him in the first place, so my friend would be the obvious choice.

  395. I would probably try and sort aout the problems they have with each other first if that doesn’t work explain the pressure there putting on me ask them what they think they would do if they were in this situation. If they still ask me to choose then I would choose my best friend as they have been with me through the good and bad times and are like a section of my own soul

  396. I would choose my best friend UNLESS I though the new guy might be the one. Can’t give up on the one!!

  397. Good friends are hard to come by, so really good friends should be held onto. There must be a reason for their hatred of each other and if you trust your friend’s judgement on clothes and other decisions then it has to at least be considered in this situation. Your best friend will know you really well, so can probably see past the screen of hotness to tell if the guy’s a good’un! Besides you’ve only just met the guy, and what kind of guy wants a girl who would ditch her friends? SO I guess I’m saying I’d choose my best friend and maybe try to find out why they don’t get on if I do really rate the guy? Friends over Fellas! x

  398. i would pick my best friends because boyfriends come and go but i know that my friend will always have my back and be there for me through the good and bad times

  399. Beth Brazel says:

    I wouldn’t choose either of them because if my best friend is making me choose then she is clearly not a very good best friend especially if we have known each other for years! However, out of the two I would be more likely to choose my best friend especially if we had a long history, because as they say, mates before dates!
    Oh dear this is terribly written… Exams have addled my brain…

  400. Well that definately is a tough decision to make and one I would definately not take lightly like anyone. But thinking about it I really do not know who I would choose. One the one side there is my best friend who I have know forever and we are like sisters. We shared good and bad times and always been their to support one another along the way. But one the other hand there my new guy who I think who may even be the one who makes me feel beautuful and makes me laugh and think that I wish I could spend the rest of my life with them. And honestly I think I would rather lose both of them than choosing one as I could never do that. I would hope that their love for me as a best friend or girlfriend is far greater than their hatred for one another and rather than making me choose they would both choose me. And even though they might hate it each try for me and find a way at least to control it. As I believe if they both loved me they would make me choose.

  401. Beth Slade says:

    Tough question. So first, I’ll ask one of my own. If these two realy care about me, no matter how much they hate each other, why would they make me choose. Personally, I think I’d probably pick my bff, but then again, I’ve never been in love before. So what do I know?! The moment might come along and I’d completely go against this decision. I just don’t know.

  402. Leave the guy. It’s not worth throwing the years of a friendship away. Plus, I think any close friend that feels that strongly against a guy is probably on to something and seeing something that I don’t.

  403. I would pick my friend cuz’ she’s been with me longer. Duh!!!!!!

  404. Friend. More Predictable.

  405. Bff all the way.

  406. Friendship especially and long in is more important then a new relationship but a true friend or lover wouldnt make u pick and u allwould have to put on their big girl/boy pants n be civil for the one u live…..but the friend is entitled to the told u so when thing happen

  407. Amanda Colgrove says:

    I would choose…neither! In my opinion if either one of them put that sort of pressure and ultimatum on you, neither of them deserve you. If they love you they would grow up and just be civil to each other.

    Praying I win this, I pretty much need to know what happens. :)

  408. Honestly, my first thought is, what kind of friend – or boyfriend – is this? What a horrible thing to do to a supposed friend or boy/girlfriend. I think I’d choose neither. Find myself better, less selfish people to hang out with.

    (Of course, I say this as an adult. Back in my teens, I am not sure which way I’d have gone.)

  409. Brianna R says:

    I did have to choose ( was 10 years ago ) i was with my guy for a month and my best friend of 5 years couldn’t stand him and made me choose i was 17 at the time.

    I choose my boyfriend and never looked back. I’ll tell you why don’t get me wrong i loved my friend and would of done just about anything for her, except that and big part of my reason was we were only 17 and at the end of day there would come a time when she met a boy and had a family and friends do grow distant where the boyfriend may turn into the guy i had a family with.

    As it turns out i did have a family and been together for 10 years now and bout 3 years after i walked away from my best friend she contacted me to tell me she was getting married and wanted her best friend back. Now i have both

  410. It’s an interesting question.. When I read about this kind of situations in books, I usually root for boyfriend/girlfriend, but in a real life, I would always choose my best friend. BF/GF come and go, but true friends are forever! :)
    Thanks for a giveaway! :)

  411. Roa'a Hamed says:

    I would keep my best friend despite the fact I want this guy very much. If he really cared about me, he would stick it through even though he doesn’t get along with the friend. It would be a test to see what his true colours are. Anyways, high school romance is useless anyways and we know that most people (except me, of course) go through boyfriends like popcorn and choose to marry later in life. There’s a chance that this friend could stay with me for awhile, so I wouldn’t lose that for a guy that wants me to choose between both relationships.

  412. Kristin Kaiser says:

    I’d say I would choose my best friend. We have been trough a lot together, more than i probably would be able to do with a new friend or even a boyfriend. it would feel just wrong to leave her back, just because of a guy. boys come, boys leave but best friend stay. :)

  413. In a situation like that I would choose my friend, if we have had a friendship that has lasted for so many years then there is a reason for it, and throwing that connection away would be wrong. Also if the new love interest was the “one” then he would ask me to pick and I wouldn’t be confused as to what to do. The feelings obviously aren’t strong enough to lose my closest friend over, but neither of them should make you choose, they should simply accept that you want to be a part of both of their lives.

  414. I would probably choose the best-friend (for reasons already stated above) :) but I wouldn’t back down without a fight, I’d want to know WHY they hate each other…

  415. I would definitely go with my best friend. She will be looking out for my best interest, and if she thinks he is a jerk, he probably is.

  416. I would choose my best friend, and leave the hot new boyfriend!

  417. Ditch both of them. For a while at least. I know my best friend is gonna accept my choice, no matter what. Best friends are there for unconditional support. And it will be a test for the new hot girlfriend to know if she can really accept me as I am and not ask me to make unnecessary choices.

  418. I would stay with both, because if they were both completely loyal to you no matter what you do they will stay by your side. Even if they tried to make you choose and it upset them they would get over it if they really cared for you and if not then there was no point in keeping an unloyal friend in the first place…..

  419. Catherine says:

    I would personally choose my best friend unless I am truly in love with my boyfriend. If so, I would separate my time between both so they don’t have to see much of each other, and hope that they understand the fact that I cannot simply chose one of them since I need both.

  420. I think that I wold chose neiher. Is your friend really your friend if they make you chose between them and the guy you love? Same with the boyfriend. If they really loved you, they would try to find a way to deal with eachother, or avoid eachother altogether. Either that, or chose the one that you know that you cannot possibly live without, so when you look back at your descision, you know that it’s better than living without the person you chose.

  421. I would choose my best friend definitively, because real friendship is hard to find, and if I’m just interested in this guy, not in love with him then it’s not worth losing a true friend because of it. And my best friend will be there for me trough thick and thin, and if I would choose a guy above her and we for some reason do not work out, it would be completely rotten of me to come crawling back begging for forgiveness and comfort.
    Sister before Misters :)

  422. Miao Zhuang says:

    I would try to keep both because if if they were really my best friend they would understand me. but if i had to pick i would probably pick the friend because ive known them longer. (:

  423. You should chose the best friend because while neither should make you chose a guy that truly cares about you wouldn’t make you change important things in your life.

  424. As bad as it sounds, I would give up my friendship. I want someone with whom I will spend the rest of my life and start a family and I would ‘t be able (or want to) do that with my friend.

  425. Well, I first think it depends on the age of everyone involved.

    If everyone’s older, I think some kind of arrangement could eventually be brokered, where the best friend and boyfriend could avoid each other.

    But in general, I would choose the friend. The bonds of friendship are stronger than a romance which may fade after awhile.

  426. Jenny Skagerstrand says:

    First of all, I would hate the situation, for nobody should make you choose like this, and if one of them made me choose, I would choose the other. But as both now say that I have to choose, I would have to go with my friend. The friends I have, I’ve had forever, and if she doesn’t like him to that degree, then there might be something there. Guys will come and go, but my friends are really important for me.

  427. Amina Jabeen says:

    I would probably choose my long-time best friend – in theory – over a hot boyfriend as boys come and go. However if he was anything like lucas and he loved me undeniably for example tried to make an effort with my best friend and therefore my best friend supported me and my hot boyfriend, he’d be a keeper. I’d probably secrtely yearn for him while not thinking I was pretty or good enough for him, just like Helen does.

  428. I would break with my boyfriend because if he forces me to make a choice it means that he doesn’t love me enough.

  429. Sanjana Naidu says:

    I’m that person that usually stays away from relationships, friends come talk to about their boyfriend and I listen. My friends have asked me before why I chose to stay single and I think that maybe it’s to stay away from situations like these and I am generally a very picky person. I’ve seen what messy relationships can do to people my age when they commit a little too early and end up feeling brokenhearted. I have actually had this happen to me before with my best friend and her boyfriend, and she picked her boyfriend. A couple weeks later he left her and she felt horrible. I didn’t blame her in any way, although I will admit I was a little miffed but at that moment all I could focus on was how upset my friend was and how much I wanted to confront the guy. I know it was hard for her to talk to me again because we both felt terrible about what happened. I realized after she left that if I cared about her I would have adjusted and she realized that friends are just as important as boyfriends. I know it seems like I’m rambling but I promise you I have a point haha :). I guess if this ever happened to me, I would pick my best friend. If she has known me her whole life, she wouldn’t do this to hurt me, I believe she would have a valid reason. Likewise, I think if my boyfriend loved me, he would have understood and instead of making me choose, he would have waited for me. I believe if someone is worth having in your life, they will show you in anyway they can. Like Lucas and Helen and Helen and Claire. All that said, I would like to add that best friend or boyfriend, if they truly loved you, neither should have to make you choose.

    • Sanjana Naidu says:

      That being said, its different for everyone in every situation. Some people just KNOW when the guy is the ‘one’ and if he is worth it. I’m sure when I am an adult my view may or may not have changed but for now, I would pick friend. I would talk to her, see what she found wrong and I would work with her to work it out, and if my boyfriend really loved me, he would have waited that little amount of time.

  430. Sanjana Naidu says:

    Sorry for the super long post!!!

  431. I have to say that it wouldn’t be a nice situation, i honestly think that if both my friend and boyfriend care for me that they could try to be civile with each other for my sake but if i really have to choose i will always choose my friend. Boyfriends come and go but real friends are forever and if you dump them for a guy you’ll end up alone if it doesn’t work. Plus if my friends don’t like the guy maybe there’s a reason

  432. Kristen F. says:

    It would depend if he was the one or not. If he wasn’t I’d pick my best friend but if he was the one I know he would make it work with my best friend for me.

  433. a classic song quotes
    ” If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends,
    Make it last forever friendship never ends,
    If you wanna be my lover, you have got to give,
    Taking is too easy, but that’s the way it is”

    Anyway Nancy’s right, I would hope that if my best friend and my boyfriend( a deadly combo) wouldn’t give me an ultimatum. If they did i would choose my best friend because she probably has a really good reason for not liking him. Plus friendship is more important than someone i just met.

  434. If the man in question was any kind of a decent person – he’d never ask you to choose! However ‘hot’ a new man in my life might appear to be and however good it might feel to be with him – there is no substitution for a real genuine friend in your life.
    And I know that a true friend shouldn’t expect you to live your life as they want you to either, but, with the history you have with proper friends, I would think long and hard about what their issues are with this new man.
    I have 3 special people in my life that I trust implicitly and if either of them ever had doubts about a new person in my life then I would take them seriously and if it turned out their concerns were valid, in no way would I ever be able to choose the man over my friend.
    We all want someone to share our lives with in some way – but I don’t think that it should come at the expense of an earned, trusted and wanted friendship.
    Can I just say that I can’t stop re-reading the first two books – they are phenomenal and even if I don’t win this comp – I can’t wait to get my hands on Goddess… Congrats on a superb story :)

  435. Rachael Hanson says:

    I would ditch the boyfriend and stay with my best friend

  436. Ariel Johnson says:

    If i have to make a choice between my best friend and my boyfriend, I would choose my best friend. A best friend means a lot more to me than a boyfriend, especially if it’s someone that i just recently got involved with. So it’s my best friend all the way!

  437. Nina Frerich says:

    If they both really love me they would never ask me to choose one of them. So they need to be nice to each other or they would loose my friendship/love.

  438. I’d chose my best friend because I already know her my whole life ! And I never would let her go. There’s always another chance that you could fall in love again or not. In my opinion a friend you know a life time is more important than a friend who you only know for a short time. But I’d also not chose the fake friend even though you know her for a long time.

  439. Love or friendship. It’s a hard call to make. I think when it comes down it though, I would choose love. To me, the love of a life should, of course, make you feel like no one else can; the love is so real, so consuming that it takes over. However, i think that a lifetime love should also be a best friend, someone that you can lean on for support when the tide comes in. So really, in choosing love, you are also choosing friendship.

  440. I wouldn’t choose between either. If your Boyfriend/Girlfriend really does love you then surely he/she would understand how much your Best Friend means to you and wouldn’t make you choose. And it’s the same for your Best Friend, she/he should understand that your Boyfriend/Girlfriend makes you happy and that it’s unfair to make you choose between them. I would hope that they could put their differences aside and try to get on and maybe they could end up being friends in the end too. Unless there is a good reason for them to hate each other like one of them has done something completely awful to the other, then I think you need to think about who you really want as a Best Friend or Boyfriend/Girlfriend because they don’t sound like a very nice person if they’re not very nice to other people.

  441. I would choose the friend. Ideally – neither would put me in a situation like that, but….if we’re talkin’ best friend, has been, always will be – they’ve got your back – and usually see something in the guy or something you’re missing because of hormones or whatever….friends pick up on nuances like that – and are even kind enough to skip the “I told you so” later.

    Usually.

    Unless you’ve forgotten to return something of theirs…then all bets are off. :)

  442. Definitely the friend, especially one that has been around for a while. The length of the friendship would be a testament to how loyal we are to each other, and also that we know eachother better than most everyone else. If a long-time best friend tells you to choose between them and a boyfriend, it probably means that they recognize what you can’t that: that the guy isn’t good for you, no matter how good-looking. If the new boyfriend asks, on the other hand, it shows that he doesn’t respect you or your decisions, and that he can’t love you at all, because to stop being friends with your best friend because of him would cause you undue pain.

  443. Well at that point in time I would have been pretty pissed off. You have been my best friend for how many years? And really guy, if you love me you can’t try harder to make amends with each other? No? Well OK then. Well at least they both agree that I have to choose between them. But really? To choose? How sucky is that! Hot guy and long time friend *weighing out the choices on my hand…* Honestly though I live by the saying “If you love something let it go. If it comes back to you it’s yours. If it doesn’t, it never was.” So I would set both of them free. If my friend comes back to me then our friendship was too much to loose, but if the extremely smoking hot guy comes back, maybe he does really love me more then I thought. But if both of them come back…… Well that’s a whole nother blog comment. Any who, a long time friendship should weigh out a new boy toy. But I would leave it up to fate, because really? The gods always have something up their sleeve.

  444. My best friend would just get over it, otherwise we wouldn’t be best friends. I’ve been in situations where I hated the guy my friend was dating. In the end, a true friend decides that it is your life and they will be part of it come what may. (And if the guy ends up breaking her heart, you don’t even say I told you so)

  445. Faith Parmelee says:

    I would pick my best friend because no matter what she always can see throw the true me.

  446. Orly Contreras says:

    My best friend would never make me choose. She would ride out the wave of the new love interest and still be there for me when it probably ended after I realized why she hated him and I started to see what she saw. True friends don’t make you choose, they always have your best interest at heart. I know my best friend would step back and let things play out. If my new love interest is true love, they would also have my best interest at heart.
    However, if I had to make a Solomon like choice between the two, I would choose my best friend. (You didn’t say i was choosing between my best friend and one true love.That is a whole ‘nother dilemma). Hot love interest come and go, but the alchemy between best friends cannot be created with just anybody :)

  447. You definitely have to choose your long time BFF! You just met the love interest! Your friends will always be there for you but boyfriends come and go!

  448. Katharina Schneider says:

    That’s quite difficult… I guess at first i’d tell them, that none of them should ask me to give up on the other one. What (truly) best friend wouldn’t pull him/herself together and swallow down the averseness to him/her for me and what loving boyfriend/girlfriend wouldn’t do the same? I wouldn’t expect them to like each other, they didn’t even have to talk to each other, in my opinion they just shouldn’t want me to make a choice between them.
    But if there really was no other way but quitting one of the two, and the relationship was just at the beginning I’d pick my best friend. She/he has always been there for me whenever I needed support and the time we shared through our lives formed a band that should be stronger than a new (maybe not even lasting) love.
    Still I am not very convinced whether your best friend really wanted you to make such a decision :)

  449. Ra Berlin says:

    Even if it sounds hard- you have to make a choice- that’s what life is about.
    The choice between friend and lover, the choice between stability and flattering feelings, the choice between years of great memories and the opportunity to make years filled with great memories.
    How often did we already had read, heard, seen or listen to such a decision?
    How many books, movies and tv-series had already given us uncountable versions of these question?

    To make such a decision seems to be on of the hardest questions, when you have to fall it.
    But shouldn’t it be one of the easiest?
    If your friend would really be your best friend, a kind of soul partner who knows you better than anyone else- shouldn’t he do everything in his power to see you happy and help you to find joy?
    Is a friend not one to support and encourage?
    What kind of a friend would he be, if he want you to choose between the security of love and the alliance of your friendship?
    And if your lover would be your love- shouldn’t he let you go to see if you will choose him again, because of your love to him? Shouldn’t he respect your bonds to your friends, who supported you over so many years till the point when he felt in love with you?

    To make it short: If you’re in such a situation it doesn’t seem to be that they are your real best friend and your love. Maybe you’re going to be better without both. Nevertheless you are better without your lover, because no way is to long with a friend at your side.

  450. To choose between a best friend and a boyfriend is an incredibly unfair and difficult decision. To abandon somebody who knows you so well, knows all your secrets, and has known you your entire life seems like one of the worst things you could do, however leaving behind a possible future you haven’t been able to experience could be equally awful. I personally would be unable to put someone new who hardly knows me is unfathomable. My best friend is a part of me, somebody I know I can always rely on, who will always be there for me. She knows every single thing about me, all my dreams, past and present. I bore her to death talking about boys and clothes sometimes, and she to me with Doctor Who and Sherlock Holmes, but if I was told I couldn’t see her or talk to her again, I’d be lost. In comparison to a new, hot boyfriend, I could never give that up. There’s plenty more fish in the sea, but only one best friend for me.

  451. Ségolène says:

    Love is a flower that may wilt overtime, while friendship becomes a tree we can hang on to. I’d choose my best friend.

  452. I think I will leave my boyfriend because a friend-a real one- stayed,is staying and will stay with you no matter what! This boyfriend can leave you tomorrow because you weren’t OK with him.And then,when you’ll be alone because you’ve said goodbye to your best friend you’ll be alone in your bed,crying… We have to not forget that your best friend is here when you’re crying and when you’re smiling;a new boyfriend is just here when you are OK… And I think if my best friend who really knows me and appreciates me didn’t like my boyfriend,I will be on my BFF’s side and not my boyfriend’s one…

    • Sonia (Frenchy) says:

      I think I will leave my boyfriend because a friend-a real one- stayed,is staying and will stay with you no matter what! This boyfriend can leave you tomorrow because you weren’t OK with him.And then,when you’ll be alone because you’ve said goodbye to your best friend you’ll be alone in your bed,crying… We have to not forget that your best friend is here when you’re crying and when you’re smiling;a new boyfriend is just here when you are OK… And I think if my best friend who really knows me and appreciates me didn’t like my boyfriend,I will be on my BFF’s side and not my boyfriend’s one…

  453. I’d choose my friend. Friendships are extremely hard to mend, especially so the ones that are so tight-knit and established. If, all of a sudden, I decided to “de-friend” my bestie, my life would be horrible. Literally. There’s only one best friend for me, and I wouldn’t want to ruin it with a possible guy. And plus, if he REALLY liked me, he’d try to figure things out with my bestie, you know?

  454. i think i would choose a best friend. Why throw away a great long time friendship? Hopefully things would work out all right in the end for everyone

  455. I would probably choose my best friend, a long friendship is worth more than a new love interest.

  456. I would probably choose the best friend but it would be difficult to forgive the best friend if she was purposely trying to break us up e.g. deleting the texts I got from him or tearing up a letter she was meant to give me from him.

  457. I would choose the friend because there will be more guys out there but there are not too many friends that are down to earth and worth staying with.

  458. camilalynn says:

    Si realmente te aman, no te harían elegir entre uno u otro. Los aceptarían por que vos sos más importante que cualquier enemistad entre ellos. En mi opinión. Sorry, buy I don´t know how translate this to english. I hope that you can understant what I want to say! Kissis from Argentina!

  459. this was a very easy choice. I would choose my friend, over any guy that looks gorgeous, no matter how much he says he loves me. If he really did he would never make me choose, he would know how much my best friend means to me, and would never for a second think that we’re not a package deal. I would choose my best friend over a guy a million times, even if he was a greek god. She would tell me I’m dumb for turning down that opportunity but I think she would be secretly happy ;P

  460. It’s always hard in these sorts of situations. In one hand, you have a really hot boyfriend and in the other you have your friend. Either way, you are going to get hurt one way or another by this decision.
    However I would choose a friend over a boyfriend.
    This is because the both of you have been best friends for ages. If any of you have had any trouble then you have always turned to each other for advice. Your best friend would of made you laugh, smile and feel better when your heart may of been broken by a previous boyfriend.
    You can’t just ditch your BFF when a new boyfriend comes along. BFF is Best Friends Forever!!!

  461. Vianca Morales says:

    That would be a very difficult situation. But for me, if my best friend is a real friend, she would respect my decision of being with the guy I love. And as for the guy, If he really loves me, he wouldn’t make me choose and just accept the fact that my best friend, is my best friend. If the two of them really care for me, they would support me on my decisions and wouldn’t make me choose between two of the most important people in my life.

  462. Oh man. I would like to think I’d choose my best friend, but I know what it’s like to choose between two situations of a best friend vs. whatever the opponent may be. And last time, I chose the other. I feel like if she were a really good friend and there was nothing wrong with the guy, she would try and make it work so I wouldn’t have to choose. So it would depend on the situation. But in this sort of situation, I’d probably choose the best friend.

  463. Of course, my best friend. Life teach me that is more important a friendship. Friends are always in your life.

  464. Men come and go, friends usually stay for good

  465. Okay, obviously I would pick my best friend. But the thing is, to be completely honest, if the best friend really loved you and the boyfriend really loved you, they wouldn’t ask you to pick, unless your best friend thought there was something actually wrong with your boyfriend, or vice versa. In which case, they should explain it, but still give you the choice.
    If the only reason they have, is their hate for each other, then that’s not legitimate. (Like, Boyfriend, you’re not going to be with her, you’re going to be with me. Best friend, you’re not being bffs with Boyfriend, you’re being bff with me.) In the end, if they both love you, they will be willing to sacrifice that much. But if they don’t then I’d obviously pick my best friend over a guy who I’ve only just recently started going out with. Unless it’s Justin (Bieber). Then…. I don’t really have a choice, do I?? ;) NO, IM ONLY KIDDING, I wouldn’t ditch my bff :)

  466. If i really had to choose i would choose my best friend because she’s the one who has known me for the longest, she know all my annoying little habits and loves me for them.

  467. Charlotte Frantz Hansen says:

    If I had to choose I would go with my best friend. But in my experience a really good friend would understand and accept my personal choices and therefore never ask me to make the pick between her and a boyfriend of mine.
    A longlasting friendship would always be stronger than any boyfriends.

  468. Hmm… Interesting question, I would always choose my bestfriend, since boys come&go however, a REAL friend wouldn’t mind if you were dating him :/ I mean its YOUR relationship and YOUR meant to be happy right? So suggesting you have to CHOOSE is evil :| So I wouldn’t choose any. Unless it was Orion… <3.<3

  469. It’s messed up that they would demand you choose. That’s not good friendshipping or boyfriending or whatever. If I HAD to choose, I’d probably pick my friend over my boyfriend. Or at least I’d say that I would when asked a hypothetical question and then probably do the opposite in reality. Because who would choose a guy over their friends? Oh that’s right- many, many people. I’m not saying it’s right- I’m saying it happens.

  470. Katherine K says:

    Best Friend. Def. I doubt there are a lot of comments saying otherwise. Friendship just comes first and it’s a NEW love interest we’re talking about here right? Not even out of the honeymoon phase and you want to throw away your best friend? Yeah… no haha

    But than again, it’s never happened to me. Hopefully never will, since right now best friend and boyfriend get along really well :) They were friends before I met him after all haha

  471. Tricia Halloran says:

    In that situation I would chose my best friend, but I would be really hurt that my best friend coudnt support me though. I qould talk to my best friend and ask her why she couldnt be happy for me. But I would hate to throw away my friendship over something as crazy as boys, seeing as they come and go alot!

  472. Tricia Halloran says:

    would*

  473. I would have to choose my friend. I’ve been placed in a situation like this before, and it rarely ever ends well for all parties involved. Go with what you feel is best, ethically I would advise others. Just make sure you know that one has been there through everything with you, and love can come and go.

    In the end, if they really care, they’ll stick through your choices no matter what and be there at the end of the day.

  474. I would choose my best friend, she knows when I am truly happy and if the boyfriend won’t except her than he has to go…..even though he’s hot. Bummer!

  475. Abi woodrow says:

    My best friend. I cant imagine life without my friends and even though the new relationship is exciting, I cant bring myself to choise them over my best friend

  476. Francinr Soleil says:

    I would probably choose my best friend, considering his/her intentions are good and true. Like what I always tell my best friend, lovers come and go but friends stay forever. There are very few perfect relationships that end with “they live happily ever after,” and you can never be certain which ones do. Choosing a boyfriend/girlfriend over your best friend is like taking a leap of faith in hoping that the boyfriend/girlfriend would never leave you. However, your best friend would stay with you through everything – all your bad times and good times. Which begs the question, are there really best friends who would want you to be unhappy by breaking up with someone you love? I’m not really sure. I’m glad I don’t have to worry about that.

  477. Alexis Pendleton says:

    I think it would be very sad if two people I really cared about asked me to choose between them. Shouldn’t the people who care about you support you? I don’t think I would choose either of them. If this love interest really wanted to be with me he wouldn’t ask me to choose. He would figure out a way to make it work. It’s not like they have to be around one another, even though that would be preferable to the current situation. As for my best friend, I know that if I ever asked my friend to make a decision like that I would be pretty upset with myself. When you care about someone you do what you can to support them. If she asked me to choose I would be pretty hurt. Things aren’t always so black and white though. I suppose it would come down to who is a better person to have in my life. I’m not sure I would want to lose my friend that I have known forever over a boy that probably won’t stick around.

  478. I would choose neither. A best friend should have my best interests at heart and a boyfriend is not worth my time if he wants me to jeopardize me friendships. If they really cared about me and my feelings they would both compromise.

  479. Linta Rashid says:

    If I were in this situation, I would choose my best friend, because boyfriends come and go, but best friends are forever. I would just go up into his face and tell him if he doesn’t get along with my bestie, he can just kiss me GOODBYE! Wait, I wouldn’t let him kiss me in the first place! I would tell him that he is the biggest retard I have ever met, and I would do it right in front of his closest friends. But since I’m too nice for that I would get him to break up with me, all do my best friend, because she’s definitely worth much more than crappy boyfriend. There are a lot of things I would give before my best friend. This is kinda long isn’t it? I’ll just end here.

  480. It makes me sad to see so many people choose best friends over boyfriends. Now, this is coming from someone who would (as I previously established) kick both to the curb.

    Here’s the thing, though: I’ve been out of school long enough–both public school and college–to know best friends don’t stay best friends the majority of the time. I have a deep love and affection for my best friends from high school and college. I hold them dear. But they are NOT my best friends anymore. That place belongs to two amazingly strong and incredible women who I met outside of any school or neighborhood setting. I met them in a setting that was well suited to me–the kind of setting where I got to PICK who I was friends with and wasn’t forced to get along with people who happened to live near by or pick the same college as I did.

    I appreciate how difficult it must be to see a future in which a best friend is no longer there, or in a role much more minimal than you expect. I have best friends who I used to call sisters that I now no longer talk to. And I have enemies who I loathed that I trust far more than I do those women. This is part of the price of adulthood–growth and change, which often (not always, as I know there are those happy few out there who have never had to experience this) lead us away from those friends we were convinced could never leave us.

    So, if I could give some unsolicited advice to all you lovely people who put such wonderfully commendable faith in your friends: take a chance on love. You may never be in the situation outlined above–I certainly hope you never are–but be willing to make that leap. Take that chance. Because those stalwart best friends you trust and love so much WILL understand that leap, should the time come. They may not like it. They may not want it. They may become more distant for a time. But they will understand it. And they will love you, if they are of the quality you believe them to be.

    Take a risk. Leave your comfort zone. Trust that amazing person beside you to continue to be amazing. Then love. It’s a risk worth taking.

  481. Sofia Sundfors says:

    That’s a very hard question. But I would start to hear them out in turn to hear their reasons for hating each other. If that’s not enough reason from any of them I think I would ditch them for a while until they’ve nocked some sence into their head.

    But if have to choose without knowing what lay behind, I would probably choose my best friend. But like I said, it’s a very hard question to answer on the spot like this.

  482. Arissa Nicole says:

    I would choose my best friend over any guy. To me friendship is more important than a guy, concerts, or fame. Your friends are always there for you so you should be too; even if this giving up something you desperately want. You should tell both of them and be honest about your decision and accept what will happen. I could never loose my best friend, they have always been there for me and have go through everything with me. If I lost them, that would be like loosing a part of me, and that will never happen.

  483. Well, before choosing I would try to see if there is any possibility of them reconciliating. I would ask them what is the real problem between them and if they could tolerate themselves for your sake. After all if they love you and want all the best for you they would at least try. On the other hand if there was really nothing else to solve isituation I would choose friendship. It lasts longer, people who you call friends stay by your side and help you in your most difficult times while boys come and go. It can be hard to make a choice but you have to ask yourself if you really want to leave your friend for someone who can break up with you any time he wants. I can’t really say I experienced that situation because I didn’t. But I have that really strong bond with my friends and I can’t imagine leaving them for a guy. They helped me when I needed, comforted me when I was sad and listened to me what was bothering me. That no guy could do nor could he understood me as a woman. So simply said friendships is my choice. At least it can help you get through break up while a single guy can’t comfort the loss of friend and replace it. And when you end a friendship in case like this there’s no turning back. Decision is final and you can never meet a friend that is just like that you had.

  484. I believe if your best friend and your boyfriend are going to make you choose between them, why not make them do the same? If they care you for enough, then they should accept you and the package that carry along with you. If they are unable to make a decision, then who can blame you? We all get caught in this situation sometimes in our life, so why stress out about it more than you need to? This is just my opinion, and I don’t mean to offend anybody.

  485. I would choose neither my friend or BF. They will have to understand that I will get hurt with their actions.I need them both or else they they can’t have me at all. :(

  486. If my best friend and my girlfriend hated each other, and I had to choose between them, it would one of the hardest decisions ever. I certainly couldn’t handle watching them go for each other’s throats. To stop this situation that would repeat more than a million times, I have to make a decision. Should I pick my best friend, who has always been there for me, who knew me better than I did myself? Or should I pick my girlfriend, who might very well be the love of my life? It’s a really, really, really hard decision. But I’d rather be in this situation, having to only have one in my life, than losing both of them. I’d probably choose my best friend, because she and I have been friends since our early childhood. Plus, my girlfriend would probably be the one I’m destined to be with. There is someone out there for me, who I will love, as well as get along with my best friend.

  487. I would give up the new and hot love interest because I have learned the hard way to put friends first over guys and that you miss your lasting memories and friendship that you had if you give up your friend over the guy. The guy will most likely dump you soon anyways.

  488. fien verniers says:

    I think I would choose my best friend, I mean she’s been with me all this time and I only just met the boyfriend, but in the first place I think that it’s wrong of them to make me choose and maybe I wouldn’t choose either of them…

  489. Hannah McAlister says:

    I believe that if they try to make you choose that
    you should make it clear that just because they hate eachother doesn’t mean that you can’t spend time with both of them, its not your fault they hate one another. And if they have a problem with it then they’ll just have to deal with it.

  490. Ashley Spraggs says:

    I would speak first with my Boyfriend and let him know that you have had your friend forever and that she is not going anywhere so if you have to choose then it would be her. If he does not want to lose you, ask that he at least attempt to get along with her not like, just be amicable. If he cares at least try. Then talk to your friend and let her know that it is important to you that she at least try as well. Not worth losing years of friendship over something silly like a guy. If she was your friend then she would at least do that for you. If things do not get better then I suppose things are not meant to be.

  491. If I had to choose over my best friend and new hot delicious boyfriend…? That’s a very hard question. I thought about it; and I think I would choose my bestfriend. Since, she’s always have been there for me. She was there for me, helped me, and lent me her shoulder whenever I needed to cry. I thought I’d choose my boyfriend because he’d be there for me just like a boyfriend. to you. I thought about it for DAYS and finally decided, my bestfriend would be my Then I realized that, boyfriends can come and go, hurt you betray you. A bestfriend would never do that. Do you know that saying,” there are more fish in the sea”? Well yeah, someone else will come to you eventually. Someone that your bestfriend won’t hate and support your relationship. My choice is my wonderful, helping, thereforyouforever, Bestfriend :) .

  492. This is a question.. that I wouldn’t be able to answer right away. I’ve been thinking about this for along time now, and well, considering everything that I’ve been through, I think I would have to give up my bf and always be beside my best friend >.<
    My best friend has always been there for me, no matter what happened. I could really do anything with her and she wouldn't mind at all. I could rage, cry, yell, or ignore her. But she would always still be here. On the other hand, bf's come and go.. I believe that there is a certain someone just waiting for the right person to be with and well.. "there are a lot of fish in the sea.." It hurts to let go of your "love interest," but I know my best friend will always be there to comfort me in times of need. As for bf's.. I feel like they could just let go of me any moment.
    But really, I don't know how I could ever give up either of them.

  493. Rebekah Johnson says:

    I don’t think a true friend or true love could expect me to make that decision so i think i would pick neither and tell them that if they really cared about me they would find a way to be work it out and until then, neither of them could have me. If they really cared about me, they’d know that i could never choose who i loved the least and if not then they obviously didn’t know me at all.

  494. My new hot delicious boyfriend? Or my bestfriend who’ve always been there for me? I’ve been thinking about this for many days. A boyfriend would be great, someone for you to love and care about. My bestfriend has always been there for me. Whenever I need help, she’s always there for me. She helped me get through my depression and lent me her shoulder whenever I cried. She’s been through almost everything with me. Would I give up my boyfriend for my bestfriend? Definitely! Do you know that saying ” There are more fish in the sea”? well yeah! Boyfriends come and go but your bestfriend will always stay. Another person will come eventually, a person that your bestfriend WON`T hate. A relationship that your bestfriend will support. Guys come and go, you don`t know if they’ll hurt you or betray you. A bestfriend will always be there for you to support you through everything that’s going to happen in the future. I choose “bestfriend” :).

  495. My new hot delicious boyfriend? Or my bestfriend who’ve always been there for me? I’ve been thinking about this for many days. A boyfriend would be great, someone for you to love and care about. My bestfriend has always been there for me. Whenever I need help, she’s always there for me. She helped me get through my depression and lent me her shoulder whenever I cried. She’s been through almost everything with me. Would I give up my boyfriend for my bestfriend? Definitely! Do you know that saying ” There are more fish in the sea”? well yeah! Boyfriends come and go but your bestfriend will always stay. Another person will come eventually, a person that your bestfriend WON`T hate. A relationship that your bestfriend will support. Guys come and go, you don`t know if they’ll hurt you or betray you. A bestfriend will always be there for you to support you through everything that’s going to happen in the future. I choose “bestfriend” .

  496. If this situation ever arises then I would choose my best friend. My best friend and I have been through a lot together and I would never give that away for someone that I had just recently met…even if he was my hot new boyfriend. However, I already know that my best friend would never make me choose. She would try to work things out between the two of them (even if she really hated him) and I would also try my hardest to help them get past this. If she couldn’t make things work and still really hated him I would choose her because I know her really well and know that she wouldn’t hate anyone if she didn’t have a major reason behind it. I would listen to both of their stories though, but in the end, I would still probably pick my best friend because we have a sisterly connection that no boy could ever get between.

  497. Angie Napolitano says:

    I think, if this ever happened to me, i would stick with my best friend. I mean honestly, just because that boy is soo hot does not mean that he is great boyfriend material. He could turn out to be a complete jerk! But, i know that my friend will always be there for me no matter what. I wouldn’t want to lose an awesome relationship like that to be with some guy that i probably will only be with for maybe a year or two. I am only 15 so its not like i’m looking for a super long relationship that could turn into marriage. If that guy won’t except my friend and at least tolerate being with her for me, then he is definitely not the one i want to be with. As much as i wish they could work through their differences, i wouldn’t abandon my friend. We’ve always been there for each other and have shared so many great memories and inside jokes, i dont think i would be able to live without her. I would choose my best friend.

  498. I would have to give up the new hot boyfriend because if he really loved me he would make it work between my best friend and himself! Plus why would I sacrifice a life long friendship?

  499. choose the friend

  500. Josh Strong says:

    It depends why they hate each other… But it would probably be the love interest because the friendship is a stronger bond however, by choosing the friend it makes you feel bad because your giving up on a relationship because your best friend hates your new lover, making the friendship awkward because it is the friends fault for the break up! So really in the end you loose both as you would argue with the friend and already lost the love interest.

  501. Hm, in this situation, you should figure out why ur best friend and ur boy- friend don’t like each other. And then try to fix the problem. If you can’t, then you could try to get them to get along but if that doesn’t work out, then the choice is up to you. there is not right or wrong choice, it’s a matter of opinion. But since you asked, I would choose neither of them. I either of them cared, then they would try to look past their problems and try to figure something out, for you! I hope I helped! btw, I love Starcrossed and Dreamless! I’m on team Orion….. *blushes ^_^;

  502. I would give up the boyfriend. If I put myself in this situation with the best friend I have now, I could never leave her. I would be devastated. The new boyfriend would (sadly) have to go. My friend could easily make me feel better after a break-up but I don’t think that a newly found boyfriend could cheer me up after a “break-up” with my best friend for whom I’ve known almost my entire life.

  503. I’d give up the love interest because friends are forever, boys (or girls depending on your inclination) are not. My best friends are like my family. I know they’ll be there for me regardless of what guys come and go in my life.

  504. Well, if my best friend is my best friend, she would never make me choose. I have been in that situation, so I speak from my own experience. They didn’t get along in the beginning. But, in time, they learned to coexist, and now, they are good friends. My best friend will tell me what she thinks, but, if she puts me in the position where I have to choose, than, she is not my best friend. You don’t stick with your best friend only when it suits you, you stick always, whether you like the boyfriend or not, no matter what.

  505. This is a difficult question that I have been pondering over for the past five minutes. On the one hand you love them both. They have both become a huge part of your life which makes it an even more difficult choice to make. On the other hand you have your best friend that you have known longer an trust more than your new boyfriend. I would first try to understand why my friend does not like my boyfriend and why she/ he thinks that I should break up with him. If in the circumstance that I really had to choose between the two I think that I would choose my best friend. There will always be other guys and other fish in the sea but you only get one true best friend in a lifetime. I would not want to through away years of friendship over a guy. Although I have never been truly in love with a guy before so my answer may change upon the time that I fall truly and madly in love with a guy but for right now I would pick my friend. It is a lot harder to find another friend than it is to find another man to love.

  506. If both my best friend and boy friend ever asked me this, I’d dump them both. Ask yourself, why are you still arould these people? Nobody who cares about you should ever make you choose. You can always get a new best friend and a new boy friend who won’t ask you this. Both friends and boyfriends come and go, you can always get sombody better, who respects your decitions and would never pressure you. Anybody who would do this shouldn’t be given the time of day, never mind be such a big part of your life.So to answer your question, neither.

  507. *decisions

  508. maheleate woldegiorgis says:

    this is a very tricky question, but i find if either one of them cared about me, they wouldn’t ask this question and just try to work it out between them. anyways i’d probably choose my boyfriend, i always think that your true love would become your everything, including your bestfriend. this may sound dumb but thats what i think

  509. I have given this a lot of thought. I truly believe that real friendship and love between 2 people, whether it’s a platonic relationship or not, can withstand anything. If they are both giving me this ultimatum then they truly do not care for my feelings and I what I want. They are thinking of themselves. If they can’t at least tolerate each other so I can have the 2 people I care for most in my life then they are not who I thought them to be. I would choose neither. I would have to say goodbye to both of them, no matter how hard and heart wrenching, and move on with my life. When you truly love and care for someone, there are times when you have have to sacrifice your feelings for their happiness. I would do this for my friends, bite my tongue and smile so they could have their piece of happiness; because seeing them happy is what makes me happy. Now, this would depend on the reason for hating each other. If there was a deeper story then I would take that into consideration, whereas if it is just a mutual dislike with no grounds for it, then I would do as I stated above.

  510. rachel bull says:

    i hope i really win PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE i cant wait and i think this was a very good idea i just love your books and i dont think i can wait until may i finished dreamless in one whole day (to be exact in 12 hrs straight!) i read a lot please let me be the winner!!!!!!!! i want to know what happens between orion and helen and lucas its driving me nuts PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE pick ME!!!!!!

    • rachel bull says:

      i would chose the boyfriend love is a very strong thing and can be very wonderful and worth it in the end i believe in true love therefore if i ever got the chance i would take it and never look back :)

  511. Maybe I´m young to say this, but if my best friend is actually my best friend, she would never make me choose between her and the person I love; on the other hand, the person you love should never want to see you away from your friends; but to be honest, when you share your life with someone else, the rest of the world doesn´t really matters, so I guess I would choose the boyfriend because I could never see my best suffering because of me, I would like her to be happy with her partner, so I realise that the same rule should apply to me.

  512. Rebecca Brown says:

    No contest: I would choose my best friend every time. having never been in love, this question is probably easier for me than others, but really, I would probably be a different person (and not a better one) without my best friend. Also, having lost several best-friends during my life I can reliably say that felt way worse than losing a boyfriend.

  513. Sun Harris says:

    I would choose my new (and hot) love interest. First of all, my boyfriend could have been my one true love. And to chance upon someone like that, it’s truly rare. Even if it’s a 1: 1,000,000 probability, at least there is a chance. And my best friend, being my best and wonderful friend, she should be accepting my choice, no matter. Even if i would make a mistake by being with my boyfriend, who may turn out to be a complete asshole, as my bff, she should stick and stand by me, no matter. Because at the end of the day, if roles were reversed, i would do the same for her, in standing by her in finding her real true love. And if the guy really turns out to be her true love, then she will be at her happiest and i will be truly happy for her too. Everyone deserves a shot at finding their real love.

  514. Phallene Tek says:

    If they truly cared about your happiness they wouldn’t make you choose. I’d dump they one that gave me the ultimatum.

  515. If my best friend is a real good friend, he’d understand me and wouldn’t make me choose. If my boyfriend was a good guy, he’d understand how important a best friend is. If I had to choose, I’d leave the boyfriend and keep my best friend. But in real life, I’m just lucky enough that my best friend is also my boyfriend :)

  516. I would definately choose my best friend- they’ve stood the test of time, and boyfriends come and go in high school. I would be worth it in the long run.

  517. Alysha Collis says:

    If my boyfriend doesn’t get along with my best friend, then he is definitely not the right guy for me and it is just not meant to be. My best friend and i share a bond that no boy (no matter how amazing) could break. I just love her too darn much and there would have to be a good reason why she disapproves of the boyfriend!

  518. I would give up the hot boyfriend before I give up my best friend, if she’s truly a best friend then she must see something bad that I may be blind to, and the boyfriend, being new and all, shouldn’t be making a huge me or them speech already.

  519. Belinda UD says:

    I think that not fallowing your heart is not easy but loosing a friendship isn’t either so I think it’s selfish of them to ask the impossible. Choosing your friend and spent a life-time of regrets hell no, but loosing him or her because of love…Non, so i would probably choose my BF and spent a life time of regrets…

  520. A true friend woudn’t stand in your way to find happiness in love. A true friend would make some efforts to at least get along with the new love intrest. So my answere is that I would chose the new hot intrest because maby its not for life and maby it is who is my friend to stop me from finding out? If we are best friends and have been for a long time she/he would know me well enough to see that the new love intrest is important to me and should support me and if not he/she is’nt truly my best friend.

    But the perfect scenario would ofcourse be that keep seeing them both but on my own. But I would follow love any day because he or she would also become a new best friend even though its heart breaking to lose an old one!

  521. Billie Surrey says:

    Give up new hot love interest. its only an interest… you can always look for another.

  522. The new boyfriend because guys come an go but friendship lasts forever

  523. Marie Claire says:

    well, on the one hand, i think i would choose my best friend of course.. but on the other hand, if she or he was my bestfriend, she/he wouldn’t let me choose between those two things. in my opinion if its really your best friend, she/he would accept your boyfriend because of your feelings. a true friend wouldn’t be standing in your way of finding true love.

  524. First of all, before i even give up one or the other i would try to figure out why they don’t like each other and see if i could fix it or not. IF push came to shove ad there is no compromise I would have to choose my life long friend. Those kind of friendships are rare and i wouldn’t want to lose it. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.

  525. For me, it would depend on who asked me to choose first and what their reasons were. If I felt that my Boyfriend was truly the one for me, nothing would keep us apart. If he was just some hot guy that I like a lot, I would choose my best friend.

  526. Becky Williams says:

    Normally I would say friend.

    But with my personal experiences as of late, you can’t even trust your oldest and best friend.

    So considering now I will say I would go with the fella as both can break your heart!

  527. Toni Davis says:

    This is in a immposible question to ask because there have got to be other factors at play like why they hate each other in the first place and why they are making you choose. Honestly if they are childish enough to say they would never speak to you again if you continue to date or be friends with neither are worth my time. If there a true friend they will understand your wants as well as there own if there not capaible of that well life moves on people change. Its sad but its the truth as for the boyfriend well a possive thing in small doses can be a agood thing but wanting to control your life nobody can do that for you.

  528. Nicole Thompson says:

    Oh no! Everyone is going to hate me haha!

    I’d chose my new hott boyfriend because if my best friend was really as supportive and loving as is implied, she would know enough to believe that he is a great guy, despite whatever it is she hates about him. And if things didn’t work out I have no doubt that she’d forgive me and we would conspire against the guy together.

  529. i would choose my BFF over some guy :)

  530. I would choose my best friend. It would be hard to let go of the guy but my best friend comes first. She would make that sacrifice for me. Sisters before misters!

  531. i would choose my best friend I’ve known her for longer and boys come and go!

  532. Sarah Sch. says:

    I probably would chose my best friend.
    I mean a heartbreak isn’t a nice thing to go through at all, but to give up a friend, who was in your life for so long and with whom you’ve spent so much time and had so many nice moments with, is something I wouldn’t totally throw away for a boyfriend. especially not when all your friends are friends with one another (as it is really often) and by giving up one friendship you basically give up all the other friends as well…

  533. Taylor Smith says:

    If my best friend and my boyfriend didn’t like each other and I would have to pick between them, I would chose my best friend. Friends will always be there for you and boyfriends come and go. I could never hurt my best friend so, sorry boyfriend I guess I would have to dump you…unless you had a sudden change in perspective and wouldn’t mind being around my best friend.

  534. the boyfriend. no question. because your friends will always be there after the boys are long gone.

  535. Tessa Knudsen says:

    If I knew my boyfriend and my best friend could never and would never get along I would chose my best friend. She’s been there for me through everything and we’ve never left each others side when life get hard and I could never throw that away for a boy no matter how hot. A good friend who has never betrayed your trust is a thousand times better than a boy, there’s alot of fish in the sea but there’s only one girl who will be your best friend for life and stand by you through it all.

  536. I wouldnt choose between them. If they truly cared about me, they would find a way to get past their mutual dislike of the other.

    Thanks for giveaway!

  537. Friend. Definately. If it’s only a new boyfriend then i wont know what i’m missing if we seperate early, whereas my best friends have been around for ages and i know that they will always be with me :)

  538. Katie Mazur says:

    I would choose neither of them. If someone was really my best friend they wouldn’t make me choose and a good boyfriend wouldn’t either.

  539. I choose my friend. The friend will be there no matter what. The boyfriend? Probably not.

  540. Malin Skog says:

    There’s new fishes in the sea!

    To make a choice between my longtime best friend and a boy that I just met… ?
    That choice is easy!

    As they use to say: Bro’s befo hoes!
    Since I’ve known my friend for much longer than I’ve known my new boyfriend, I know that my friend will support me in any matter.
    In the start of a new realtionship you usually don’t know everything about eachother. You’d find out so much about eachother along the way. My best friend and I know a whole lot more about one another than me and my boyfriend.
    I’d rather lose a new boyfriend than a best friend.
    You can’t have to many friends, there is someone out there who can be my boyfriend and be a friend to my best friend.

  541. Honestly, first I’d find out why they don’t like each other. If my friend gas a problem, there has to be a good reason. In the end though, I’d honestly pick my friend. I’ve only known the guy for so long, and if he’s asking me to choose between him and my friend, then he isn’t the one.

  542. I would say grow up and get along b/c you’re hurting me too much.

  543. If neither of them want to try to make up with each other, i’d probably choose my best friend, because you can try to forget about your love interest, it can even be one of your great memories years later, but true friendship last forever and i don’t want to lose this important person. If I don’t have someone i can talk to about my life, problems and love, i wouldn’t be myself. My friend is more important to me than my love interest, because i can try to find another one, and this one maybe will accept my bond with my friend :)
    But still i would really try to make them up. I’d like to thank my friend Ada, she always try to make me feel better after sad situations and is always there for me ;)

  544. I would hope they both loved and respected me enough to accept each other but if it came down to it and I absolutely had to, absolutely no doubt I would pick my best friend! My best friend is there for me in everything since forever, nobody could take her place :-) x

  545. I would defiantly choose my best friend because, she would end up changing my mind about the guy anyway!

  546. So, If she is my best friend, and he is inlove with me, then they wouldn’t ask me to do that, because they should both put me first,despise their feelings, they should be the ones choosing, because they are the ones that have a problem, not me, I love them both in different ways, so in the end I think that they shouldn’t leave their problems, their desitions to me.
    But still of course, if Im let myself to that possition of having to choose one of them, I would choose neither, because friends don’t do that, despise my feeling for the guy, if she makes me choose then she ain’t worth it, and maybe he neither, but if is choosing, I will indesd choose him.
    I know is weird, not choosing the friend, because”friendship last forever” but again , also does LOVE, and if is trully, and pure, then it will also last, the way Helena’s and Lucas’s does, despise my only example is from science fiction, I choose to belive it,to belive in LOVE above all, and friends are supose to be forever, they are soposed to be puse, and judgeless, so If they are not, if they don’t want you to be HAPPY, then they are not friends, they are just people that are in your life.
    final conclussion: I’ll chose the guy (please read how i got to this).
    PS:Love the saga, Im complitly enchanted , I read it almos every night, and I have the books in spanish, english, and spanish :D I love to read it over and over, it seems like it always surprise me , despice I already know the end :)
    So I m trully sorry if there are spelling mistakes ,Im still learning how to write properly, Im from Argentina.. :)
    I will love to get goddes, really love it
    Pilar

  547. Kaylee Varner says:

    I would probably get rid of them both, because if they really cared they wouldn’t make me choose, but if I had to pick I’d keep the friend. Best friends can help you get through anything, and I wouldn’t care that I’ve been waiting my entire love for a good love interest, because friends are more important than loves you’re not sure about…

  548. Friendship! As the Spice Girls once sang: If you wanna be my lover you gotta get with my friends
    make it last forever friendship never ends! :)

  549. I would definitely choose my best friend. I lost my best friend in a tragic accident 2 years ago, and looking back I wish i would have spent more of my time with her, rather than chasing after my latest crush. So, I would definitely choose my best friend over my latest love interest.

  550. Kelly Wang says:

    I don’t really believe in the love at first sight saying..I mean look at what happened with Helen and Lucas when they first saw each other. They had to get to know each other first. I don’t think the majority of us marry our high school sweet hearts. Friends last forever..however if your best friend is a true friend, she would never make you choose. She would learn to deal with it instead of making you choose. I would choose my best friend because friends are with us till the end, through thick and thin. You have to keep in mind that your high school boyfriend will be someone else’s wife later on in life, but even though I chose my best friend, I stil stick with my point made earlier. Real friends wouldn’t make you go through the pain of choosing.

  551. Love had always been important for humanity and it can be shared in many ways. The most famous type of love is of course the romantic relationship between people. For me love means a strong attachment to another person (not necessarily romantic). Love means to be able to sacrifice for that one person, but to still know your self worth and to still have your dignity, otherwise it is just plain obsession which is unhealthy. Love grows with time and that is why the love between family members is the strongest. To answer the question I had to explain what love means to me. The love between friends is the second to family love, although I do consider my family my friends, especially my mom. So I would choose my friend over a hot guy. Let me explain. A guy can sometimes mess with your head in a way that can result in confusion. Love is difficult to detect when it is new and I don;t think it can happen all of a sudden. I am close to erasing the thought of love of first sight out of my mind. There can be attraction at first sight, which might eventually develop into friendship and then into love. Everything has its stages, and love is no exception. So now the question narrows down to whether I would choose physical attraction over unconditional love for a friend. Although the result is obvious and the question seems like a rhetorical at this stage, I will have to say that I would choose to keep a friend in a blink of an eye if there was nothing else to be done. I would of course try to settle this battle between them and if they truly did care for me they would not make me choose. I know that from personal experience. Having to choose only creates more prejudices and unpleasant memories and it destroys trust-even among friends. I learnt that the hard way and I am glad I did. Sometimes the hardest decisions require an unpleasant sacrifice.

  552. I would most definately choose my friendship. You are typically the people you are around the most. And an old friendship has most definately gone through its ups and downs. Now with said friendship I would hope that they wouldn’t make me choose them over hot guy, because i would hope they just wanted me to be happy and would bite their tongue and silently wish they relationship didnt last long. Unless said friend knew something bad about said boy and is only trying to protect me (then i could forgive them for being a bitch about things and trying to make me choose one over the other.)

    With said boy, if he couldnt get along with my bff, or friends/family, then he simply isnt worth the drama and stress said relationship with him would cause. So if he gave me the altimatum his ass would be on the curb before he could finish the sentence. :) Although if he really wanted to make our relationship work, and really wanted to put forth the effort to get along with said family and friends. eh.. i’d give him the chance, and plead to family and friends to atleast give him a chance.

  553. I would choose the long time friend. If your best friend doesn’t approve of the boy, then you should know that he’s not good enough for you. Plus, the boy is new. You don’t know him well enough to decide if he’s a keeper or your “soul mate” or something along those lines. The friend will be there until you don’t need her/him anymore.

  554. difficult question
    uhm I guess I would tell them both to ‘stop being so ridiculous and if not then they can both just BEEEEEEP off’
    cause if they really cared they wouldn’t make me choose

    However it’s my best friend we’re talking about here so I guess one of us would come around eventually
    Though it could take a long looooooong time since we’re both so incredibly stubborn

    The boyfriend though I’m not so sure plus we haven’t been dating that long
    So I would be sad and heartbroken for a while but nothing like losing a best friend

    In the end boys come and go but real friendship last forever right?

  555. Funnily enough, I’m currently the best friend in a situation like this. My best friend’s guy and I really don’t get on, but I know she loves him and his happy with him so I suck it up. There doesn’t need to be a choice, and I think a choice is the worst thing to affect both relationships regardless of the decision. If they’re a good enough best friend and boyfriend, then they’ll learn to live with each other to make you happy.

  556. The truth is, i know how it is like. But I was the best friend and my friend chose her boyfriend instead of me. Really, he hated me and i didn’t even know it. He started to tell her bad things about me and she is so naive, so she choose him instead of me. I was sad for a time. That’s why I’m going to say: I choose my friends, always. No matter what happens. If my boyfriend hates my friend and he starts telling me to choose between a long friendship and him, sorry boy, but i’m going to fidn someone better.

  557. Wow that’s a hard one… I guess in that case the past is very important, too. Has she been my best friend forever? Or just a short time? And how is my new boyfriend usually with girls? Generally, I would say that a true, deep friendship is more important than a new relationship, which might just be a fling. BUT I would actually be disappointed in both of them. There should be some way to handle such a situation in a “grown up” way. The most important reason to choose the friend would be, that my new boyfriend might have problems with my other friends, too. And I would definitely not give upseveral friendships for one guy.

  558. Id definitely pick my best friend, I mean it’s an obvious choice, especially seeing as how it’s a guy you’ve only recently started going out with. And he’s someone you like, but it’s not like he’s the love of your life or anything.

  559. Well I honestly don’t think that I would be able to choose. They would have to come to terms with each other or run the risk of loosing me in their lives it is unfair for someone to make u choose between two people you obviously care very deeply for.. definitely not my problem they don’t get along but like I said if they love and care about me they will be civil towards equal h other and who knows maybe down the road they will realize they are more alike then they think;)

  560. Well this situation would be very disastrous…because I care about my friends and if I have a boyfriend, it means he’s special! So there isn’t any chance that they make peace? For me? ok ok…there is war between them, I understand it but if I have to choose I wouldn’t make it! First my imaginary-boyfriend can’t ask me to choose, he have to know that a friend is a friend…would he like that I make him choose between his bests and me?I think no…and then there is my best friend! She wants the best for me, no? Well if they don’t think twice about it, I don’t know what to do then! Sure my best will be always someone that I cannot stop talking…so imaginary-boyfriend I think we have to call a pause or how they call it xD
    Laaadyxx bacioni :D

  561. I’d pick my best friend. The boy, well, he may just not be the one. It’s not like he’s the love of my life right? :-D

  562. Katelyn L. says:

    I would choose my best friend over the guy, because as the saying says guys come and go, but best friends stick around.

  563. I would probably choose the boyfriend. If my best friend is truly my best friend, she would want me to be happy and try and make things work with the guy. He might end up being the perfect guy for me, and who knows maybe she’d come back around.

  564. Choose yourself. No one has the right to make you choose something in your heart that you know is wrong. If you choose one person over another it will leave a scar that you’ll feel forever, so instead, choose yourself and that way even though your losing them both you won’t be making the wrong choice. if they love you and can’t be without you then they will have to find a way to get over their differences and make the effort to be apart of your life. If not then neither of them deserve to be in your life.

  565. The best friend for sure!

  566. I would say good bye to the boy friend. But I would also be quite upset that my friend made me choose. Friends should never do that but no boy is worth giving up a true friend.

  567. Es dificil contestar a esta pregunta…., si se diese el caso en mi vida elegiria a mi amor, mi novio.Es verdad que amigos verdaderos hay pocos pero con quien compartes realmente tu vida es con tu novio en quien piensas todo el dia y con el que te quieres meter a la cama todas las noche, y haria que el fuese mi mejor amigo…Kiss

  568. I would totally choose my friend, no guy is ever worth throwing away a great friendship.

  569. Well for starters, if my best friend we’re truly my best friend, she would not ask me to give up on true love just because she does not like the guy; she’ll have to come up with a better reason than that. After all I would never ask my friend to choose between me and a guy unless there was something seriously wrong with the relationship or if he were hurting her. That being said, for any man who asks me to give up on those I love, well he doesn’t truly love me then because he does not realize that the people closest to me make up who I am and without those people, I would not be the person he fell in love with in the first place. Thus I would choose my friend, because I’m better off without a guy who does not accept all of me. :)

  570. Kristy Coleman says:

    Depends on each relationship I have with my friend and boyfriend. If I have a stronger relationship with the friend then I’ll pick the friend while if I have a closer relationship with the boyfriend then I’d choose him. But anyway I think it wouldn’t be their right to force me to choose either way. If the friend knows how much I love the boyfriend why is she making me choose and if the boyfriend loved me a lot why would he make me chose between one of my good friends and him. From that aspect I would chose neither because they’re thinking mainly of what they gain not what I lose from this choice.

  571. I would say that the person that is my bestfriend, wouldnt really be my bestfriend if they said that. So i would say “I wont do anything. It’s your choice, if you want to ruin this relationship. Its not my choice it’s yours,” to both the boyfriend and the bestfriend. And if they would say im gone then they weren’t worth my time and I’m better without them.

  572. I actually would make them choose. Whoever wants to stay with me, should stay with me. If they choose me instead of their petty dislike for one another, they would actually be showing me how much they appreciate me and our bond would actually grow stronger. If one of them or both dont choose me, then they would be showing their true colors to me and, even if it hurts, it is probably best to cut off that loose end. If the love interest and the friendship are meant to be then dont worry, they will remain by your side.

  573. Make it easy…marry the best friend (of either gender!)

  574. I would tell them to not put me in the middle of their problem, and if they’re really deciding to leave me because they don’t like the other person, then they’re both leaving me until they settle it between each other.

  575. Lorin Blackburn says:

    In this situation I would find a way to get both. Each relationship is important. Friendships are forever and as a best friend they should try their best to support me, even if they do not like my boyfriend. The boyfriend if he liked me and wanted the situation to work out should allow me to spend time with my friend. Relationships are work and they can be the greatest thing on Earth but they are give and take on both sides, and in this situation I shouldn’t have to chose. If they are insisting that I make a choice then I would chose myself and tell both of them that I deserve better.

  576. This is a really tough question but I think I choose my boyfriend. If I think am in love with him my bestfriend would have to understand . A true friend does not have to like my new boyfriend. She just should support me :)

  577. if they really cared about you then they wouldn’t have you make a choice in the first place but you always have to remember that your friends will always be there for you no matter what but the guy mightn’t be…..

  578. I hesitated for a moment on this question. The obvious answer is that a long-term friendship is more important than a relationship with a guy, no matter how hot he is. But I recently lost a very good friend over something silly; our friendship was messed up so bad that there’s no going back.

    Despite this, I’d say I’d leave the boyfriend. But I’m a cautious person when it comes to investing trust in one person.

  579. Linn Albertsson says:

    First of all it’s just so wrong to have to choose between either, a true friend stands by your side no matter how much she hates your boyfriend. I’ve been that friend to those that have had boyfriends that have rubbed me the wrong way but never ever wanted them to choose between us, You just have to accept that he is the one your friend likes and thats that.
    So a true friend wouldn’t ask that of you ever!!
    A guy that really cares for you and wants whats best for you woulden’t want to make you choose either. They would accept that that person is my friend and let me have some time a lone with her, not neccesarely have to be in on every meeting with her and as best try to get along with her.
    So in that situation I would have to seperate the both relationships, not make them associate with eithother and just work on the whole thing. But if in the end it doesn’t work then I would have to choose my friend over my boyfriend, no matter how hot he is.

  580. Katharina Schramm says:

    I´m not sure if I would choose at all…of course a friendship is more important than a boy…but a real friend would not make me choose between her or the love I just found…and vice versa…If he really loves me he wouldn´t make me choose either!! So I propably would not choose either one!!!

  581. Elaina Stallo says:

    I would say that if both people truely cared about how I felt they would both make the attempt to get along for my happiness.

  582. Give up the guy… He’s new and your friend hopefully is true.

  583. Most likely my best friend because if my boyfriend ever dumped me and i didn’t have my best friend who would help me get over him than i would be stuff out of luck.

  584. I wouldn’t choose. I would tell them to suck it up because it’s not like they have to have a relationship.
    Of course i’d try to talk to both of them and try to get them to “make up” but i wouldn’t choose one of them just because they want that from me. My best friend is really important to me and i think would i choose i would choose her but if my boyfriend is someone i really love than she’d have to accept that and stop sulking :)

  585. I would deffinatly choose my best friend without question, because she has always been there for me and I know she would never leave or deliberatly hurt me(: Uterus before duderus!!

  586. Anthea Davis says:

    well first of all i would think that my best best friend would understand as you have been through so much with her, your best friend should always be their to support you no matter the situation and should try to get along with my boyfriend unless hes a cheating jerk, and at that she would have my permission to hate him. But also my boyfriend should want the best for me and should come together and try to work things out. Also i would wonder why my best friend hates my new boyfriend i mean their most be something wrong as my best friend would always be the supporting type.

    OK i may have rambled a bit but i have reached a conclusion i would definitely pick my best friend, she knows me better than him and i know her, so if my best friend don’t like my new boyfriend then i would try to find out why and go from there.

  587. Angela Cummins says:

    I have found that really good friends, and I mean REALLY GOOD longterm friends are very few and far between and to be cherished above all else. Definitely not something to be sacrificed over the possibility of a relationship, even if he is hot, exciting, and new. I actually lost a best friend this way and have always regretted my choice.

  588. Hmm, what kind of best friend would make me choose? And if my new boyfriend was trying to make me pick between them, what would that mean for any possible future between us? It seems like I have bad taste in best friends and boys. I would probably choose a best friend over a new love interest, unless I was in love with him, in which case who knows.

  589. I would choose best friend over boyfriend normally. But in my case, my best friend is my fiancee. So I don’t need to worry about that. :)

  590. I would choose neither. Unfortunately they have put you in the uncomfortable position of having to choose between them (your best friend and your hot new boyfriend). This isn’t fair. If they both cared about you enough then they wouldn’t make you choose between them. If your best friend knows you as well as you think she does then she will see that you really like this guy and will make an effort for your sake to tollerate him. If this guy is as amazing and perfect as you believe then he will accept the fact that your best friend is part of the package that comes with dating you. In the end the most loyal will stay by your side, whether it is one, both or neither of them.

  591. I hate these situations. My decision would probably be to tell them both if they care about me they would find the way to communicate with each other, that is all they need to do.

  592. Alejandra says:

    In this situation I would question how my “best friend” and “boyfriend” would even ask me to choose between them. Her personal feelings toward him and his personal feelings towards her wont effect how I feel about either of them. They should both want me to be happy as I would for them. Plus I do not belong to either one and I can hang out with both equally. Also if there is that much animosity between them I would make them fix it or they would both lose me and I wouldn’t want that. I would never ask my boyfriend to stop hanging out with one his friends just as I would never ask my best friend who is like a sister to me to choose me or a guy she really likes. Because in the end if this is the guy I end up really falling in love with and want to marry I would want my best friend right there at my side as my maid of honor. :)

  593. I would choose neither of them. I know it sounds selfish but I would choose myself. Whichever decision I make it will hurt me, so I would tell them how much they mean to me and make them understand that this is the reason why I am not choosing between them. They have put me in the uncomfortable position of deciding who will remain in my life (my best friend or my hot new boyfriend). It isn’t fair. If my best friend knows and cares about me as much as I think, then she should see that this guy is important to me and make an effort for my sake to at the very least tolerate him. If this guy is really perfect for me than he will understand that my best friend is part of the package that comes with dating me. In the end, the most loyal will stay by my side whether that is one, both or neither of them.

  594. I would like to say that i would choose my best friend but i don’t know if i actually would. I mean what kind of best friend would force me to choose between her and the one i love? For me thats not really a great friend. My best friend should stay by my side anyway. If she hates my boyfriend, she does not need to socialize with him. he’s my love not hers. so in the end i would probably decide that i don’t want to be with either of them. Because if they really love you they would not force you to choose.

  595. Tough call! i would talk to my friend and boyfriend and see whats the hay is messed up between and let them know that their forcing me isn’t love on either side. if they didnt see that then i would have to choose neither. true love doesnt make people choose like that.

  596. I would probably choose neither. A best friend would never make you choose, and if my boyfriend actually loved me he would deal with my friend. He wouldn’t have to be her friend, she’s mine, not his. True love doesn’t make you choose something like that. A true love would accept things the way they were and love you for everything you have.

  597. Oh god, this one’s a toughie. I mean the obvious answer to this question would be your best friend because you know she’s been with you through thick and thin and I bet she’d do the same thing for you but I mean what if it’s true, true love, like with Helen and Lucas, that has transcended eras and wars? I would imagine then that the decision would intensify. Who would you let go? The friend that has been with you through EVERYTHING and who you would die for? Or for the new and passionate love interest that has made your life worth living? I’d like to say that I would choose my friend and be loyal but when I am in a pressure sensitive situation I make rash decisions and I think with my heart instead of my head so I would most likely choose my man. I don’t like what I lost but am satisfied with what I gained.

  598. If I had a boyfriend and he and my best friend hated each other, who would I pick? That’s going to be really hard to answer….
    Well, I know friendship is supposed to last forever with your BFF. You’re supposed to share secrets with them, they’re supposed to support you, thy’re supposed to be there for you, and you’re supposed to trust them with all of your heart. Boyfriends are also, supposed to be there for you, care for you, LOVE you till the end of time (if there’re that committed), you’re supposed to trust them, there’re supposed to trust you, help you, protect you, if you do something wrong there’re not supposed to hate you right after if they love you a lot and, if they love you that much then they would/ should be willing to save you from sudden death (die for you). (I know, I’m probably going into the section, “that stuff only happens in fairy-tales not reality”, but it can happen because I have seen it with my own eyes and I can also name a few people (not fictional) that, that has happened to).

    What happens if you, your BFF, and your boy friend grew up together as BBF’s? That would be really hard to choose from (for me at least), because I would have shared memories, secrets, life stories, and my good and bad times with both of them. They are both my BFF’s, but one would be my lover and the other would be like a sister to me. I could never choose between the two of them, and if they hate me, and don’t like me for not choosing, then, they’re not really my BFF’s because, they aren’t supporting me, they’re letting me fall down with no one to watch my back.

    I know I didn’t answer your question, but the thing is, I can’t, I have never been in that situation before and if I was, then I would have a really really stressful time trying to figure out what I should do. Hopefully, I won’t be in that situation and I hope, that in the future, if I do have a, loving, caring, protective, trustful, handsome, etc… boyfriend, my BFF will support me and the decisions I make (that includes my boyfriend).

    Thank You for having another contest, because they are really fun!
    One of your biggest fans,
    Lydia L.
    P.S. – I hope to become a successful author like you, and many more, one day, so keep up the GREAT WORK and let the inspiration keep coming!

  599. Would probably leave the boyfriend because I wouldn’t want to lose that friendship ! But at the same time if I really liked the guy or loved him I don’t know what i would do but it should never come down to the point where I have to choose. Over the two because if they really cared they wouldn’t put me in that situation

  600. I would choose my best friend. sometimes your soulmate isn’t always your significant other but a great friend you know will always be there

  601. Fiona Wilson says:

    I would pick neither. They should be mature enough and love me enough that they would at least try to accept that the other is in my life. They don’t have to like it but they do have to accept it

  602. Gosh, I feel like I need more information. How long have my BFF and I been friends? Is my friend jealous of the new guy? Are they both worried that they’re getting less time with me? Do they have valid points in their hatred for each other? Do I HAVE to choose in this friendship/love triangle?

    If neither of them will budge, my answer is: get a new best friend AND a new boyfriend. If they both really cared about me, they would not put me in that position.

  603. I think it’s easy, not actually in the situation, to say I would choose my best friend. I would hope years of friendship couldn’t be destroyed by one guy. However I think if I was actually in the situation, my judgement being clouded by the guys hotness, I’m not so sure I’d pick my best friend. But hopefully after I realized the guy was shallow, his good looks being his only asset, my best friend would still love me and forgive me for my mistake.

  604. Rachael M says:

    Interesting question, though if they both care about you they wouldn’t make you choose, they don’t have to like each other just tolerate each other. However to answer the question I’d pick the friend who you’ve known for years. The boyfriend is new doesn’t matter that he’s hot it my never last with him and then you’ve lost a friend over a guy!

  605. friend all the way

  606. Hello :)
    I think this is a difficult question…
    In my opinion, friendship is one of the most important things in life, because of that, a true friend wouldn’t want me to make a choice!
    The same with a new boyfriend: He should accept me as I am and also my friends!!
    But in this case, I would choose my friend. A good friendship can’t be thrown away for a new boyfriend, because the boyfriend may leave me once, but friends are always there for each other!!

    Toni from Germany ;)

  607. Well… If this situation were to happen to me. I would feel disappointed with both my best friend and boyfriend for MAKING me choose in the first place. If they really cared that much about me like they should then they would at least try to ignore each other. Which I would still be upset about although, at least they were putting up a decent fight…
    Anyways…
    I would choose my best friend. If the person I’m meant to be with doesn’t accept my psycho best friend then that’s his problem. My best friend is just like me and I would consider her complete dislike of someone to mean something. No matter what, I love my crazy best friend and this guy could accept that or leave because if he dislikes my best friend he dislikes a huge part of me.

  608. I would have to chose my friend. Those are the relationships that last. Of course, if you’re really lucky your boyfriend/husband IS your best friend, so you don’t have to ever choose.

  609. Amanda G. says:

    This would be an extremely difficult decision depending on the relationship that I have with my best friend and significant other. I would probably go with my best friend because usually they are better judges of character than I am, so they may see something in my significant other that I don’t see.

  610. “Chicks before dicks.”
    I feel this applies here. I would choose my best friend over the hot boy. It seems like I would have very strong feelings for him but in then end your best friend is ALWAYS there for you. You go through everything together. It isn’t an easy choice…but you can’t throw all that away for a new guy.
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    but why do they hate each other? Can the issue not be solved? Why must I choose between them? Can’t we all stay together? Maybe the new boyfriend has a hot brother too? ;)

  611. It really depends. If my best friend has been my best friend for a very long time, why would she make me chose? And would the boy really be worth it if he made you chose between him and your best friend? If he was better than my best friend, in the sence that he understood me better and was always there for me. Then, well, I think I’d chose him. (sorry Nailah) And it wouldn’t hurt if he just happened to be Orion. But if it was the other way around, and me and my friend were really close, I would, unfortunately, have to dump him. Unless he was Orion. I just can’t pass up an opportunity like that. (p.s Helen can have Lucas, Orion’s MINE!!!!!!)

  612. If I had to chose between my boyfriend and best friend I would probably pick neither (unless my boyfriend happened to be Lucas). I mean if either of them really loved me they wouldn’t make me choose. Or I would tell them to both just deal with it. But seriously if my BF was Lucas I would totally choose him (sorry Yaz). Who could pass up hotness personified. You’d have to be CRAZY!! Anyway I would choose neither if it really came down to it. But anyway I know my Best Friend would never make me choose. (P.S. Helen and Lucas must be together)

  613. Bethany Nunn says:

    well to me friends are more important that boyfriends. I would choose my friend any day if i had been friends with her for that long …although saying that a good friend wouldnt make you choose like that and neither would a good boyfriend id explain this to them and tbh if they still didnt get along (or atleast try to get along) well there obviously not worth my time. if i didnt like my friends boyfriend i would atleast try and pretend to get along i would never make them choose. But if i have been friends with someoen almost all my life and then a hottie comes along then im not gonna just ditch her for this guy that i dont really know but if i fall for him then id tell them both to deal with eachother or just go because a good friend and boyfriend would stay no matter what. :)

  614. I think everyone is thinking along the same lines here: the best friend should, for lack of a better word, “suffer” in silence. I think it’s kinda like how parents feel when their kid is now a full-grown adult: they can’t tell their child what to do anymore, they can only poke and prod the child and hope for the best. I would hope that my best friend would be happy for me in my new relationship and be by my side if/when it falls apart. But…..if she does give me an ultimatum, either her or him, I’m always going to go with her. It took 10+ years to break her in and there’s going to be another guy around the corner (I hope!). But, if this boyfriend is The One he’ll understand, back off and come around when the Timing is perfect. Or, she could be right and he could turn out to be a serial rapist/murder!! Then I’ll definitely owe her my life!

  615. Aurora Riley says:

    Well in my case my best friend would be totally happy for me because I have never had a boyfriend. If they both truly wanted you to be happy and have what is best for you, they should be able to tolerate each other for your sake. But if I had to choose I would hands down choose my best friend. She has dated guys I didn’t trust and she dumped them, because we trust each other and respect the others opinion. The best judges of character are dogs, kids, and the person(s) who have always been there and always will be there for you.

  616. Celine Herondale says:

    I’m just- OMG- I’m so excited!!!!!! I need to find out what happens between Helen and Lucas!! I need to reread because it’s been too long since I read Dreamless!! I’m going to get distracted from work by this book, I can already see it… It happened to me when I read Dreamless… Gosh! tsk..tsk.. Why are your books SO amazing!!

  617. Celine Herondale says:

    As for the question. I’d probably stick w/ my best friend, because I’ve known her since I was in kindergarten…. Although, it depends how in love you are I guess… but, what do I know?

  618. I would leave both of them If they love me they wouldn’t make me choose

  619. Brittany AA says:

    If it was life or death and if I didn’t choose they would both have end in some horrible fate, I would probably choose my bff. However, if the situation wasn’t so extreme, I would try to make them understand it’s not fair of them to make me choose. If they loved me, or truly wanted to see if the relationship has something important and real, I think that compromises could be made. I would hope that my relationship with my best friend would be secure enough that s/he would still be my friend, whatever my decision. There’s a reason they’d be my BEST friend, right? If the relationship doesn’t work out or there’s valid concerns with the person, than sure, dump him. But if it’s just a personality clash, that’s more of an individual problem. They don’t have to see each other (except at the wedding, if it got there ;p).

  620. Sarah Behbehani says:

    I would not leave my best friend because she’s been with me through everything and a best friend relationship is more valuable than a boyfriend’s.

  621. That is a hard question. I mean, if I really really had no choice, but to choose, I’d choose my best friend because she’s been through so much with me.

    But, I’m not one who does well in such confrontations; I’d fight to keep them both and try to find a solution that accomadate both. I’d like to be able to keep both in my life, even if it means separating my time between the two of them.

    but yea, if i had really no choice, my best friend over my boyfriend forever and always.

  622. I would choose my best friend every time – as Joan Armatrading said, “Passion fades; good friendships seldom die”. Of course, a little part of you would die at giving him up, but a bigger part would be lost otherwise.

  623. In high school I generally stuck to the rule of if someone is making me choose, I choose the other person. But, if in this case, they’re both forcing a choice I would probably choose my friend. That is someone you’ve known a long time and they really know you. Sometimes you need to trust the people around you know whats best for you if you can’t see it. Of course, each of their reasons for not liking the other would also play a part.

  624. probably my best friend, but would a true friend ask you to choose?

  625. I would choose my best friend because she’s always there for me :)

  626. Khunsa Amin says:

    Obviously I have had an error in judgement in choosing them as my best friend and my boyfriend, because if they cared about me, they’d learn to get along for my sake and because I’d love them both equally…how cruel, making me choose :P Buuuut if I did have to choose, i’d choose my best friend, because boyfriends come and go, but nothing can replace the years i’ve spent with my bestie <3

  627. i would choose my best friend, because friend stick together no matter what happen. and there are more than one hot boy out there in the big world.

  628. My friend of course. Guys come and go… (unless you get married?) Friends are for life

  629. Susie Hachemeister says:

    I think it would depend on how serious you are with this guy. If it was the love of your life, your best friend should be willing to support you through everything. Maybe they won’t love each other, but they should find a way to be around each other for you. Anything else means they are being selfish with you.

  630. Hos before Bros. Chances are I won’t end up marrying the guy, so I gotta go with my BFF!

  631. hard to say, but probably my love because if my friend really loves me, then she has to understand!…but on the other side, my best friend was always for me.. so.. i don’t know!

  632. Honestly, I would choose the friend. Cause with the friends I have, they matter more to me than a guy. Plus, the right guy will at least try to get along with my friends, for my sake. I won’t have to choose when it’s right.

  633. Felicitas Eichstaedt says:

    Such a decision really isn’t fair. First off I believe that every person has a ‘type’, a type of people they are naturally drawn too. Because they have similar interests, same sense of humor or just because they fit. So I believe that the best friend represents one self in a way too. Because you’ve probably known each other since almost forever and you trust each other completely and being with your best friend you are more yourself than with anybody else. I believe there are two types of soul mates one in the usual understanding of the undying love and also in the not-romantic-sense. And therefore if the romantic interest is your soul mate ( the right guy for you) there wouldn’t be a problem with your best friend. But than again you could be wrong about your best friend, she could be a fake ***. But answering this question I am sure my best friend is not. I would probably first try to keep both of them in my life, but if it really didn’t work out I’d choose my best friend. Because friends are the ones that are always there for you no matter the distance or the problems they have in their own life. Having friends like that or one best friend, whichever works, like that in ones life is truly a blessing. Friends are as constant as the stars, always there, even though you might not always see them. ( this is a quote; sadly I don’t remember from whom)

  634. Bryan Howard says:

    The friendship that has lasted for years, over the new love interest that might not even last.

  635. I think that friendship comes first. Always.
    Lovers come and go, friendship is forever. They don’t have to meet each other so often and, if they both love me as I love them, they’ll find a compromise.

  636. Katie Cumbie says:

    If either individual truly wanted to be a part of my life, then they would try to be adult about the situation. They may not like each other, but that doesn’t mean that they couldn’t learn to coexist. I would tell both of them to suck it up & put their big kid pants on. I would tell them that if they want me to make a choice, I would choose me. For someone that chooses to put me throw things like that, don’t deserve to be in my life. Reverse psychology…….

  637. Natalia P. says:

    I thought about the answer for such a long time… and I still have no idea what would I do. Most probably, I’d try to make them talk what annoys each of them about the other person and then I’d ask them for trying to fix it for me because I’d not want to hurt any of them: neither my friend, nor boyfriend. If it didn’t work out, I’d ask them both to give me some time to figure that all out and then I would write down all things that annoy me about each of them. Then I’d make my decision but I’d never fully let the other person go away. I would spent more time with the chosen one but I’d never leave the second one!
    And it that didn’t work out, I’d PROBABLY choose a friend… But honestly, whatever I tell right now, if that kind of situation happens to me in a real life, my choice may be completely different. It’s hard to predict such decisions when we’re not REALLY pushed to make them in real life.

  638. I would walk away from both of them, simply because both best friend and boyfriend don’t have the right to make me choose between them. Even if my best friend doesn’t like my boyfriend, she should be able to be an adult about it and deal with the situation. In the end, it’s my boyfriend, not hers. Same for the boyfriend. Both should trust me to know what kind of people I have as a best friend/boyfriend. A person should love you, no matter in what way, because of YOU, and not because of who your friends are. :)

  639. To me a true friend would never ask me to leave someone that I care about and a person that I care enough about to be my boyfriend, wouldn’t ever ask me to leave my best friend. So to me I would leave both. Sorry I know that isn’t a normal answer but that is what I would do.

    Thanks for the chance to win the ARC.

  640. Quintana Hart says:

    I would choose my best friend because your boyfriend might not stick through all the way and if he rellly cares for you hell come back and try to work it out. and its not cool to dump your best friend for a guy. because you and your best friend are best friends for a reason and it would be dumb for a guy to come in between you..

  641. If your best friend wants from you to make such an awful choice it means that she is not your real bf. She must want all the best for you and if this is your boyfriend she should be OK with that. About the boyfriend: imagine that you are his true love and he has just found you. It would be normal to ask you to make this choice if your bf is trying to separate you. In conclusion I’d like to say that best friend who is asking you this is not a real bf so I would choose my boyfriend and leave old fake friends behind!

  642. Shona Dixon says:

    My best friend is the most important person to me. She’s the one person who can make me laugh even when i’m having the worst of days. She makes me a better person and I make her. We help each and are always together. I go to an all girls school, which is also a main factor in my decision. The boyfriend would be an after school thing but my best friend is my all the time and i wouldn’t change it for the world. She’s like my sister, my family treat her like family and we’re always together. We have so many inside jokes and if anyone met us they would think we’re literally nutters! Probably me a tad more. Iona (my best friend) is super clever and always gramtically corrects me. I, on the other hand am silly and loud! We’re complete opposites but have similar interests and she’s the bestest friend you could wish for. I could never find any guy as amazing as her at the age of 14. I would choose her over any guy any day, no matter how hot he was. He could be Keegan Allen for all I care and I would still pick her. People who pick the guy will regret it later on and I can’t afford to loose mine.

  643. I would choose my best friend cause boys come and go but the girl is your best friend and you’ll never get a friend ship like that and especially if you have been best friends for a long time cause then she’s like sisters.

  644. Madison Brown says:

    Definitely my friend. If all the guys got goin for him is that he’s hot, well not worth it at all. If it was more than just that though, like if he made me incredibly happy, and was sweet and there was a connection, then if my friend wouldn’t be there for me, I would have to consider whether or not she was a good friend.. Tough decisions. Hopefully I’ll never be put through that XP

  645. What I would do is I would choose my best friend. Friends come before boyfriends. Nothing comes between us, so the boyfriend would have to go!

  646. Natalie Vaziri says:

    Well, if I had to chose between my bestfriend or my new hot boyfriend, I would have to say I would definitely chose my best friend. Yes, my boyfriend is MEGA hot and beautiful (like Lucus

  647. Natalie Vaziri says:

    Well, if I had to chose between my bestfriend or my new hot boyfriend, I would have to say I would definitely chose my best friend. Yes, my boyfriend is MEGA hot and beautiful (like Lucus

  648. Firstly i would speak to them both and find out what the underlying issues are. People dont usually hate without a reason. Understanding these issues would help with forming a resolution. I would suggest that there is enough time to see them both and that they would not have to spend time together. A compromise would be a better resolution for everyone involed rather than loose one or the other. If a compromise could not be reached them it would be the boy that would be kicked to the curb, friends are always going to be there, however boyfriends can come and go.

  649. Lauren Gonzalez says:

    I could not choose, for me if I want those two people love me, they cannot make me choose between any of them. They must accept that everyone is an essential part in my life. And if anyone will not accept I just cannot stop them, the decision is theirs. I can only say that I love them. I love my best friend, I love my boyfriend but they should understand me. Together we can find a solution, cannot we? I am totally sure that is possible to 100%.

  650. Whatalicesaw says:

    If a new guy asked me to give up on a long term friendship, then new guy would have to go.

  651. Mickala M. says:

    Keep the best friend and kick the boyfriend to the curb. Your friend will always be there for you…the boy could be gone any time.

  652. Chloe Larby says:

    I would probably shout at both of them and threaten to breakup with both of them to try and make them change their minds, but if that didn’t work I would have to chose my friend; sisters before misters and all that. Also if my boyfriend wanted me to give up a really long, amazing friendship then he clearly doesn’t love me and care about my feelings, whereas I know my best friend wouldn’t want to hurt me having known me for ages. I would make sure my friend knew how unfair and stupid the whole situation was and I’m sure she’d cheer me up with the help of the coolest men in the world – Ben and Jerry.

  653. This is a TOUGH question. I’d like to think that I would choose friendship over love. But it’s hard to make a final decision without knowing what are the underlying issues.

  654. This is a tough one, if it all comes down to it, I hope I don’t ever have to face this dilemma, lol. But seriously though, if both of them loves me, they’ll respect each other, at least. And i have toknow their reasons. It’s always good to hear both sides. :)

    Btw, thanks for the giveaway! :)

  655. Kariane Ouellet says:

    I would choose my friend without any doubt. Sorry for the guy, but friends are always there. I wouldn’t be able to live with myself not choosing her.

  656. Gosh…such a hard question to answer. While I love my best friend with all my heart, the goal in life is to fall in love and have a companion for life. While it’s slim odds that my high school boyfriend would’ve been who I chose to spend my life with, you still have to try.

    There are also so many factors that go into making this choice. Why don’t they like each other? Is it just jealousy or something more? Is my friend worried about my safety for some reason? Has my friend went behind my back and done something that my boyfriend knows about? Definitely need more information to answer this question.

    As an adult, I have to argue the “friends will always be there” statements. I remain friends with as many of my ex’s as I do friends. However, most of my high school friends and I have drifted apart and went different ways as is usual. So I’m going to say I choose the boyfriend.

  657. This would be a very hard decision to make. I feel as though if my best friend truly was my best friend, they would respect my decision to be with the person that I love and wouldn’t put me in the situation of having to choose between the two. Because a true friend accepts you for who you are, and that includes who you are in love with, because who you love says something about you. By making you chose between them and the person you love is actually a very selfish thing for them to ask you to do. Now, as for the love interest, I can understand, to some extent, why he would want to make you choose between him and your best friend, especially if it is a fairly new love. But if he truly wanted to get to know you, he would put the differences between him and your friend behind him and accept you for who you are, because again, who you are is a reflection of the types of friends you keep. Basically if they both loved you, they would ever put you in the situation of having to chose one and lose the other. They would put your feelings ahead of their own, and learn to compromise and live with the fact that the other person in your life.

  658. That’s a very tricky situation, and it requires a lot of thought. If this is a guy I meet in high school, I probably would tell him that I can’t leave my life long best friend for a high school sweetheart who I will probably just break up with before I graduate anyway. However, if this is a guy I meet when I’m out of high school and looking for a serious relationship, and I’m really thinking that he could be “the one,” then he should be able to at least try to be nice to her, and she should at least try to be nice to him if either really care about me. If I really care about two people and they really care about me, I think they’d try to find a way to at least tolerate each other or I’d dump both of them because I can’t spend my life trying to please everyone else.

  659. Friend, no doubt about it!! Its not even debatable

  660. I have to say that if my best friend is truly my best friend, he or she would support me no matter what… Including a questionable boyfriend!

  661. Melinda M. says:

    I would definitely choose my best friend

  662. I would simply tell them that if they cared for me, they would not make me choose between the people I care about. And if they cannot agree on that then maybe they both aren’t worth it to begin with.

    Thanks for the giveaway!

  663. Samantha Fox says:

    Hmmmm…Well….I guess I would go with my bestie because we are practically like sisters and I know if she was in the situation, she would drop him :)

  664. So difficult. Will choose my friend though.

  665. Hannah Alexandra says:

    Well I would probably choose my best friend, though I would certainly HOPE that it would never come to that memories and experiences and lessons learned over a life time would be near impossible to give up for someone I had just started a relationship with. If it was fate for us to be together well then A. it was just bad timing and fate would bring us together again at the right moment or B. it was never meant to be. Plus isn’t there a saying that goes if it’s right then it’s right? So best friend it is :)

  666. This would be such a hard, hard decision. I think I would pick my friend though. What we had gone through and what we had for all those years could not be diminished. Also just because you’re hot-to-trot for the guy now doesn’t mean you will be down the road. Overall, leaving your friend for some guy (and there must be reasons why she doesn’t like him) is kinda crappy.

  667. I would pick my friend, boyfriends come and go friends are the ones that are there for you no matter what :)

  668. Maddison Woods says:

    This has happened to me! My best friend literally hated my boyfriend and i had to choose between them. It was hard and i thought it was wrong of my friend and my boyfriend to put me in that situation. I ultimately chose my best friend because she knows everything about me and we have been friends for so long and I would have hated losing her because me and the no ex-boyfriend might not have worked out and if i picked him then I would have been left alone out of a great friend and a boyfriend. Plus i doubt that boy was the love of my life and there are more guys in the world but only one of my closest and best friends. :)

  669. Ooooh… tricky one. If they both love me they should put up with it. There shouldn’t have to be an either or.

  670. Kelsey Paige Hamersley says:

    If there was absolutely no way to get them to compromise…I would choose my friend, especially if I’d only recently met the guy.

  671. This is a tough situation, but I would not let anyone make me choose between two people in my life. I would tell themm both that I value their opinions and do not expect them to be friends, but I will not simply stop being friends/couple because they don’t get along. If they truly care about you, they would not make you choose and if they make the choice to leave you because of it, then they were not worth it.

  672. Martina BC says:

    I would give up the boyfriend. If I’ve had a long and nice friendship with someone I wouldn’t give it up for a love interest.

  673. Stephanie Carrico says:

    Wow….these questions are really tough…..think I would stick with the best friend…..

  674. Joanna W. says:

    Looking from the outside, I would probably choose neither the boyfriend nor the best friend. If someone is forcing you to choose between them or someone you care about then that person more than likely doesn’t have your best interest at heart. And what’s to say they won’t continue to make you choose between the things you love and them in the future.

  675. what kind of friend would want to ruin my relationship? friendship isn’t about whom you have known for the longest, it’s about who came and never left your side. My boyfriend should at least try considering to be friends with my bestfriend, Burt the hatchet guys! ;) If they still won’t then I guess I don’t deserve them to be part of my life :(

    I hope I win :P

  676. I think I would choose my best friend. There will always be more “fish in the sea”, but you can’t replace years of friendship.

  677. Cassie Hileman says:

    I would probably lean toward my best friend. She knows me best and should have my best interests at heart. It would be a way hard decision, though.

  678. Sofia Olsson Alvebro says:

    My first thought was that I would choose my friendship, because guys can come and go, while the friends is always there. And also because my friends are like my family. But then I realized that I should ONE always wonder what would have happened between me and the guy. TWO a true friend never force you to choose between love and friendship.THREE say if I would choose friendship over the guy and then I would never get over him and realize that he was the guy for me. Then I would probably always be bitter about it against my friend which would ultimately ruin our friendship. So in the end I would probably choose the guy because I know I would beat myself every day in my head if I didn´t give it a try. And I think otherwise I would regret it because the only thing in life that you regret are the chances you did not take. And to choose love before friendship is in my opinion a gamble in life, but chance worth taken. So I would choose the guy.

  679. Friend. Chances are I’ve known the friend longer and since (s)he’s not the one in love, they’ll have a more objective POV than I would. So that would be good insight, meaning they might be in a better position to judge the BF.

  680. Cherie Moss says:

    I honestly would choose neither. If my hypothetical best friend and boyfriend were that amazing they wouldn’t even ask me to choose between them. You should always have a choice.

  681. This is such a hard desicion and I hope I’ll never have to actually do it. If they make me choose between them, that just shows that they both don’t care about me and my happiness, otherwise they wouldn’t make me choose. So I’d probably loose both of them. It would be hard to keep a relationship with a guy because of whom I lost my best friend, and also it would be hard to have a best friend who made me lose a guy I really liked. There are always ways to go around it.

  682. I would pick my best friend. Though the guy would be new and exciting (and hot :D) he could never replace my bestie!! I tell my best friend everything, and she’s been there for me for years. What kind of friend would I be if I threw all that away for some guy, no matter how hot? Plus if my best friend hated this guy, there must be a good reason. She wouldn’t force me to choose otherwise!

  683. Tzu Eugenides Groucho Buch says:

    Hi, I choose my boyfriend. Because, if my friend is a real good friend, she should try to understand and show how much he cares about me, trying not to hate my boyfriend…after all they should not ask to choose one of them. I would say them both goodbye..

  684. I hate ultimatums, so I wouldn’t be pleased if I was forced to choose. Generally speaking, I would most likely choose my friend.

  685. Friend; but really if they are both amazing neither would ask you to choose and if they didn’t get along they would deal with it without involving you.

  686. Moirae book reviews says:

    Honestly, I’d walk away from both. Because 1) Any man or woman who makes you pick between dating them and having a friend isn’t worth your time. I know, I was the friend who was thrown under the bus when his girlfriend didn’t like me, now she’s married to his brother.
    2) Friends don’t give friends ultimatums. I had a friend who was in a relationship with a guy who was really bad news, she told me I could either be friends with him or loose her, I walked away and told her that friends don’t give friends ultimatums.

  687. If my best friend and my boyfriend hated each other my mind would immediately be tormented trying to figure out ways for them to put aside their differences. The first thing I would want to do is figure out the background behind the situation. I would ask my bestie why he/she doesn’t like my guy and my guy why he doesn’t like my bestie. If the bestie he hates is my guy bestie and he says the reason is jealousy I’ll just make sure my bf knows that I’m completely and totally dedicated to him and that my bestie is just a brother from another mother. Then I’ll ask my guy bestie why he hates my guy, knowing him it is probably his weird overprotective thing. If this is the case I can just make sure he knows my guy is treating me right. If my guy doesn’t like my girl bestie I’ll try to resolve whatever conflict he has with her and vice versa. If they still can’t get over whatever differences they have I’ll try to keep my friend time and guy time separate. If that doesn’t work and I have to choose I would analyze which one is better for me in the long run. I’d ask myself “Is this guy there for me in the long run? Is he worth sacrificing a great friendship for?”. Then I would ask myself “Is my friend there forever? Is he/she true-blue?”. Whoever the answers favor is the one I’ll pick after some counsel from an outsider seeing the situation from the outside in. It would be hard fore to do and if I’m still not sure after all of this I would probably just keep my bestie because guys come and go and if he were really worth it he would let me keep my friend and accept her because he loves me.

  688. If they both love you they shouldn’t have tried to make you choose between them. I would have to tell both of them to make an effort to try to get along or they both lose me.

  689. Agh! I can’t remember if I’ve already commented or not (so forgive me if this is a double). First off, why would I date someone/be best friends with someone if they hadn’t already promised to try to get along with whoever I’m friends with/date. They’ll have to get over it if they hate each other. But if I had to choose, I’d take the best friend. A true best friend means more to me then a boyfriend I’ll probably break up with at some point anyway. So there’s my two cents.

  690. If they honestly wanted to be around me, they would just ignore the other person. If they asked me to choose, I would choose neither. They both don’t sound very loyal, if they give me an ultimatum like that.

  691. Leanne Masetto says:

    No way would I choose. I would tell them both to suck it up or they would both lose me!!!!

  692. Josefina Carlos says:

    If my best friend and my new love interest where to hate each other, and the only solution that they came up to solve this unpleasant situation where for me to chose one of them over the other, I would chose my best friend. I would chose my best friend, not because I think choosing her was the absolute right choice, but for the many years that I’ve spent with her, and because if she came to the decision that her hate for my new boyfriend was much stronger that her willingness to allow me to be happy, then I knew that she were not only speaking out of her own interest in mind, but mine as well. Because I believe that your best friend , specially your best friend, and new love interest should set aside their feelings as much as possible to be able coexist with each other.

  693. I actually had to make this decision and I picked WRONG…I picked the man. We were together for 5 years and then he left me and married somebody else and I lost my best friend. We (my friend and I) have finally started talking again but our relationship will never be the same again. If I had it to do over I would pick my best friend.
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