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I love Easter.  It’s the only time of year you can eat a bunny and not feel like a monster.  I like to start with the tail, but I hear that the ears are the first choice of 71% of all chocolate bunny eaters.  As usual, I’m in the minority.  I really don’t have my finger on the pulse of…well, of anything, really.

But you do!

So once again, as part of the giveaway, I am asking a question that relates to the new series I’m writing.  The question is this:  Would you give a guy a second chance?  And I mean he has totally messed up and done something truly unforgivable, like dumped you so he could date another girl (who is way hot), and then a few months later realized that the hot girl is giant moron and now he wants you back. That’s the kind of messing up I’m talking about.

So, what do you say?  Is a guy that hurt you this badly re-dateable, or curb-worthy? Be sure and leave me a comment with your thoughts.

As before, the 1st place winner will receive a signed ARC of DREAMLESS…

… along with a signed DREAMLESS bookplate.

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The deadline to enter is Saturday, April 14th.  The winner will be announced on Sunday, April 15th.

Thank you and good luck to all!! :)

Josie

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  1. A second Chance.. Well really it depends on the situation!

    • I agree Ashley. BUT if he seems really sincere, I would definitely consider giving him a second chance but also a lot of conditions (okay: threats…). No one will get away with the same act twice!

      • Yeah it really does depend on the situation. You need to make sure he really does want forgiveness for what he did and not just to get in your pants….

  2. YA Reader says:

    Yes, give him another chance if your feels are true. Make sure his intentions are pure. Groveling might help. :)

  3. Eh, I’ve given guys second chances; it never worked out well in the end. I’m too good at holding grudges. I wouldn’t want a guy who needed a second chance.

  4. Well, that would highly depend on the guy and how much I liked him. If he did try to get me back, though, he would most definitely have to really mean it. I mean, it would take weeks for me to ever agree, if I ever do. Cause assholes don’t change that fast. So he’d likely just get curbed.

  5. I would kick him to the curb. A girl should never be a guys second choice. Either he likes you for you and all you have to offer or he isn’t worth your time, especially if he is so naive to think that looks is what matters most!

  6. Amanda Graves says:

    Yes, I do believe in second chances. People can change, and if the guy is truly remorseful, then I would give him a second chance!

  7. Becky Louise Williams says:

    That is a hard one, if he could really make it up to you (not gifts or stuff) but emotionally then maybe, but if he has totally messed up and trys to buy you back then no way. It all depends on how genuine the guy actually is to be honest.
    But I think in the long run I wouldn’t forgive him

  8. I am not so sure about this question. I guess it depends on the situation. Some people can be deserving and really change. I have see second chances work out and lead to marriage. But in other circumstances I just don’t know if I would ever truly forget the pain. I would like to think I would at least try to forgive and try again. :)

  9. Hmm…second chances. Honestly, it depends on what he’s done wrong and how much I care about having him in my life. If it’s something minor and trust hasn’t really been broken then I would say yes, definitely. But for major infractions when they tear down everything you’ve built with them..it’s a bit harder for me to forgive.
    Thanks for the giveaway!

  10. (Unfortunately) I would give him a second chance. I believe that people can change and a “judgement” shouldn’t last forever … and we should never forget that we aren’t angels, too ;).

  11. I would forgive him based on why he wants me back and why he hurt me in the first place.

  12. minhchieu tran says:

    no i would never give a guy a second chance, especially after dumping me

  13. I don’t think I’d give another chance if he really hurt me. I’d keep wondering when he’d do the same again.

  14. I believe in second chances but I’m nobody’s second place. Enough said.

    Thank you (as always) for this amazing giveaway, maybe one day I’ll actually win LOL

    Lynsey(AT)narrativelyspeaking(DOT)com

  15. I guess for me it depends on the guy and what he did but I do believe in second chances.
    Thanks for the giveaway :)

  16. I have been there,done that and I own the t shirt. Big mistake,which will never be repeated. I should have said “No way” when he came back. Worse thing was,she wasn’t hot;she was an actual mess! On this basis,I deserve to win please :)

  17. This is a really hard question, I think it’s very very dependent on circumstances surrounding the incident. It’s definitely a case-by-case situation.

  18. Rachel McAvilley says:

    Personally, I know how it feels to have this happen to you. My ex cheated on me, and then dumped me for this girl. And you know, it HURTS. A lot.
    To add insult to injury, he ignored me for 9 months after he dumped me, through text, and then just tried to start speaking to me again.

    I never forgave him though, and why should I? The experience made me stronger, and proves to me that I’m independent. I admire people who COULD forgive someone, and maybe I’m just bitter, but I really could never forgive him.

  19. Tyler Pounders says:

    If I really liked the girl and she apologized, then I would give her a second chance, but it would take time for e to trust her again…

  20. Claire Huggins says:

    I would and have done. Give then a 2nd chance if you love them. You never know you might need a 2ndchance one day.

  21. oh, that’s a big matter. happily i never had that kind of problem, but i think if he really dumped me to date another girl and then wants me back because the other one is stupid, i wouldn’t forgive him straight away. something like this hurts a lot so i’d have to think about it…and the decision depends on the guy, i guess. maybe i would give him a 2nd chance, if i’d truly love him and see how it goes. otherwise i don’t think that i’d take him back :)

  22. Hmm, well, I could forgive him over time, if he truly realized what he’d done and was really sorry.. if he promised not to make the same mistake again, I’d consider to take him back, we’d work it through..

  23. Cristina says:

    No. If he cares about me he wouldn’t do this. If he is dating another girl I will never give he another chance because that’s means that ne don’t love me.

  24. Lamara Meriem Rayen says:

    Yes, but it depends on the guy and if he really want to change and make things better than before.
    Thank you for the giveaway ^_^

  25. i dont think i would right away, if he is truly sorry he would wait as long as the girl/woman needed but this is a hard question because so many get hurt by this and its just really hard to emotionally move on and forgive =P

  26. If he is shallow enough to dump me just to date a girl he thinks is hotter, then no he is gone. But if there was a legit reason, like him being lied to or pressured by parrents, then maybe, but he has to prove he is stronger than what others will say/do, because I am not going to waste my time on someone who is hung up on what others think or who might dump me in a couple months “because”, I deserve better. :-)

  27. Second chance??? NEVER!! If you are not the first and only one, you will always be second best and you will never forget that he dumped you for another girl, if he did it once, he will definitely do it again! A guy like that is always looking for something better to come around and he is not worth the heartache…move on to someone who will love only you and treat you as you should be treated! :)

    • I totally agree with you! If he dumped me because that’s what needed to happen due to the direction of the relationship, then maybe I would forgive him. However, dumping me to be with someone else is the same thing as cheating. (He cheated emotionally). Best to cut your losses and leave him in the past!

  28. Yes, I believe in second chances, but only second, not third or forth….
    thanks for the giveaway!

  29. I Have done in the past, but for a lot worse, the trouble is it always plays on your mind. Your constantly reminded about how they wronged you, and you become paranoid and irritable, you start to accuse them of doing wrong when they haven’t and the relationship falls apart, I forgave some one and took him back, we stayed together for about a year after that but our relationship was so unstable, i would be so paranoid that he was going to do it again and it ruined what we had, I don’t blame myself, because he wronged me but i loved him so much i wanted it to work… In my opinion, some one that claims to love you should never give you a reason to have to force yourself to forgive them. If you can forgive them and move on instantly then fine, but if you spend time dwelling on it, it makes it far worse…. happy easter <3

  30. He would be curb worthy for me. If a guy hurt me that much then I don’t know if I could ever trust him again. There’s always the chance that he may do it again. I may be civil to him but that would be as far as I would go.

  31. To me, it really depends on my feelings for the guy. I mean, if I seriously loved this guy, I know I would be tempted to get back together with him. However, at the same time, I would always be wondering how long it would take him to leave me for someone else the second time around. So… I guess I would say no to a second chance. It would just be too difficult to forgive a total heartbreak like that.

  32. Hmmm…honestly? The guy would have to work really, really, really hard to get my forgivness and I don’t mean gifts or anything…more being honest and proof that he really means it. The first moment I thought “No I would never ever give him another chance in that case”. I think I would make him bleed a bit to see if he really means it and if he’s really sorry or if he would run to the next hot girl any time he meets one…But yeah…I always would have doubts I think…this is really a hard thing to forgive and forget!

    Happy Easter!

  33. I do believe in second chances. However nothing beyond that because then it becomes a trust issue and without trust there is nothing :(
    Happy Easter this is like my fav. holiday (along with Halloween)

  34. Elise Galvez says:

    I would consider giving him a second chance if he was sincere. He would definitely have to work his butt of to win my trust back and to show how sorry he really is. But if my gut was telling me that he was sincere I would definitely give him a second chance. Hard trials are good for relationships because they build a stronger one and show how truly committed the couple is to another.

  35. jacqui gill says:

    Hmmmm, I don’t think so unless he works it for a few years and if my feelings stayed strong

  36. Kelsey T says:

    I believe in second chances. I personally have given a guy a second chance and I’m glad I did. It worked out really well in the end. :)

  37. I think it would only be fair to give a second chance considering that everyone makes mistakes. It’s more a matter of realizing that you were wrong and then acting upon that realization to correct the situation.

    Thanks for the giveaway, and Happy Easter Josie! :)

  38. Noelle Walker says:

    Well… It depends on the situation, but probably no…thanks for the giveaway’

  39. Annabelle Law says:

    I wouldn’t give him a second chance if he had cheated or dumped me. If we had both decided to go our own way but then realised that we were better together then thats fine but if he dumped me for a hotter girl then i wouldn’t. Thank you for another giveaway! Happy Easter :D

  40. Well, it really depends on the situation.

  41. Honestly, it depends on a few things. What he did, for one. If it was something totally unforgivable and something that ruins the trust in a relationship, then I probably wouldn’t take him back. But then there’s the other factor: do we make the perfect couple? And I don’t mean “perfect couple” like a couple without flaws. Everyone has flaws, it’s unavoidable. But I mean are we just RIGHT together? You know? Like, is there no one that will ever make me feel this way again, and is it the same way for him? People make mistakes. I am a very untrusting person when it comes to mistkes that have been made. Once you lose it, it’s hard to get it back. But if we are clearly perfect for each other, then yes, I should do whatever I can to keep us together even if he messed up. Now, if it happens more than once, then there will be issues, but that’s a different situtaion. My point: if the love is meant to be, fight for it.

    Thank you so much for having this giveaway!! :)
    ♥Jessica(:

  42. K.Schmidt says:

    i do second chances everyone deserves a second chance… but i need convincing its deserved… he would have to work hard to do so ;)

  43. Christin says:

    Depends on what he’s done but mainly I’m on the everybody-deserves-a-secend-chance team ;)

  44. It depends if he deserves it, and most of the time they do.

  45. Patricia Duarte says:

    nah…I never give a second chance, when I was younger I did and they never worked out…once you mess sth up it is pretty much irreparable….

  46. Yes I would, because if i truly love him then I would feel very very happy when he comes back to me. Maybe the relationship would be a little bit strange in the first time, but after a while we would be in love again and would be happy about the love between us.
    So a second chance is very important, because nobody is perfekt and everybody makes mistakes. Yes, thats whI think.

  47. Mallory Oswald says:

    You should only give them a second chance if they earn it and not by simply saying babe i love you please take me back! They would have to do something drastic. Happy Easter!

  48. MaryAngelica Rivodo says:

    I honestly do and don’t. it really just depends on the situation, and if the guy really loves me.

    Thanks for another awesome giveaway :) Happy Easter! ^^

  49. amber hall says:

    I would give the guy a second chance granted he tried in every possible way to earn my trust back.

  50. I would take him back, on a trial basis in which he needs to prove himself to me :)

    Thanks! And Happy Easter!!! :D

  51. No way. This could easily happen again when he’s so indecisive so I’d rather stay away and find someone who realises how awesome *I* am.

  52. Hm, second chance?
    For a boy who dumped me, because he saw a hotter women?
    No way.
    If he is so weak, to look for other or better women, dumped me and come back, he can go where ever he want …
    Sorry, but I’m realistic, maybe he do it again? Secon and the third time?

    To make mistakes: ok,
    But sorts of unforgivebale things: no second chance

  53. I think if I still had real feelings for him I would give him a second chance. But sometimes after someone leaves you heartbroken like that you no longer love them or if you do still love them its just not the same.

  54. Ellen Trieu says:

    It really depends on the situation and how badly he messed up. But I do believe in second chances and how badly he wants that second chance from me.

  55. Caroline says:

    Hmm, that depends on what he’s done. If it’s something small, then yes I would probably give him a second chance, but if he’s cheated on me or done somehing equally bad, then no I wouldn’t.

    Thank you for the giveaway! Happy Easter Josie =] xoxo

  56. Samantha Fox says:

    Well…It depends on what he did in the first place. If he cheated on me or something like that probably not. If it was truly meant to be maybe :)

  57. paige warren says:

    hell no would i let him come back!
    no matter how messed up i was, i would never take him back.
    also i’d be being really hypocritical because my friend’s boyfriend cheated on her (properly cheated) and then she took him back and i can’t understand why.

    not that i’ll have this issue as i’m extremely unattractive. haahahaha

  58. Sara Levin says:

    Hey Josie!
    My answer;
    No, cuz’ he dumped me and I deserve better. There is billions of boys out there, and I belive that there is more then one for everyone :)

  59. Becki street says:

    It would hurt that a guy would dump me for another girl and I think I would go out of my way to avoid them as I think it would hurt to see them together, especially if I thought the guy was my true love, I would probably be crying pretty much every night for about a month. If the boy then dumped her and wanted a second chance with me, I think I would give it to him, but with strict guildlines about the relationship we Would have. Alot of trust will have been lost, so that would need to be built back up again, but at the end of the day, everyone deserves a second chance and you can’t help who you love! Believe me I’ve been here before!

  60. Angelika says:

    I think it is important what he do and if it is excusable.
    But if it is excusable it is only fair to give him a second chance because nobody is pefect and everybody makes mistakes!

    Thank you for the giveaway!!

    Happy easter Josephine!

  61. I think I would but only if i was sure he was truy sorry and deserved another chance :)

  62. Yes, if his apology was genuine, heart-felt and only after weeks of trying to win me back. :)

  63. If it was me No. I believe in second chances up to a point and if he left me for someone else that is unforgivable. I have way to much respect for myself to put myself into a place like that where he could leave again with the next hot chick that walked by.. I’d rather spend my time looking for someone to respect me and care for me as much as I do them.

  64. I believe giving second chances, where it is necessary. It depends on the scenario, if it was maybe a misunderstanding then it’s okay. If it was done in spite and anger, then I don’t think they deserve a second chance, because it was done with a motive.

  65. In that type of situation I don’t think I would give a second chance. I would more than likely wait it out and see what his behavior is like and see if he keeps repeating it. History does tend to repeat it self……chalk him up to curb appeal LOL

  66. Thank you so much! :D And Happy Easter!

    A guy should get a second chance, depending on how bad he was, or what he has done in the past :)

  67. I think i would give a second chance if i still feel for him

  68. Second chances are a possibility when you consider what is really stopping you from giving the person a chance? Is wounded pride really worth turning your back on someone that you really connect with? In your scenario, the guy realized that he had something real with you after he explored another relationship. Isn’t that what dating is about? In any case, if you are dating and the gut says, I think I might want to date another person, you have to let them go. You can’t hold on to somebody by gripping to tightly, as Snow Patrol says:
    “Hands open, and my eyes open
    I just keep hoping
    That your heart opens”

  69. Well, I think I would give him a second chance. Because everybody makes mistakes including me. There was a situation some months ago. I got to know a new guy with whom I’m going to university. And I fell in love for him. But I was so unsure because I haven’t got the perfect body and sometimes I’m a little bit weird of what I do or think. And then I started being suspicious of his motives for dating me. In addition I heard some rumours that he met with other girls and so on. And I got jealous because of that. Finally I accused him that he would date other girls and that he would have two strings to one’s bow. And I started to ignore him and didn’t want to hear his explainations. Some weeks later we had to talk with each other because of a group work. And we had to meet in our freetime. And then I listened to his explainations and we talked about this. About this and about us. And we realized that it would be better to be friends and not lovers.
    To sum up, I’d like to say that I recognize that I was wrong in accusing him without listening to him and to his explainations. But he gave me a second chance. And I won a new good friend. So I would give another person also a second chance.

  70. Menal Akbal says:

    Well, when you really love him, why not? I mean, okay, he hurted you, but I think, that love is the hardest and powerfullst thing in this world full of hate. I mean, yeah, he can hurt you again, but you have to forget that and just live in the moment. You have to forgive someone, that’s the way! Sure, you can hate him, after he hurted you – I mean, loge and hate are so near together, that in one day, you cam love someone, and in the day after that, it turns into hateness (? – is this word english – I’m german, so sorry)!
    But well, I just wanted to say – when you really love him, forgive. That’s the way to happiness … but also sadness, when he hurt you again.

  71. Courtney Pierce says:

    It depends on how well I liked the guy and if we were really close before. If that were true then I’d give him another chance.

  72. Whether or not to give a guy a second chance depends on the situation, but for the situation you described, I would say NO WAY, because HE is a JERK. That is all. :)

    Thanks for the giveaway!!

  73. That is really a hard question!
    I believe that when something is really broken then it is very difficult to be fixed….difficult but not impossible! it takes a lot of effort on the part of the one that hurt the other….and it takes a lot of forgiving on the part of the person who got hurt…..
    It takes two for this effort and I believe in the power of love! If it is strong then a second chance should be given!

  74. Nailah Malone says:

    I am a firm believer in second chances. Not everyone comes to the same realizations at the same time. I do not however believe in waiting around for them to come to that realization. If a person geniuenly learns from their mistakes, honestly comes to you with a forgiving heart, and truly corrects the behavior that caused the disconnect in the first place then yes. Be cautious but move forward.

  75. It depends on what he did. If it was a serious no-no then no. Otherwise, maybe.

  76. It all depends on what he did to lose the first chance he had. If it was something like cheating on you then probably not. If it was more on the lines of ‘he was late to dinner’ then of course. Though if he forgets your birthday or your anniversary…then he’s on probation for a LONG, LONG time!

    Lisseth @read-a-holicz.blogspot.com

  77. That depends on the situation and, in some parts, age..

    If I take your example, I would not think of it as unforgivable, specially if he was in his teens (ca 15-18).

    There are things that are unforgivable (like I would never forgive or give a second chance to someone who would ex. hit me etc. no matter what kind of explanation he had).

    This is a tricky question, everyone has their own line that if its crossed you can never go back and it can be very different from each others, specially on the “small stuff”..

  78. michelle Clough says:

    If i were to give a guy a second change it would depend on the guy and what he did.

  79. i believe second chances is a healthy practice in life. we are humans and we make mistakes all the time. re

  80. Depends on what he did…

  81. Sonya Silvers says:

    I strongly believe in second chances. So, yeah, if he had sincerely learned from his mistakes, I would give him a second chance.

  82. yes second chances are ok with me and i would want a second chance if i go wrong with anything and regret doing so… so yes i would give a second chance. If you earn it and be truthful and faithful second chances are sign for strong character

  83. I guess it depends on how invested you are into the relationship before said jacka$$ breaks up with you. I’m in a long term relationship and I honestly don’t know if I’d take him back. I’ve never been in such a sucky situation.

    On a brighter note, happy Easter and thanks for the giveaway!! (I wonder why we say happy Easter but not happy Christmas lol)

    nicoleloveskyle2(at)aim(dot)com

  84. Beth Lacey says:

    Well if he broke up with me for another girl the answer would be HELL NO!!! He can’t just expect to come back after breaking up with you for someone who is prettier. Firstly it’s vain to break up with you for someone prettier; then to rub salt in the wound he wants to come crawling back when he discovers she’s a self centered, vain bitch and overall just plain boring is inexcusable!!! But if he broke up with you for personal reasons such as an illness or disease but realised his mistake as it doesn’t really matter then I would have to say yes; I would accept him back! Hope that wasn’t too confusing for you! :)

  85. Kylee King says:

    Oh um wow, pertinent. Um I did that a little while ago and well, it didn’t turn out so well. First time he left me for his ex, but I loved him so much that when he came back, I took him back, and then… he left me again saying that he didn’t want to hurt me again because he loved me so much and I have not really seen hide nor tail of him since. I’m with someone else now and I don’t regret letting the other back in. Sure I was hurt, but what doesn’t kill me makes me stronger, right? Yeah. And this new guy, I would give all the chances in the world. If you love someone as much as I loved the other or as much more that I love this one, then, yes, second chances should be taken. As many chances as needed should be because love… love is worth it. “Love is patient, love is kind… it does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud… it keeps no records of wrongs.” Love is worth all the chances in the world because with love all of that hurt… can be overcome. Sorry, I kind of ranted and I don’t really expect you to read this all or even read any of it, but thank you for a place for me to say this.

  86. Beth Lacey says:

    Well if he broke up with me for another girl the answer would be HELL NO!!! He can’t just expect to come back after breaking up with you for someone who is prettier. Firstly it’s vain to break up with you for someone prettier; then to rub salt in the wound he wants to come crawling back when he discovers she’s self centered, vain and overall just plain boring is inexcusable!!! But if he broke up with you for personal reasons such as an illness or disease but realised his mistake as it doesn’t really matter then I would have to say yes; I would accept him back! Hope that wasn’t too confusing for you! :)

  87. I think that it depends on the situation if someone deserves a second chance. However in my real life experience I would say yes … sometimes people do change

  88. It depends on the situation, the boy and my feelings.
    If I know, that I really, badly like him, almost love him- yes, he would get a second chance.
    If I know he was influenced, wasn’t himself or have changed, why shouldn’t I give him a second chance?
    Any good reasons why I should withhold the opportunity to correct/improve himself?
    No because it’s a more bad way to deny any improvement, than to accept changes grudgingly.
    What if I will do something unforgivable and no one will give me a second chance, I will feel terrible and alone. Just because of that reason I will give him surely a second chance, unattached what he had done.

    But I would tell him, that i haven’t accept his unforgivable behaviour, but that I will leave it behind us, in our past.

    • I almost forgot,
      surely I wish you and your loved ones happy easter and wish that you have a great time together.
      *By the way I don’t like to bite the ears of the chocolate bunny first, it doesn’t feel fair for me.

  89. If the guy is worth it then this isn’t really a question.

  90. Megan Wi. says:

    I guess it depends on the guy, lol. (:

    Happy Easter to you and thanks for hosting such a great giveaway!

    ~Megan
    mswwrites@gmail.com
    somewhatbittersweet.blogspot.com

  91. kirsty m t says:

    Yes i would give him a second chance, but that would be the last. Another mistake and he would be gone!! X

  92. I know that I would forgive him. I’m that kind of person that forgive everyone and never think that anyone would do something bad… So I would take him back, even if i knew that he might would leave me again. I would think something like “he’s a better person now, he won’t do it again” and not listening to the feeling in my stomach that tells me that he’s not worth another chance… I know that my friends would tell me that he’s not worth it, and i would think that my friends were stupid, and if he leave me again, i would go to my friend and cry.
    I’m sorry for my bad english, i’m from Sweden :)

  93. definitely yes well after carefully considering the whole situation , everyone makes mistakes but before the second i would point a finger and laugh. thats how mean i can get :D :D

  94. Moirae the fates says:

    It would depend on the situation. If it was an extreme thing like violence then no. If it a simple thing like he doesn’t like animals then yes.

  95. Giving a guy a second chance, He has to earn it, has to earn my heart back but that means he has to dig deep, way deep and go through loads of dirt to win it back. If he CAN win it back.

    I think even if you take him back the relationship on its own will have a lot of trust issues cause he dumped you for a hot girl before.

    So if you might take him back after making sure he goes through a lot of dirt is the question if it all wil work out.

    Xoxo Annelie Happy Easter :)

  96. Haha – In all honesty I would probably make it *seem* like I wasn’t keen on taking him back. But I know I eventually would. I want to pretend like I’m tough but really I was probably just waiting the entire time for the opportunity to steal him back. :)

  97. ChristyM24 says:

    I’m not big on second chances. I think if someone betrays you once, then they will again.

  98. Raquel Romero says:

    It depends on the guy, what he has done you wrong, and if he’s worth it!

  99. danielle says:

    totally. Everybody makes mistakes and he wants YOU back because he realized he made a BIG mistake so why not? and if you really loved him wouldn’t you want to try work it out?

  100. It depends on the guy and what he did wrong. If I really like him and I feel like he really regrets what he did and you are 99.99% sure he’d never do it again :)

  101. It depends on the situation… but I think is very difficult!

  102. Yes i belive in second chances :)

  103. Maybe, It depends on how much I liked him in the beginning.

  104. Charlene says:

    Um.. the kind of second chance in your scenario.. hmm. Im not sure, cause after the boy dumped me for a hotter girl, i guess, my self confidence would probably drop, and i dont know, i’d probably hold a grudge against him, most likely clouding my judgement on any actions he would do to show he was sorry. I guess, if he reallllly worked hard to get me back, showing that he really cares, then yeah, i would give the poor sod a chance :D I’ll end up forgiving him. Thankz for the Giveaway!! — is it weird that im dreaming up scenarios for the goings on in dreamless? i think i need to go re-read the first one, and wait till the second comes!!!!

  105. Suzanne Rauch says:

    I do believe in 2nd chances. Happy Easter!!!

  106. I believe everyone derserves a second chance however if some one broke my hard, crushed it I don’t know if I could forgive that easy.

  107. I did it, actually three times and now we have two wonderful kids

  108. I’m the kind of person that does believe in second chances. Due to that, I think I would give him a second chance. If I knew how I felt about that guy and he hurt me and then came back, I would still want to be with him. I would need to give him a chance to show that his intentions are true and that he really does want to be with me and only me. Everyone makes mistakes because no one is perfect. I would want to give him the benefit of the doubt that he has changed and that he wants to make things right. Call me a true romantic, I guess. :)

  109. Stelina Papagianneli says:

    I believe in second chances but it depends on what happened :)

    Again thank you so much for the awesome giveaway josie! <3

  110. I believe in second chances. However if a guy totally crushed and broke my hear I would have to think long and hard. Is he going do it again, why he did it on the first place!!

  111. I think everyone deserves a second chance, even if they’ve messed up big-time. Let’s be honest, if the situation were reversed and you were genuinely, sorry you’d want that opportunity of a second chance to put things right. I do believe however that a second chance should only be a second chance, if the action were to be repeated then it’s obvious that the person did not geninely want forgiveness. If they have that little respect or love for you that they couldn’t ensure history didn’t repeat itself they don’t deserve a third chance. In my opinion second chances can lead to forgiveness, third chances lead to heartbreak.

  112. jamie Pascual says:

    I don’t know if I’d give a second chance. I did it once and it turned out bad, lesson learned

  113. SaraEchelon5 says:

    Thank you for the international giveaway!
    I think a girl should give a guy a second chance only if it is well-deserved: I would not give a guy a second possibility if I know he’s not sincere and that he doesn’t respect me. The fact is that everyone does mistakes so if there is a real repentance, well, yes, you should give him a second chance! :)
    Actually I did the same thing with my boyfried and I’m not regretting my choice.
    x

  114. I believe in second chances because I like to believe in the best of people but it will be difficult to trust him again.

  115. Sarah's Rolli says:

    That’s a hard question. But I think, if that would happen in the begining of the relationship I would dump him. When it would happen later, I really don’t know, what I would do.

    Thank you and StarLove

  116. Marialys says:

    Well, it all depends… If it’s something we can work on, yes there might be a second chance, but if it’s not, sorry, lo que se bota no se recoge.

  117. It depends… I think some people deserve it, and it´s up to them to take it

  118. Second chance? No. Unfortunately, we don’t have all this supernatural soulmate kind of thing in real life….

    Anyhow, I would not give a second chance because there are so many fishes in the sea. Why give the same one a chance when there are so many new chances I could give?

  119. It does depend a lot on the situation, but mostly I would say no. If he could hurt me that badly once there is nothing to say he wouldn’t do it again. I know people can change and grow etc, but that thought will always be at the back of your mind and any trust you had would disappear and I believe you can’t have a relationship without trust.
    Your heart is a precious thing and we don’t give it easily, so when we do it should be treated with care, respect and of course love. If the guy can take your heart and smash it up, he can’t expect to come back with dents and cracks in it. Some things can’t be fixed/wiped clean, those scars will stay with you forever. So no, no second chance. There is bound to be someone else out there that will keep your heart safe and give you theirs in return.

  120. Well, in my opinion it depends on what he did. =S
    Nobody is perfect, but some mistakes are unforgivable and then that person does not deserve a second chance.
    Like Maya Angelou says: “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

  121. First of all I think you should ask yourself if you would want a second chance in the same situation… So I think there are good reasons for a second chance even if the guy totally messed up, but only if he is worth it.
    I have given some guys a second chance (and more) and although they weren’t all worth it I would not do something else ;-) Perhaps I am only hopelessly optimistic…

  122. It depends on what the second chance is for. If its cheating, NO!

  123. id give him a second chance, if he proved he had changed and deserved it :)

  124. Cassandra Armstrong says:

    This is a hard question to try to answer. Personaly I would say yes, I would give the guy a second chance. I’m sure I would be heart broken at first but I believe in second chances and if he breaks your heart again then hit the road. If you never gave a second chance then you never know what could have been. Yet this is just my opinion

  125. It depends on what it broke the first chance :P I don’t believe in giving every one second and/or third chances

  126. in theory i would like to say yes. because at the end of the day everyone makes mistakes at some point in their lives and everyone deserves a second chance and a second shot at something. but i don’t think that it would work. No matter what they did to try and make it up to you, what ever ‘bad’ thing they did would always be there, eating you up slowly from the inside out. I like to say that i see the good in people but if someone did something so horrendous to me i wouldn’t be very quick to think that a leopard can actually change its spots!

    Thanks for the giveaway! Even if i’m not lucky enough to win i will still be pre-ordering my copy :’)

  127. Victoria Hicks says:

    I do believe that people can change over time (a long time) but no i wouldn’t take him back. Especially not after only a few months, once he got bored of his new play thing.
    For me, trust is one the most important aspects of a relationship. Without it there are no foundations on which to build a solid future.
    I would like to think that over time we could be friendly towards eachother and get along, but i suppose it would all depend on the person and the situation.

  128. Natasha Y. says:

    After seeing what other girls go through, it would be hard to give him a second chance. But if he seems really sincere, then I probably would.

  129. It depends on how awesome this guy really is……………he’s gotta be pretty sweet and nice to get a second chance from me. :)

  130. It depends on what he did and how bad he wants me back. But yeah I do believe in second chances.

  131. It depends on how much I love this boy and how he shows me that he really loves me. He has to do something special or maybe cry :) Because if a boy cries it really means that he loves you. Crying isn’t a thing that boys just do because they feel like it… So, I think I would give him a second chance if he’s hot, too :D

  132. Danielle G. says:

    If it is the situation you described than yes, but I would have to see that he truly means it and wants me back. I would wait a little while and stay friends before saying yes just to see if he would be willing to stick around. (Hope that bit doesn’t sound awful; I wouldn’t prolong it and torture him. That would be mean.) I am the forgiving type so I just wouldn’t be able to hate him; I probably would be peeved though.

  133. Abby K. says:

    I believe in second chances, but it depends on what he did. :)

  134. Everybody makes mistakes, so yeah, I would give him second chance only if I really, really like him, or yeah love him because sometimes you know that he does not deserve a second chance but YOU want this second chance too… and then it maybe will be worth it – or not. That’s in the future… And what do you know? Maybe it will be really great. But if not, you can say to yourself that you tried and there is nothing to miss.

  135. Yes. I believe in second chances. In fact, my current boyfriend and I are together because of one and very much in love…and going on three years! <3

  136. It really depends on what he did. Probably not, honestly.

  137. Merisha Abbott says:

    I gave my boyfriend a second chance and now we are married with three beautiful babies. We are wonderfully happy. So, yes I believe in second chances, especially for love!

  138. To everyone, I would say it depends on the situation. For me, I do believe in it. I wouldn’t be where I am today :)

  139. Hanna P. B. says:

    It depends what he has done, but I don’t think so.

  140. It would depend on why he needed a second chance.

  141. No, because I think I’ll just keep wondering when’s the next time he’ll ditch me again. :D

    Thanks for the giveaway!

  142. katie morgan says:

    it would really depend on how much i really cared about the guy, if i was in love with him andif he truely felt the same way about me then yes i would give him a second chance

  143. Katherine Beaulieu says:

    I almost gave someone a second chance after they hurt me really badly, but then I realized that they really hadn’t changed that much since we’d ended things and that it was the right thing for me to do. On the other hand, there is this one guy that I have known for six years, who went out with me as a joke six years ago but of course being so young and ignorant at the time stayed friends and I don’t regret that decision now (but if I had been wiser at the time I would have regretted staying friends with him) because he has grown into such an amazing person and he now realizes that what he did wasn’t very nice. If he asked me out again, I would say yes in a heartbeat. All of this is to say that if I notice a change, or more importantly and improvement, then yes I do believe in second chances.
    Just starting to read Starcrossed on my ereader, can’t wait:)

    Katherine

  144. I would say it depends on the situation AND the truly character of the boy. When he really regrets his faults, then I think he deserves a second chance. :-)

  145. A second chance from me usually depends on the situation, but if it’s cheating then no second chance at all…

  146. Give him a second chance if you still have feelings for him but this time around make sure his intentions are true and make him work for it! :P

  147. In all honesty, say I was asked this question 5 years ago – I would have said no. No second chances, especially if a guy left you for someone else, but this isn’t 5 years ago.
    Yes. I would (and did!) give a guy a second chance. This guy was wonderful, and then he broke up with me because he wanted to get back together with his ex. 2 months later, he decided he wanted me back. We’ve now been married for over a year (and been together for about 4) and we have a young daughter. I would have missed out on the wonderful life I have now if I hadn’t said yes to that second chance.

  148. Nikki A says:

    I think it really depends mostly on the situation but I think a second chance is usually a good idea.

  149. Definitely not! If he’s done it once, he’s show that he’ll do it again. And what if another hot girl comes along? Just because he messed up doesn’t mean he deserves a second chance. Move on, because that’s the only way there will be any change of closure. Oh, and he’d totally be dead to me. :D

  150. Mandu B. says:

    Well…it depends…but usually I believe in second chances!

  151. We all deserve a second chance. It may not work out but at least we can say we tried.

  152. It really depends on the situation and what he did wrong the first time. It can be very difficult giving a guy a second chance if he really hurt you.

  153. No, I think that people can try to change but they will never do!!!

    —->no second chance for anybody……

  154. Depends… :)

    Thank you so much for this giveaway! :D

  155. reading mind says:

    Nope, no second chance. Shame on you if you fool me once, shame on me if you fool me twice.

  156. It depends on what he did…

    good luck everyone and Happy Easter!!

  157. I guess we all need second chances we’re not perfect, so I’d say maybe, especially if he tries to make up for his mistakes, if he really shows that he’s sorry, if there are mitigating circumstances and so on…

  158. Yes, but it depends on if I like him enough to want to be with him again even after he was a jerk.

  159. I believe in second chances, but it depends on what they did. If it’s like cheating, uh no. Sorry. Once a cheater always a cheater. Even if they don’t cheat, the trust is hard to earn back and sometimes the issue always comes back.

    But I always believe in being able to redeem yourself in one’s eyes.

  160. - It really depends on what he did….leaving her for another girl- No. That means he chose someone else over her, and no girl should be a guys second choice. Trust is hard enough to earn, once gone you can never really have it back.

  161. Rebecca Matthews says:

    I think if he is looking for something else or someone else then there is something missing and no amount of second chances will get him to see you or treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
    Never let a man make you feel like you deserve less than your worth.

  162. It would depend on the guy I mean if he was a jerk but hot then no he doesn’t deserve a second change but it also depends of the situation if it was something grand then maybe I wouldn’t but if he truly seemed like he wants another change and is willing to work for your trust again then yes but it would depend on the situation

  163. I believe in second chances if you deserves it and has changed.

  164. completely depends on the situation.

  165. Stephanie Carrico says:

    The realist in me says NO WAY once a jerk always a jerk….would never trust him again….
    BUT
    The romantic in me would possibly try again….and hope for a happy ending….
    guess it would really depend on how badly he had messed up

  166. Carolin says:

    A second chance? Well, first, it depends on the situation. In case of the example you’ve given it’s very difficult and I think I wouldn’t give another chance. Why did the guy leave at first? A girl’s not a toy you can dump and pick up again when you want to play with it oO

  167. Definitely not. He had his chance and blew it. Although, if he gave me a good reason I might.

  168. If we are going off of your example with the dumping for the hot girl and all that I wouldn’t take him back. I want someone who likes me and respects me for who I am no matter how “hot” I may or may not be. If he is constantly looking at other hotter girls than you, honestly, he isn’t worth it! You should find someone who treats you like you are the most beautiful person in the world! :) If I found a guy like that there is no way in the world that I would give the other guy a second chance!! Thanks Josie! :)

  169. Roa'a Hamed says:

    No I wouldn’t forgive him; he can’t just leave her because he thinks someone is hotter. I say screw him and go flirt with someone smarter and better looking and watch this a-hole weep is the back. LOL I think it would be nice to finally have an empowered female protagonist that doesn’t care if he comes back to her on his hands and knees. It would make for a great story and lesson.

  170. I have a hard time trusting in the first place, so once they’ve broken my heart I’d say probably no to a second chance. There’s like a 1% chance posibility, but he’d have to work really really hard to win me back.

  171. Veray Carter says:

    I married the guy that dumped me on Valentines Day because he didn’t think I was the one. I guess after he broke up with me, every date he went on with others he found himself comparing them to me. When he realized he couldn’t get me out of his head, he came back and asked me to marry him. I knew all along he was the one for me and that I just needed to be patient, so of course I said yes. We have been married for 28 years and have 10 children. He is worth the heartache I went through back then.

  172. I would have to say that once apon a time I did that. I took back a guy that I thought was worth a second chance even after he cheated on me. The thing is even after I took him back he became a jurk and then I got smart and left him in the dust. If I could do it all over again I would not have taken him back. Even though I met my wonderful husband a year after I left that jurk.

  173. Dani Nguyen says:

    The only way I would ever forgive a guy for something that major is if he did some serious groveling & was able to show me that he has changed. It’s not that I’m big on holding grudges, but this is someone who supposedly loves you. If someone really loves you, then they don’t hurt you like that. I realize everyone makes mistakes, but I don’t have to forgive someone that purposely hurts me that badly.

  174. Gabriela Navarro says:

    Yes, sure it’s gotta be hard but some people are worth giving a second chance

  175. Toni Marie Fenning says:

    I really don’t get boys/men/males, if I’m perfectly honest!We come from Venus and they from Mars so everything they do and say is like a different language to me!
    I wonder why (from the scenario you’ve given us) anyone would even do that to someone, if the other person is such a moron. Then again, love/lust makes us blind.If I was in that situation I’d be absolutely devastated.And FURIOUS. I’d probably avoid that person at all cost, praying to god that I never see them till I’m over it….Not that the Gods are that kind.Then if he was audacious enough to ask for a second go I’d be absolutely heartbroken and angry all over again.Especially if I loved the guy.
    On the other hand I know other people who, because of they’re personality, wouldn’t care or others who would probably care and confront them about it. And if they wanted them back, they’d be no way they’d go back to him.They’d tell him to stuff his “sweet talk” and pleas and bugger off.I on the other hand would probably break down there and then.The angry side of me would make them earn the second chance. Make them prove they want to be with me.
    So I guess yeah~ After making them prove themselves, I’d give them the second chance.Plus I’m a firm believer in second chances. Not thirds though.
    But, hey, nothings impossible I guess.

    ★❦ X StarLove X ❦★

  176. I definitely think it is circumstantial. If the guy is a lying turd, then I would just kick him to the curb, but if I know for a fact that it was some kind of mistake, then I would consider giving him a second chance, but not without a stern heart to heart chat to see what the hell he was thinking… c:

  177. Would I give a guy a second chance?
    That would depend entirely on the situation and what he did. But, although I do trust easily, once it’s been broken it’s usually very hard for someone to gain it back.
    So, I guess the short answer would probably be no. If there’s no trust, there’s no relationship.

  178. Molly Frenzel says:

    Depends on the situation. I’d say yes to anything besides cheating.

  179. I think most people desire a second chance. Everyone makes mistakes, acts quickly without thinking, or reacts to something without understanding. I think you give them a second chance when you know the first chance was a mistake. You don’t give a second chance when the first chance was on purpose.

    Valerie
    StuckInBooks.com

  180. Courteney Barber says:

    I believe in second chances. So as long as this is the only time that he has done this and he realized his mistake, I am sure that I would take him back. But if he had done it before this, then no.

  181. Hmmm…. I think it depends on the guy & the situation. If he’s genuine then a second chance is OK, but if he messes up again after that he’s curb-worthy.

  182. Stephie says:

    In general, I believe in second chances for everyone. But that always depends also on what has happend between us. Some things can’t be forgiven, others ca – and are worth th second chance.

  183. Happy easter!
    Second chances? Depends on the guy, and what he did!

  184. alipeli (@Al20Peli) says:

    It depends on the situation.

  185. Danielle D says:

    I think it would depend on the situation, but I probably wouldn’t take him back. And if I did, not right away! He’d have to prove himself!

  186. I wouldn’t give him a second chance because when he hurt you so badly the first time, can’t you be sure that he doesn’t do it again.Maybe there’s another girl 2 months later and he would dump you again.

  187. Tanya M. says:

    I have, so yes. My husband has cheated and I gave him a second chance over 8 years ago. It was worth it because we are going strong to this day.

  188. Rosalba says:

    A second chance definitely not! If he already had his chance and wasted it that only means that he is not worth another chance, because that won’t guarantee he won’t do it again=(It’s sad but true=)

  189. I believe in second chances for everyone, but it’s wouldn’t be very easy to forgive. it would take time. he’d have to earn my trust again and prove to me that he was sorry and that he did love me. It would take time but i think i could do it.

  190. Sara Gordon says:

    That sounds like no second chances to me, but not sure. What is going to keep him from leaving again the next time he gets distracted by some other hottie. But also maybe it was the break they both needed to realize they truly love each other.

  191. Monique Hunt says:

    I believe in second chances but it depends on the situation :)

  192. Well that depends on how he has developed from the reason of why the first chance wasn’t enough :)

  193. I believe in letting things go and moving on. Life’s too short not to give second chances if he or anyone is worthy of one. Every situation is different but yes, I believe in second third and forth chances :)

  194. Life is too short. I have tried giving a man a second chance and it just didn’t work. I did not see him in the same light. He was tarnished and I could not get the trust back. Some hurts are just not forgotten.

  195. Chansiri says:

    Like so many before I really think it depends on the situation. In the case of the guy dumping you for another woman (supposedly way hotter than you) then it is definitely a big “HELLS NO” If that guy is that shallow to fall for looks then what’s to stop him from doing it again. I believe true love will always show the other person for what she/he really is like inside. If the guy/girl dumps his/her significant other for another person that looks way better then he/she doesn’t really understand what true love really is in the first place.

  196. Emily R. says:

    I say no. Unless it was all a big misunderstanding and he has a REALLY good explanation!

  197. Marthapao says:

    Never! Even if a guy does a moronic thing that was just a mistake I can’t forgive and forget, especially if I am giving my all to the relationship. Now, once you are married more leeway should be given unless he cheats or hits.

  198. Kelli Spear says:

    In most cases, I’d say no second chances. Someone should realize your worth the first time around. Somewhere, that person is out there for you. As tempting as it is, be strong and find the one who loves you for who you are. And realizes it from the start. :)

  199. I think it depends… If he cheated then the answer is no. But if it’s about something else like a fight (a bad one that made us broke up) then yes, second chances are welcome :D

    Thanks for the giveaway and Happy Easter!!!

  200. Rebecca says:

    It would be very hard to give him a second chance, even if my heart would beg me to just kiss and make up. There would be a lot of trust issues. What if another exceptionally hot girl came along? I would tell him straight out that he would have to earn my trust and heart back if he ever wants to get back together and be completely forgiven. Like be my friend first…practically start from the beginning except now i have some leverage with the knowledge of his mishap which would strengthened my wisdom. If he is willing to do that, then the ‘forgiving’ part will begin its journey.

  201. Katrina says:

    Nope. If I get mad enough to dump you its over. I do not get mad easily. And if you dump me you better have a darn good reason for breaking my heart then wanting to reconcile.

  202. Christina Kit. says:

    I think it depends on two things: How I feel about him, if we had a good relationship prior to whatever he did. And if I still have feelings for him. I mean, if you’re so angry you can’t stand to look at him, there’s no way you’ll even consider forgiving him, right?

    Then, it also depends on if he’s changed. If he’s really sorry. If he’s really felt it in his heart how much he’s hurt me and if he really sees how wrong he’s been – which leads to him understanding why he never wants to repeat the same mistake. He has to be both sorry and committed to become a better person.

    Really, we all make mistakes. We all hurt people we love. It’s what we do after we’ve hurt them, if we’ve become better people and if we’re ready to earn back someone’s love and trust that matters. Guys too.

  203. Cassie F says:

    I do believe in second chances…as long as the situation wasn’t too moraly apprehensible :-)

  204. Well, It depends on how deep your and his feelings are for each other. If you really love him, yes give him a second chance. Honestly everyone deserves a second chance, and some more than others. He made a mistake, he was blind then but he’s eyes are open now and make sure his feelings for you are pure. If not, he is total curb-worthy material. Left you for another one, hurt you, and now wants you again? Na-ah, I’m no sucker punch, think before you act the next time!

  205. Michelle says:

    It all depends on how bad his mistake was and if he is worthy of trust.

  206. Lisa Fletcher says:

    I came across a situation like this when I was in High School. I was dating this guy – nice, cute, taller than me! My best friend at the time knew what the one thing I wouldn’t stand for was to be cheated on. (She wanted him for her self you see). Anyway one day she told me that she’d seen him making out with some other girl, i didn’t believe her at first since there was no indication that he had been around other girls. Then 2 other girls said the same thing. So I went and broke up with the guy. I found out a couple of weeks later that my friend had told the two girls that they’d be helping her to play a joke on me and she’d arranged the whole thing so she could have the guy. I had broken up with him for no reason. Now I like to go with innocent until proven guilty and make sure that it is fully true before making a decision. If he did cheat and betray my trust it would be over and I wouldn’t take him back as i think it would just keep reminding me of the hurt over and over.

  207. Aimee Collier says:

    A second Chance?. Maybe, I don’t really know. If he really means it with all his heart. If I know we still love each other. Yes. As long as he doesn’t make the same mistake again. lol :)

  208. I do believe people can change but I would make the guy go through hell before I take him back

  209. I have to say that I believe in them but it is a really hard up hill road. Trust is hard.

  210. Thanks for the giveaway and Happy Easter! I believe in giving him a second chance – but it depends on what happened the first time around!! If it was a serious situation that I just couldn’t move past, I don’t think I could trust him a second time around.

  211. Diane Watters says:

    No! if he could so easily cast me aside for someone else, he isnt worth it. and if it was because someone was ‘hotter’ than the guy is obviously shallow.

    the song A womans worth by Alicia Keys comes to mind right now

  212. Angela Anderson says:

    It would depend on how much I had loved him before and how much he had loved me.
    I believe in second chances but if someone leaves me just to date a girl because she if hot, I don’t know how I would react.
    It would most definitely be a hard decision.
    I would probably give him a second chance, but if he ever screwed up again I would never take him back.

  213. Amanda Tse says:

    I don’t believe the guy is worth it if he screws up that badly. Going after a girl only for her looks is a very, very bad quality that I hope to avoid.

  214. Becky Johnson says:

    The hard ass in me says absolutely not. If he hurt me that bad, then why wouldn’t he do it again. Trust is so important, and he’s blown it! The reality of one’s heart though is another story and a very different reality. Hopefully I’ll never find out!

  215. laura carter says:

    I think if a guy has hurt you realy badly they dont deserve a second chance. Ever.

  216. veronica says:

    I think everyone deserves a second chance. Everyone makes mistakes.

  217. Isabel G-G says:

    I believe in second chances but probably not in this situation! If he thinks he can just go around dumping girls and then getting them back whenever he feels like it without considering how they may be affected, then he should think again. But if he completely changes who he is as a person, learns from his mistakes, and doesn’t try to force her into it a second time, then it depends on whether she thinks he’s learned his lesson.

  218. Heck no, a guy who would dump you for someone else, esply if it was cause the girl was hot, is not worth your time. If he truly cared about you he would never of dumped you in the first place. And if he did it once, he would do it again. I don’t believe that anyone can change that much in a matter of months. Total kick to the curb!

  219. Alyssa Adamsen says:

    I would give the guy another chance, but only if I really loved him and only if he really worked for it for at least a couple of weeks and worked really hard!

  220. I do not believe in giving a guy a second chances…people rarely, if ever, change.

  221. Larisa Rodriguez says:

    It depends. Do you still love him? Do you still think about him all the time? Have you tried to forget him and he keeps creeping back into your thoughts? When you do things, do you remember the good memories or do the bad memories take over? I gave my ex a chance again, and he thanks me for giving him another chance by cheating on me once again. Plus, I realized our best days were behind us. But then my current relationship, I gave him another chance after breaking up with me, and I am glad I did. I missed him so bad when we were apart. I think if that person is your soulmate, then there is nothing you cannot get through. But don’t be a fool and let him hurt you over and over and over. Just follow your gut…it’s usually right!!!

  222. Anna Maria says:

    Probably not, but it really depends on the guy, the situation, and all.

  223. Markell Beazer says:

    It really depends on the situation and the girl. If I was that in love with him and hoping he would ditch the chick, then I would take him back in a heart beat. Yet don’t let him forget his moment of extreme stupidity, so do it with class, let him know you were upset by the decision. A cold shoulder causes a warmer heart
    and seize the opportunity that your love is all yours again.

  224. Depends on the guy and what he did. If he did something extremely bad, then no. But if it was minor, then yeah, but usually I say no.

  225. Ashlee Frame says:

    He is totally curb-worthy. No guy with a shred of decency would dump you to date a hot chick then try and get back together with you.

  226. I do believe in second chances, but it really depends on what he has done. And if I really loved him.

  227. HEY JOSIE! THANKS FOR THIS AWESOME GIVEAWAY!!!

    Huh… Actually… I don’t think that guy should get a second chance, honestly… If he hurt you so bad that you are actually RIPPING inside, then all of the sudden he comes back up to you and asks for a second chance… If it was me, I would say, HELL NO. YOU BROKE MY HEART. SORRY BUT NO SECOND CHANCE FOR YOU.
    Well, that is just me.. I am that, you-only-have-one-choice-PICK-YOUR-CHOICE-WELL kind of girl. If it was my friend and we got into a terrible fight and all of the sudden, we knew what we did wrong and apologized, THAT is different…
    If the person you loved with all your heart, breaks up with you for another girl, well THAT is not a pretty sight to see if I was in that position…

    So nope. If a guy did that to me, NOT IN A MILLION YEARS PAL. YOU ALREADY GOT YOUR CHANCE AND YOU JUST THREW IT AWAY. Sorry, but no. No second chance at all…

    HAH… Anywhoo, THANKS AGAIN FOR THIS WONDERFUL GIVEAWAY JOSIEE~
    (I seriously hope i win this… I never, EVER win these kind of things though… NEVER. Even at school…. Sigh… BUT I GOT MY FINGERS CROSSED!!! XD)

  228. Veronica W. says:

    It definitely depends on what it is that he has done.

  229. No, I learned my lesson from this lifetime as it was! The %^&*’s had *plenty* of ‘second’ chances!

  230. Agnes Ledbetter says:

    I would not give a guy a second chance period. If he broke my heart once I won’t give him the chance to do it again.

  231. Kimberly says:

    It depends how much he means it. If he was truly, truly sorry, then I’d give him a second chance. I think everyone deserves a second chance, and the worst that can happen is breaking up for good, right?

  232. It depends on the situation. If its something small then sure, but if its something big like cheating or hitting me, then no, never.

  233. I believe in second chances. I wouldn’t be happily married for four yrs with 2 kiddies and one on the way if I didn’t. It truly depends on your feelings for this person, if they’re strong enough to overcome what they’ve done than yes, but if not let them go.

    They have a saying… Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.

  234. Victoria Zumbrum says:

    Yes I believe in 2nd chance as long as the guy is very sincere. Thanks for the giveaway.

  235. ansindt says:

    It totally depends on the situation….It also depends on the guy.

  236. I would REALLY have to love the guy in order to take him back after him dumping me for another girl and then realize that he’s an idiot. However if he dumped me for a hotter girl I would always be thinking that he’d just break up with me again later for another hotter girl and I would never feel like I was good enough for him. So now that I think about it I probably wouldn’t. I’ve watched too many yo-yo relationships between friends and their boyfriends or girlfriends to know that when you break up it’s for a reason and you’ll most likely end up breaking up for good at some point so it’s better to save yourself the extra heartbreak and just let the relationship stay dead.

  237. Honestly is would depend on what he did. If he left me for another girl then heck no! But if he broke up with me one day and the very next tried to get me back then maybe just maybe I would take him back. It all depends on the situations!

  238. Stella C says:

    If you gave this guy unconditional love the first time and he ruined it, I don’t think so. He should have loved you the first time around and giving him a second chance can imply that you will love him no matter what. This may trigger him to do whatever he did the first time.

  239. It depends on what he did to begin with to need the second chance.

    :)

  240. Bridget Zacharias says:

    I think it depends on what he’s done and how much you care for him. I am not sure that I could ever get over my guy cheating on me…I could forgive, but not forget, and that would make it hard to ever trust him again.

  241. I don’t think so. He couldn’t see the kind of person I was and left for another girl or cheated he doesn’t deserve me. Seconds chances are rare and you truly have to earn them. Thank you so much for the giveaway!!

  242. Probably not right away, I’m not saying make him get on his knees and beg but there are a lot of things to consider. Why did he break up with you? How did he treat you afterwards? Did he only date this girl because he thought he could get better than you or to push you away for your own good? If he hurt me badly enough by his actions with no reasonable excuse then I’d have to say no, I believe in second chances but their are limits :S
    Thanks :)

  243. Naomi H says:

    I definitely believe in giving guys a second chance. I gave this one guy a second chance and now we are married, with a family! Living our happily ever after too!!

  244. I would say (depending very highly on the case, which the above case wouldn’t cut it because a boy who goes after a girl cause she’s “hot” is degrading) I might. As in the above case, probably not. But if it was something he could change and work on and showed he was sincerely sorry and moving on from those kind of childish ways, yes. It’ll take time and work to gain back my trust and he better have a good reason for wanting me back and for not wanting me earlier. :D

  245. If that guy trully wants a second chance, i will know it when i see it, and when i do, YES I will give him a second chance. BUT it will take a while to earn back my trust so I won’t be as sad if he does it again. A THIRD CHANCE IS OUT OF THE PICTURE!!! :P

  246. Kimberly B. says:

    For something like this, I might give a guy a second chance, depending on the circumstances. He would really have to convince me that things had changed, and, of course, it would be dependent upon whether I was still available myself!
    Thanks for the great giveaway!

  247. Doesn’t everybody deserve a second chance? No one’s perfect!

  248. Ileana A. says:

    Yes I do believe in it! If he really try it, wants it, and truly feels it, then yes!!

  249. I honestly don’t know. I’m definitely one who believes people deserve a second chance, but in a situation like that I’d have to question whether I could ever trust such a guy again. Trust is big with me. So I guess it would depend on whether I truly felt I could trust him enough to give him a second chance. And if I were to give him a second chance, he’d have to earn it. I wouldn’t just start going out with him like nothing happened, he’d have to woo me all over again – even more so than the first time! :D

    You always get me thinking, Josie!! Thanks for another giveaway, you rock!

  250. Depends on the circumstances obviously. Personally, I don’t think a cheater should ever get a second chance. My ethics are pretty black and white on things like that.

  251. I used to believe everyone deserved a second chance but then I turned 16 and had the WORST time with it. Now when it comes to guys….I say you know if I wasn’t good enough for you in the first place then what makes you think I want you back. I mean if you’re in a relationship and it’s a true relationship then when the guy breaks up with you it hurts like H E Double Hockey Sticks!!!! So, what makes him think that you want to walk down that flipping road again???? Ben and Jerry only comes in so many flavors!!!
    Grant you guys can make stupid mistakes and we forgive them….that’s what we do…..but Wholly Boogers when they totally mess up….it’s time to think about ourselves….Don’t let it lead you into a court room asking for a restraining order…..!

  252. Ashley H says:

    If he is truly sincere.

  253. Daniella says:

    Hi Josie
    I absolutely love starcrossed and the start of dreamless and im so annoyed i cant find it out in england before i go on holiday in june i may have to order the us version just so i can read it then get it when it comes out in the uk.
    In answer to your question i think everyone deserves a second chance if you really love them because everyone can make a mistake :)
    xx

  254. Sarah Cruz says:

    I don’t believe in giving a guy a second chance because if he did it to you once he would do it again.

  255. Elizabeth (BookAttict) says:

    So….take him back–until the NEXT “hot chick” comes along so he can dump you all over again?? I think not! A guy like that’s what I call a “grass is always greener guy” … definitely to the curb with him! Some things in life are just not worth the heartbreak — or self-respect!

    elizabeth @ bookattict . com

  256. In this situation probably not. I admit sometimes that would be hard, but in theory he didn’t think I was good enough in the first place. That is the practical strong side of me. The normal girl side says yes if he’s worth it. Is that wishy-washy or what? LOL!

  257. Yeah, probably.
    if i truly love this guy i’ll just end up wondering if what could have happen if i gave him another chance, i would regret the my decision the moment i decided to not give him that chance. love is a matter of sacrifice, as long as you dont overdo yourself and you know what your limitations are.

  258. I don’t know – I’ve never had a bf, or even a kiss (shhh), but I would hope that I would know the guy well enough that I could trust him again, even if he has to work a little harder to earn it back. I think it would also depend if it’s actually a third or fourth chance, as well as what he did in the first place to break my trust.

  259. and to amend my earlier comment (read the question wrong, sorry!) I think I would forgive him, but I would not be over it for a long time. It would take a very long time for him to earn my trust back, but I think it would take a while. Like, a LONG LONG time.

  260. Megan Blackwell says:

    Honestly, I’d probably give him another chance. Why? Because he realized where he messed up and decided to try and fix it. I just wish every guy was like that!

  261. I would give him a second chance. Everybody deserves a second chance to make things right. Mind you, no third or fourth chances so they’d better get it right the second time. But heartbreak is a part of life, like making mistakes. Everybody’s goal: mended hearts and no regrets.

  262. I don’t known i think it depends on the person and what happen to cause the relationship to end.

  263. If it has been about a misunderstanding I would give him a second chance. If he dumped me because he thought he was doing right by me, I would still give him a secons chance.

    If he dumped me for another girl he would have hurt me a-LOT I would just be starting to get over him. I would not give him a second chance. How would I know he wasn’t gonna do it again? Why would I all of a sudden be good enough for him if I weren’t the first time. It’s like if I got together with a guy who left aother girl for me, why shouldn’t he act the same way towards me? He wouldn’t be appreciating me. _He wouldn’t know my worth and if I took him back he would be taking me for granted and just think he could act the same way again and still expect me to take him back a third time. Forgiveness is a very hard thing, you can forgive but you should and could not forget, it will always be between us.

  264. Beth Richards says:

    This is a tough question…because if the only reason he left you in the first place was to chase a beautiful girl then he definitely doesn’t get a second chance. However, having been in this situation- both as the dumper and the dumpee, when my then-boyfriend-no-husband broke up with me it was because I was being way to clingy and smothering. Of course, I didn’t see that at the time and felt spited and wronged. Nine successful years of being together later– I’m glad we spent that time apart because I grew a lot in my individuality and when we reconnected, our relationship was a lot stronger. Sometimes I suppose you don’t know what you have until its gone…I was just that lucky girl you got a second chance :)

  265. For me, it depends on the situation really. If it were a minor thing as to why we stopped talking or broke up I’d give him a second chance to prove to me that he’s not that kind of guy. If the situation involved any kind of mental or physical abuse or cheating then no way.

  266. A second Chance?? I don’t know i quess it would depend on the situation and how long I’ve been with the guy

  267. Christina says:

    it depends on the offense, I believe once a cheater always a cheater, or liar. I can’t stand be lied to!

  268. Lisa Jordan says:

    Curb-worthy for sure. Second chances are for slip ups and small mistakes, not something that big. Something that big says a lot about the guy’s character, and that is not someone I would want to be with. Luckily my guy knows how lucky he is to have me!

  269. it would matter on the guys as far me giving them a second chance…

  270. Maritza Robinson says:

    I think it just depends on the situation. Thanks for giveaway!

  271. Well, It depends on what he did and why he did it .

  272. Laurel Landau says:

    Yes, I absolutely believe in giving anyone a second chance. I have given a guy a second chance, and so far, so good!

  273. For doing something like that or equally horrible? CURB-WORTHY! Actually LESS than curb-worthy!

  274. In that scenario, the guy goes to the curb.
    ~Shel

  275. Michelle says:

    Maybe a second chance, but definitely not a third.

  276. Mary Preston says:

    It depends on what he has done to tick me off in the first place.

  277. Um, yeah he is re-dateable. But he would need to do some serious groveling first! Thanks for the chance to win.

  278. I think it depends on the guy. If the guy wasn’t great before, I doubt he’s going to be much better the second time around. But if the guy was this amazing person who just made a mistake, go for it!

  279. I am a little bit tough on this one. I strongly believe that if a guy chooses to dump you over another girl then he is really not meant to be and so why chooses to hold something that was never yours from start. That kind of intense feeling of pain will be unrepairable. How can you put the shattered pieces whole again? It will never be the same. The trust will no longer there and if I choose to give second chance, the relationship will just ruin my whole being because suspicion will dominate my actions and my decisions. I truly believe that each of us is truly destined to be with the right one. And the journey of finding the other half may take a long way to finally have him in your life. Along the journey you may meet guys who can break your heart. But my belief is you have to let go and move on. Time can mend the pain and the journey to continue loving love can finally begin again.

  280. Shirley says:

    I’m not too sure….on one hand, I have a soft heart and would probably forgive the guy, but on the other hand,if he did something that truly hurt me, I probably won’t ever forgive him and therefore….no second chance :S I guess, at the end of the day, it depends on what the guy did.

  281. Depends on how bad he has hurt me in the past.

  282. Delanie Brooks says:

    Give him a second chance. I’ve been in almost the exact same situation, except he dumped me for a really ugly girl… But then he realized that he messed up royally and that he loves me, and always have, and since I love him, I gave him a second chance. It wasn’t automatic, he’s had to work his butt off for it to prove he means it, but if you ask him, he’ll say it’s more than worth it. If it’s love, then it deserves a second chance no matter. If he messes up again, then he’s curb worthy.

  283. Celeste says:

    I think that he would deserve a second chance, If he truly felt that he had made a mistake by leaving you. If you both have strong feelings about each other than it’s worth a second chance. People make mistakes and we deserve a chance to make it right. :)

  284. Speaking from personal experience (I’m going through this right now), I would give a guy a second chance…but I wouldn’t make it easy. Things would have to move at a slower pace and trust would have to be built back up. He would have to apologize and understand why he’s apologizing.

  285. I did give a guy a second chance and I regretted it in a way. He still acted like a toxic jerk and a moron. My heart and self-esteem got really bruised and it took me a long time to recover…. On the other hand, I don’t pine for him anymore and totally got over him even though it took a while. I just wish that I could have gotten over him without such a painful recovery period….

  286. I believe in second chances. I don’t believe in third. Two strikes and you’re out!

  287. It depends what the guy did the first time. Definitely no second chance if the guy cheated on me.

  288. Second Chances are tricky… If he cheated, then HE. IS. OUT! No take-backs, it’ll-nevah-happen-agains, or second chances! If he breaks up with me, end up with someone else and through that relationship sees the error of his ways, then he might just EARN a second chance! He would have to prove that he’s all about me, and only me… Love this question!

  289. Sheryl Nicolas says:

    I have been that person who has given the guy a second, third and fourth chance and I must say I did regret it but we are good friends. Actually hes one of my bestfriends but i think it depends on your relationship with that person and if your willing to try it out again. In the end it was worth it for me because I have no what if questions wondering around in my head. With out a doubt I know this person and I are better as friends.

  290. Karie Miller says:

    I guess it all depends on what you are giving him a second chance for. :) In most case’s I would say yes unless he did something unforgivable.

  291. Q: Would you give a guy a second chance? And I mean he has totally messed up and done something truly unforgivable, like dumped you so he could date another girl (who is way hot), and then a few months later realized that the hot girl is giant moron and now he wants you back.

    A: To be honest, since I have a big heart, I would forgive him, but only if he shows of how much it affected him when he realized that he has made the biggest mistake that he has ever made (like be on his hands and knees and beg you to take him back and forgive him for making the dumbest mistake he has ever–plus, bawling like a baby and looking like he hasn’t slept in days). I never dated anyone, but I would still forgive him if he did that to me.

  292. Crystal A. says:

    I’m not sure. It really depends on how bad the betrayal was. I wouldn’t forgive cheating and I guess it would depend on how humiliated I felt if the boy did like you said and dumped me for a hotter girl. Uggghh I guess there are so many scenarios that it will just depend on where the story leads you.

  293. I would give him a second chance. Isn’t that what he’s trying to do for you? As a rule though you’d have to make sure he understands that a third chance isn’t given! I can only really assume I’d do this based on my soon to be sister-in-law’s experience. My brother-in-law did the whole date-dump for a hot chick-wanna date the other girl again thing. She gave him a second chance and now they are getting married! My husband and I have been together since high school. I don’t think my entry will win based on that I don’t have the typical heart break give a second chance situation but I wanted to give my 2 cents anyway.

  294. Brittany says:

    I think it would depoend on how the relationship was and where you were at in it. As well if he is serious about getting back together.

  295. Caroline says:

    It would depend on the situation. If he dumped me for someone else, then no way will I give him a second chance.

  296. Julie McAninch says:

    I gave my long term boyfriend(that I’m still with a year after he hurt me) a second chance after he did something that broke my trust in him, so yes, I do. It just depends on the guy and how forgiving I’m feeling.

  297. Second chances? Yes. But after a guy does something like THAT? No. In my book, second chances have rules.

  298. If the person truly repents what he/she did, then he/she may be given a second chance. But the most important thing is that he/she truly means his/her apology, and that it’s just not a line fed to you. It’s not the second chance that has to be willingly given, but also the intent. If he/she can’t get past what has happened, then no second chance. But if he/she truly is remorseful, you can decide :)

  299. I really want to say yes, but have to go with probably no. I mean, if he really screwed me over, and now he is coming back saying sorry, then that’s just sad. He messed up, I’m finally recovering…it just doesn’t seem very nice! So, of course it would depend on the actual person, but I would have to be seriously ready to become hurt again first. Wow, that sounds harsh. Well maybe if he had a nice smile, maybe cried a little, and bought me a book and a cup of tea, I would be more open to listening. ;)

  300. It depends on how badly he messed up and, above all, it depends on how much I love him. Even if I’m hurt, it may be worthy to forgive him (or at least try) if I feel he is the right man for me. Maybe I’m influenced by my own 7 years relationship, but it’s been a long time and although we both have made mistakes and hurt each other sometimes…in the end, it doesn’t matter. I think that if you truly love someone you have to accept that there’ll probably be a lot of things to overcome together. Maybe this is one of those situations.

  301. I really depends on the situation.

  302. Amanda Ridenour says:

    I know it depends on the situation and your past history with the guy. For me personally, if I honestly believed he was sorry for letting me go in the first place and that it really was love, then yes I would give a guy a second chance. However, I’m not going to be the “doormat” or be the back-up for when his other relationships fail. If I knew he was sincere in his apology for letting me go then I would take him back. But that would be the only second chance he got. If he were to break up with me again, we are done!

  303. Rachel Chan says:

    It depends a lot of different factors; but mainly the situation and whether he’s TRULY sorry and not just saying a line. Also, does he actually deserves a second chance? You don’t want to be the gullible girl who’s still in love with her scum of an ex-boyfriend that took you for granted. As they say, a leopard doesn’t change it’s spots…. As I said, it really depends on what he did in the first place and whether I think he actually regrets what he did and WON’T DO IT AGAIN.
    Also, thanks for making this giveaway international!

  304. second chance??? never.. he really screwed me over and it’s not easy to recover.. if I give him second chance, he would want another chance..

  305. Do I believe in giving a guy a second chance?depends on what He’s done, if i want him back in my life and how badly he hurt me.Second chances should only be given to those who deserve them.

  306. Been there, done that. BUT, and there’s a big BUT here :D things weren’t the same as the first time. I mean I was TOTALLY in love when he screwed up and based on that feeling I accepted him back, but we broke up on good terms when he realized the love was gone. I guess I couldn’t forget what he’s done after all. Now I’m married with another guy who has gone through a similar situation before we met – his long time (8 years long) girlfriend found another guy – and his answer was NO, even if it took him years to recover. We’re happy and he said (when we had this talk) that he’s not sorry at all for the choice he made back then.

  307. No, I would not. My dad cheated on my mom for 2 years with a married woman and he destroyed my parents marriage and our life as a family unit. My mom gave him chance after chance to redeem himself and it did nothing but bring further hurt to my sister and myself. I never completely understood her reasoning, but everyone is allowed to do what they see fit to heal themselves and the people they love. I just wouldn’t do the same.
    (My Rafflecopter name is Olivia Lynn)

  308. OH…He has to regain the trust i had in him…not that simple.He has to prove me he changed,and after maybe,i will give him a second chance.but like a stupid i am,and probably cause i love him,i will take him back.

  309. I think if I would really love him I’ll give him a second chance (but no third one).

  310. Natalie Cleary says:

    I believe in second chances but it depends on what the other person did.

  311. :) So cant wait for Dreamless to come Out =]

  312. I don’t think I could give him a second chance, because I won’t be able to believe in anything he says.

  313. It really depends on what the guy did to become an ex. I have given someone a second chance before, but there are times when I would never give him that chance.

  314. I believe in second chances but I don’t think I’m a person to easily give one to a guy who broke my heart. I can easily trust a person, but once that trust is broken, it’s difficult for me to trust again. If he dumped me for another girl–more beautiful or not, then it’s his lost not mine. He just proved me how undeserving he is of my love and respect. I’ve been cheated once, and it hurts A LOT. Big-TIME. And even though the guy could change, I don’t think I can ever trust him again. We’ll just end up hurting each other in the process. If a person cheated you once, he can do it again. I can forgive but I don’t think I can truly forget. BUT, if I am married to that guy, then it’s a different story. As long as I LOVE him, and as long as he’s willing to change, I’ll be capable of forgiving and accepting him back in my life.

  315. Stephanie says:

    I might.. depending on the guy and what he’s done. :)

  316. Sakshi Suryavanshi says:

    Hi! Firstly, thanks for making this giveaway international!
    Now, the question, I don’t think I’d give that guy a second chance! Because if he has done it once, he can definitely do it again! But this is only if I truly loved him and he hurt me! If something like a fight happened before this in which I was wrong I think I’d think about it! And if the fight situation is there, then I’d like to give him a second chance but not as a boyfriend! I think I would ask him if we could start from the beginning: FRIENDSHIP. And if the guy truly loves me, he’ll agree to it, if he doesn’t, then, well he deserves being dumped!

    And I LOVE Starcrossed! I would like to thank you for writing such an amazing book :D

  317. Rhiannon says:

    Maybe. Maybe not.

    It depends on a few variables;
    1. What he did in the first place
    2. What the relationship was like on average
    3. How long he’s willing to wait around

    I can’t say I’ve been through this but… Personally, if someone left me for another girl, I think I’d be too furious (and proud) to get back together with him. If a man knows he can behave in this way, the odds of him doing it again are high. Also, would you really want to try again with the man who was happy to throw you over last time? I don’t think that would sit well with me.

    However, persistence may be key. If he was determined to get me back and by virtue of being not a jerk for a period of time, I might consider it (depending how good the relationship was, for most guys it would be a flat no). I think it’s a bad idea to take someone back immediately, there needs to be some effort to prove they are sincere and that it won’t happen again – so I’d play very very hard to get. If he doesn’t persist then it’s probably for the best, I think it would be hard situation to recover from.

  318. Steph P. says:

    I think that everybody needs e second chance. But then I need to be very careful until I wili find confidence again.

  319. Hannah McCormick says:

    I would give a guy a chance to explain and depending on what he’s done give him a second chance.

  320. Mary McCormick says:

    I would give them a second chance depending on the situation.

  321. To be honest, I don’t think I’d give him a second chance… especially not when he messed up big time
    I’m not very forgiving, I guess..

  322. Elena Feltri says:

    I think that it depends on the situation, but I’m not sure that I would give him a second chance, because if the mistake isn’t that big I wouldn’t break up….

  323. It depends on the situation..but I think I wouldn’t give a second chance if it was somethingTHAT bad ^^

  324. Hi Joise!
    Actually I don’t think that i would give him a second chance. People who do these things are big, big idiots. I think that even if he would try hard to take me back, I wouldn’t. If he really liked me he wouldn’t have leaved me from the beginning. And if he’ve done something like that once, then he will probably do it again. He wouldn’t deserve a second chance.
    Thanks for the giveaway and Happy Easter!
    Love from Sweden.

  325. no i don’t think so because if he did it once he could do it again and i deserve better than that ( i hope at least ^^;;)

  326. It depends on what he did to mess up with the first chance…

  327. I’m thinking no way if its something that bad. If ur not good enough for him then he’s def not good enough for u

  328. Depends… but most likely it will be a huge no. I’m not good with forgiving and forgetting. :P

  329. Alannah Campbell says:

    Kick him to the curb! Maybe it’s just me but I’m not the very forgiving type.

  330. It is important to listen to your heart

  331. Yeah I would forgive him…eventually but only after a little revenge. :) I dont want to seem like a bad person but if he screwed me over i would have to get my own back just to make sure he wont mess with me again.

  332. I’m not sure if I believe in giving a guy a second chance. I’d like to say that I’d be able to put any disagreements or poor actions in the past, but I’m not sure if I would be able to. So I think I’m on the fence, depending on the situation.

  333. I would neeeever give the guy a second shot.
    I have dignity and if the boy decides to dump me, because he wants to me with another girl and then wants me back, after realizing his mistake.. Noway.
    I want someone who wants me. It has to be enough for him to love me and to have me ♥

    Greets from Germany (:
    Lou!!

  334. Jessica says:

    It would really depend on the situation but if he was sincere maybe…but he would have to jump through some hoops to earn my trust back.

  335. Marie O. says:

    No. If he broke your heart once, who’s to say he won’t do it again?

  336. Sophia M. K. says:

    I would want to give him a second chance, but I wouldn’t. If it hurt that much losing him the first time, I wouldn’t want to risk going through that again. Once would be plenty for me…if it isn’t already too much.

  337. I believe that people do deserve second chances. Everyone makes mistakes but it depends on what the guy did. If he did something truly bad and hurt me a lot then i don’t think i would be able to forgive him. Even if he apologizes and means it, I don’t think i would give him a second chance if he broke my heart. I would be afraid that he would do it again.

  338. I believe in second chances, but I’ve found that it doesn’t work out well in the end. There was a reason the first time didn’t work out, and even if you’ve given him a second chance to redeem himself, it’s likely that reason is still there.

  339. Joella Elbert says:

    I believe in giving a guy a second chance on most things – it would just depend on what it is he has done and is asking a second chance for!

  340. jowhara says:

    nope! never!

  341. Lauren J says:

    As many people have said, it DEFINITELY depends on the circumstances. What he did to hurt me etc. Though if he did something major like cheat on me, I don’t think there’s anything he could do to win me back.

    • Lauren J says:

      Okay I just read the paragraph to see what your question referred to… And there’s NO WAY I’d take back a guy if he dumped me for another girl (hot or not – though it does make it MUCH worse if he did it just for a piece of a$$). It makes me ill thinking about giving him a second chance. Who’s to say he won’t do it again?! And if this happened to a friend of mine, I’d do everything in my power to keep her away from the loser. I’m not sure there’s anything this guy could do to to convince me that he was worthy of anyone’s attention after that point.

  342. I really think it depends on the guy and the relationship that you’ve had. Generally I’d say no, but I know with my current boyfriend, we’ve been together for 6 years and I don’t think I could not give him a second chance!

  343. Elaina Stallo says:

    I believe in second chances on alot of things but you have to remember that you may forgive but you will never forget. Expecially when it comes to the matter of the heart. Also I would definitly make him suffer, make him see what he missed out on.

  344. Julianne M says:

    I’ve found that giving second chances to guys like that never really works out in your favor. I suppose there are a lot of factors that would be taken into consideration, but my answer is no second chance for him.

    Also thanks for doing these giveaways so often! Makes me feel like one of these times I’ll actually win (but probably not). Thanks! =)

  345. Shayenne says:

    I definitely believe in second chances because people are capable of changing themselves and their lifestyle. They just need a little support. :)

  346. It depends on the situation. Life’s too short for there to be no second chances. Of course, don’t get me wrong; some actions are unforgivable and can show the true intentions of a person but if you can truly believe that a person is good despite previous events, why hold a grudge?

  347. This is a tough question a lot of people face. I mean, it definitely depends on the situation. What made this guy change? Did he have a true change of heart? Or did the girl dump him and now he wants you back, because he’s lame and can’t be alone?

    For the most part, my answer is no. If he’s done it once, he will do it again most likely.

    Plus, if they dump you for someone else, how true is that ove anyway? What will they do when tough times roll around?

    I’d say find someone who loves you for you and will stick with you when everything else is crumbling away.

    As for friendships and forgiveness, sure, I’d give someone another chance. But for relationships, nope. My heart is worth more than that, and I’ll only put it on the the line once for any one person.

  348. It depends. Not so much on what he did but who he’s become. If he can show me that he’s changed, that his change of heart isn’t just a matter of convenience or regret but that his mistake has precipitated a change in character – then yeah I’d take him back. I’d probably do it slowly and gradually and make him show me that he was worthy of my trust. But I do believe people can change. And if they do, then they’re worthy of second chances. And that healing and reconciliation is totally possible.

    But not if they haven’t changed. If he’s just sorry I don’t know that I’d trust he wouldn’t do it again and then I wouldn’t take him back.

  349. Abbi Hanson says:

    Tough.. but probably not.. “My good opinion once lost, is lost forever.” Pride and Prejudice :) (another great love story)

  350. Alessandra Garau says:

    Yes, I think that if I really love this guy I can give him a second chance

  351. Rachel Hall says:

    It depends. In this postion, it really depends on how I felt about him. If I was in love with him and thought about him a lot, even after my friends kept telling me he’s a jerk and doesn’t deserve my time, and still cared about him after he did this to me, maybe. If he proved to me he really changed and cared about me and I honestly believed him, I probably would. But just a second chance, if he did it again, the relationship would be unfixable.

  352. It depends on how much I love the guy. If he was my other half, I would forgive him. Without a doubt. I don’t believe in having him prove himself worthy or something. Love should be stonger than that. Love should be able to conquer all boundaries. What is a relationship worth if we can’t forgive the other. I know this sounds totally clisheish and easier said than done, but in my opinion love is a decision and a feeling. If you are married for years and years, science has shown that the hormones that induce love will only last for two or three years. But if you decide to love someone and work on your realtionship, it will last. Every couple fights and has obsticles to overcome. It’s easy to enjoy a realtionship when everything gets easy, but it shows true strength and character to withstand the hard times.
    So I say I would forgive him. Every person no matter the consequence deserves a second chance. And if I truly love someone, I would find the strength inside me to forgive him.

  353. Vanessa Wölfler says:

    not really…

  354. I think it depends upon the circumstances and your relationship with him, so possibly…I like to try to give people a second chance unless they have done something extremely wrong.

  355. Alisha S says:

    For something like this, I might give a guy a second chance. If he did try to get me back, though, he would most definitely have to really mean it. It all depends on how genuine the guy actually is.

  356. if she truly loves him she would give him a second chance .. but if a glass is broken once u can’t put it back in the same way it was …BUT LOVE IS STRONG SO IF THEY TRULY LOVE EACH OTHER THAN THEY SHOULD FORGET THE PAST AND MOVE ON IN THE FUTURE …. love alays win in the end hopefully♥

  357. Chelsea Godden says:

    it depends on what he did.

  358. Kristin B. says:

    If a guy did something that messed up I don’t think I’d give him another chance because I would have lost all faith and trust in him. Once a cheater always a cheater. What’s to say he wouldn’t bail on me again if someone hotter comes by. you can forgive but you’d never forget the pain.

  359. I’d say that it would take a heck of a lot of convincing to take him back, he’d have to prove himself big style to win back my trust. I guess as well, for a long time I’d feel wary, if he’s done it before who’s to say he won’t do it again. It wouldn’t be an immediate yes, there would be a lot of thinking it through, but in the end it would completely depend on what felt right, and that varies from guy to guy.

  360. Give him a second chance if you think he really understands what he did.

  361. Depends on the guy

  362. Yes, I believe in second chances.

  363. Magdalena Michalak says:

    Hey Josie, I believe that every situation is different. It depends on how much you care about the guy and if you truly WANT him to deserve a second chance. If you love him and if it is not only a fling, then i believe that everyone is only human and makes mistakes, therefore deserves a second chance. Because, afterall, we would all want HIM to give us a second chance if we would need it. Greetings from Scotland !

  364. No, I would not give the guy another chance. Because if he dumped me in a rude way and then get together with another prettier girl…
    I would not give him another chance, because if I wasn’t enough and he that rude, then he doesn’t deserve me.
    I would just say no, and find another guy, a guy who appreciate me!
    That’s what I think.
    And also, thanks for this amazing giveaway…!

  365. Great question! Every situation is different and it can be easy to say yes or no but when faced with the individual and the situation then your reponse can be sometimes a suprise. Being the strong individual I think I am it would be easy to sit here and say kick him to the kerb but things don’t always turn out exactly as planned and thats what makes life interesting I guess :)

  366. I believe if I really love someone, and I’m sure that they are sorry for the awful thing they’ve done and want to be with me completely, and love me, then a second chance is worth a go. I would like to think I would be given a second chance if the roles were reversed.

    It’s that thing, better to have loved than not a all. If you give someone a second chance, at least you know you’ve both done all you could.

  367. No, I would not give him another chance. Even if I still love him sometimes people deserves “a second chance” but not in situations like that. I mean what a jerk! It’s like am his second choice no girl wants to be a guys second choice.

    - Sara

  368. Miranda Lopez says:

    It would have to be a special guy to get a second chance. If he keeps messing up over and over like little things and does a HUGE mistake, then heck no. He will never learn and no woman should let a guy like that walk all over her.

    But if it was one mistake that happened out of no where, it might be possible but he would have to earn my trust again before he could get his second chance.

    Ugh… I don’t know if that is making any sense. Hopefully the guys we trust with our hearts will never have to ask for a second chance.

  369. If I’d really love him…then yes. I had to be quite convinced that the guy is THE GUY and to lose him would be a big mistake.

  370. Lili Moss says:

    No. I’m very unforgiving concerning such cases;)

  371. It really depends on the amount of groveling! Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone deserves a second chance, but love and trust are earned and he certainly couldn’t expect to walk back into her life without doing something to prove that a) he regrets the mistake, and b) he’ll never do anything like that again.

  372. Flavia Claire says:

    No. You have to deserve a second chance, and i’d never give a Guy another one after dumping me for a hotter girl. Second chances are Made for mistakes, and that’s not a mistake, it’s being a jerk

  373. Tessa W-T says:

    It depends on the reason why he dumped me and why he wants to get back to me. If he just left me because the other girl was hotter than me and now he sees she is simply stupid, then I think no. The guy has to give a very reasonable reason why he deserves to come back to me

  374. Tiara L says:

    I do believe in giving a guy a second chance but I don’t think there’s always a happy end. I hate disappointments and if this time the relationship failed, I’d be very very disappointed. So I’d be careful to whom I give the second chance.

  375. Margaret says:

    Yes I do. I have given a guy a second chance. Everyone makes mistakes.

  376. Brittany A says:

    Well, I suppose it would depend on the reason we broke up in the first place and of course if the guy is worth it. I probably wouls give him a second chance, but I would likely be reserved, being careful to avoid getting hurt.

  377. Kristin says:

    Second chances are nice to think about and make fabulous movie endings but if the guy did something awful like cheat on you or use you or steal you’re chocolate when you’re on you period (personally the last one was the most horrifying to me) then he has got to go.

  378. Melonie says:

    Do I believe in giving a guy a second chance? Well, first off if I have to give him a second chance then that means for whatever reason he has chosen to ignore my feelings and how something might affect me. It doesn’t show much consideration or love on his part and is that something I can get past? If he left me for another woman or betrayed me with another woman then no, I could not give him another chance. I would always, in the back of my mind, be thinking about what he’s doing, who is he talking to, and is he telling the truth. That’s no way to live; it’s not a lasting love without trust. If he did something that didn’t involve another woman, I might be able to give a second chance as long as there was no lying involved. If he was truly sorry and wanted to right the wrong, I would give him that chance if I believed his feelings were sincere. This is a tough question because it really depends on how well you know a person and if they hurt you do you truly know them?

  379. linda foster says:

    Second chance but it depends on the situation. Mostly I know that everyone makes mistakes… that I have made mistakes that should not have been forgiven and I think everyone deserves a second chance if there are still feelings there.

  380. Hmm…that’s tough. Depends on the situation and how big the infraction was. Also, on whether he was truly sorry for what he did and realized the error of his ways. If all those were in place…well, it depends. But once trust has been cracked it’s hard to glue back together again.

  381. Rose Tatiana Jude says:

    Most likely not. I’d never put up with someone who treated me like that. If someone cared about me little enough to break up with me for someone else, I’d do my best to get over it and find someone who really cares for me.
    But still, maybe, possibly. But they better have a damn good reason.

  382. Kiki Ferreira says:

    Yes, I believe that everyon makes mistakes. We are lead to temptation one way or the other. And I think that everyone should be given a second chance to prove themselves no matter what they have done.

  383. It really depends on the guy and his personallity, but sometimes people don’t realize what they have until it’s gone. </3

  384. No.
    I do believe in second chances and people messing up and all of that, but personally, I probably wouldn’t take him back. Maybe after a few years and one of those reconnection things when we’ve both matured. But mostly no. I am not really the forgiving type I guess ;)

  385. I once gave a guy another chance and nothing good came out of it. So I would never ever give a guy another chance. Especially if he broke up with me to date another girl. If he wasn’t so in love with me to stay with me he won’t get another chance. Been there, done that, know better now.

  386. No, I think love stays the course. If he dumps you once, he’ll dump you again. (Unless we’re talking fiction. Then he will have totally done this for noble reasons and will never have really been drawn to the other girl.)

  387. Michelle Mao says:

    I’d give him he only a second chance if he REALLY recognized his mistake. He’d have to be on his knees and beg for please and be very very repentant:)

  388. I guess I believe in giving people a second chance. It depends on the person, I guess. If he treated you like dirt when you were dating, then no, I wouldn’t take him back, but if he was nice and made you happy, then probably.

  389. he has to suffer a bit first, and he has to fight for the girl!

  390. I don’t think so….I’m baaad at forgetting mean things done to me….

  391. I do believe in second chances, but it would take a while before I could fully trust that person again. They’d have to work a little bit harder to prove they deserve to be in my life, but I would give the chance to do so.

  392. No, someone who forgets you at the drop of hat is so not worth it. Why give him a second chance when he’s due to repeat his mistake anyway?

  393. alicia marie says:

    To me, it really depends on what the thing is that he has done. If it’s something pretty terrible, then I probably wouldn’t give him a second chance because I wouldn’t want it to happen again, and it’s very likely he would do it again.

  394. Brandi Peel says:

    It depends. I will keep this g-rated. If we had slept together, because I take that very seriously, then no way, he would never get a second chance.
    If we were just beginning our relationship, then maybe. He would have to have a really good reason and undergo some changes!

  395. I would give him a second chance if he begged.

  396. It would depend on the guy and how much I liked him. But I would probably give him another chance.

  397. I’d have to say that it depends on what happened in the first place. There are some things that I’d never forgive. I’ve been through enough in my life that I know what I can and can’t forgive. Thanks for the giveaway!
    -Dawn aka dawnmomoffour
    thedoyle6@rogers.com

  398. Katie Cumbie says:

    I would most definately give him another shot! I believe that there is a little bit of good in every person and that every person deserves a second chance. I love this series!!!! <3 :)

  399. I do believe in second chances. I gave my significant other a second chance and after 5 years of making it up to me I married him this past Saturday!

  400. Ashley Manderson says:

    To be perfectly honest, I have never been in a situation to give a guy a second chance, but if I ever were to be, I think it should depend on what the guy has actually done, but also on what the guy is like. If he made a huge mistake and regretted leaving (for example) big time, and he was trying his best to make it up to you, then I probably would give him a second chance. But it would all depend on how he makes it up to me and if he really proves to me and fights for me enough to show that he wants me back.

  401. Not based on the scenario given. Dumping me because he thinks another girl is hotter?? Umm, he clearly wasn’t who I thought he was, and it would change my opinion of him so greatly that I would no longer be interested in having a relationship with the ass-hat… I mean… the guy. ;)
    Thanks for the giveaway, Josie! <3

  402. Jordyn Sullivan says:

    If it were me I would tell him that it shouldnt have taken him leaving and being with another girl to realize what he had with me, then take him back if I could tell him intentions were on the right track

  403. Aina Fatini Zulhaime says:

    Nope. I tend to run away from things that had even scraped my trust, and I’ll curb the guy hard if he ever comes back. So, no, I won’t give the dude a second chance… unless he gives me a copy of your Dreamless! :D

  404. Cassie H says:

    I don’t think I’d bee looking to reconnect any time soon. How could you trust a fickle guy?

  405. Amber Hutchison says:

    I wouldn’t if he dumped you for someone hotter than me because that is just plan rude! You got your heartbroken when he dumped you for that other person now you have a chance to break his.(sorry if i’m harsh but he deserves it)

  406. Annabelle says:

    Yes, if you still feel something for him, there’s no point being miserable and proud when you could end up being happier by giving him a second chance, if it’s truly meant to be, you know. :)

  407. Elizabeth says:

    I would not give a guy a second chance if he dumped me for someone “super hot”. The way I see it, I don’t want to be anyone’s second choice! We all deserve someone who wants US, no matter how hot any other girl is. I would also want to be dating a good enough guy that knows that looks aren’t everything and wouldn’t be stupid enough to dump me for a good-looking moron!

  408. Michele D. says:

    This is a really good question so I’m going to give you two answers:

    Real life: Probably not, but do you really want to miss out on something good just because of your pride? We all make mistakes. The real question is can you trust that person again?

    Book life: Absolutely! It makes for an interesting story

    Michele D

  409. i think it all depends on the guy if he truly is sorry for this “unforgivable thing”. It doesnt necessarily matter if you love him or not. He could still treat you badly.I would take him back and forgive, him if i honestly believed he was sorry and would never do anything to purposely hurt me again.

  410. Pooja kurup says:

    I would say that it depends on the guy and how hes inside but it probably would be a no. Because would u want a guy who has dumped u for another girl. Basically hes just using me. Why would you want a guy who uses you. There are plenty of good guys out there who should get a second chance. Not a pig who dumps a girl for an another girl. So the answer is noo.

  411. It depends on how bad he screwed up! There are some things that I could forgive!

  412. If the guy dumped me for another girl then tried to get back with me then no I wouldn’t give him a chance. If he did it once then he’ll probably do it again when another girl comes along. So no my family said if it was bad the first time then it’s worse the second time around.

  413. Hmm… that’s an interesting question. If a guy did all of that, I think it would be extremely unlikely that I’d give him a second chance. I mean, what if he were to do something like that again? It’s just not worth it.

    Thanks so much for the amazing giveaway! :)

  414. I believe in second chances… People make mistakes, miscommunication happens, people grow up, and sometimes it all comes down to bad timing… Your example, the cheating partner, has happened to me before, on my birthday even. It broke my heart, and he came back a week later, and I gave him second chance, even though my brain said no, my heart gave in. We did not work out in the end, but I would not give up the love I did feel during this second chance, as well as just experiencing life and growing up. I was always taught not to hold grudges and look for the best in people, treat others how I would want to be treated, not to live with regrets and follow my heart, even as naive as it may sound for people in the “real world”, I hold those morals close to me. To err is human, to forgive divine.

  415. Sorry to say but i would… But i would only give him one chance.

  416. people are allowed to make mistakes, but if he did a BIG mistake like cheating on me, then he’s gone forever. Simple as that

  417. I’m not really a second chance person…I can hold a grudge for a very long time :/ I guess it depends on my feelings towards them!

    Thanks for the giveaway! ;)

  418. Jess Kemmish says:

    Really it depends on how much you liked the guy in the first place and if there is anyone else that was there for you when he ditched you to pick up the pieces that you now have an attachment to??? Also it depends on how trustworthy the guy is and how sincere his apology seems. On top of that it depends on why he left the girl in the first place if it was because of a stupid argument you might be more forgiving but if the relationship was going well and he left you just out of the cruelty of his heart and for his own means you probably wouldn’t be too happy with him. I guess it also depends on his track record and whether he just made a simple mistake or if he’d done it before. Futhermore I think for me I would have to think about it a while to decide whether he has changed for the better or just turned into a heart-breaking evil maniac!

    Hope this helps you with your writting and I can’t wait to read this new series it sounds awsome! :) x

  419. Normally I don’t think guys should get a second chance but it really has to do with the circumstances and their excuse. It also has to do with why you broke up with them.

  420. Sarah Barton says:

    I think I would forgive him, probably even still love him, but giving him a second chance would be something I could not do. When he made the choice to dump me, he made that choice willingly, which shows how little he respected me, by choosing looks over what we had. Though it would probably be the hardest thing I would had to do, I think I would not go back to him, and instead find some one who would love me enough that I would never need to make this choice again.

    Saying this I do believing in second chances, but sometimes it is better to let some things go.

  421. I couldn’t forgive my boyfriend if he dumped me and was together with some other girl by the end of the week, I think my heart would be too broken to even look at him never mind forgive and forget. If i wasn’t good enough the first time for him stick around why the second? I would probably still love him but i couldn’t take him back even if he was the sorriest guy ever!

  422. Yes, but only if his name is Lucas Delos.
    Not that I’m partial or anything.

  423. keila and caitlin :) says:

    Hi Josie :)
    If people don’t make mistakes, they’ll never be able to learn from them. Mistakes are what define them, and while it may not be possible to forget, if they can’t forgive then how will they expect people to forgive them? Making mistakes is human – perfection is like beauty, it lies in the eyes of the beholder. A lot of people worry about what their friends will think if they hand out a second chance to the one they love but honestly, if they can forgive them, others have no right to influence that. The song ‘Ours’ (by Taylor Swift, states, “… and the verdict comes from those with nothing else to do/ the jury’s out but my choice is you…” maybe they make the wrong choice, maybe it will hurt them later but then they can accept that they made that choice and they won’t always think ‘what if?’. If the person in question is able to swallow their pride and admit they made a mistake, and they love them enough to forgive them, then they can give them a second chance. People can never appreciate what they have ’till it is no longer theirs and if they’re lucky sometimes they can get it back. If saying goodbye is the issue, in Helen’s words, “Decide what you can’t do and then do the opposite.” (Can’t wait for Dreamless :) ) YOLO xxxxx

  424. Magdalena Michalak says:

    hey Josie!
    i realise that ive already commented but i rechanged my mind a bit
    Since the guy really messed up, I would take him back in anyway! everyone messes up its a part of human nature and I know if i didnt forgive him i would regret not knowing if it was worth it : taking him back.

  425. Second chances? Eh well it depends on the situation.People make mistakes and this is a part of their growing up and evolving as human beings and sometimes mistakes are good (well not really,when you make them but after a while and you learn from them) but sometimes mistakes are bad.It really depends on the situation. But in the case that you asked about my answer would be-helll NO. I`d never give a second chanse to a guy that has dumped me because of a hotter girl and when he realised she was a moron he came back knocking at my door.

  426. Liz McNamee says:

    Yes. Totally been there and done this.

    A lot of groveling was done, conditions set (such as: This is your last chance buddy…don’t screw it up) and the mutual understanding firmly in place that trust had to be earned back…and there was not set timeline on this.

    Everyone deserves a second chance I think…providing they haven’t crossed some major moral lines. :)

  427. Weronika says:

    If i was Helen…mhhh…. Let me state it this way- from the way you write soo passionately about her filings i can see that Helen is madly in love with Lucas. Like, in love,in love. So if Lucas would act so selfishly, i know that Helen would have forgiven him. Making trouble is hard, but it’s even harder to forgive for the trouble and Helen knows that. She’s a fighter that has her heart filled with this glorious feelings, so she would choose the harder bit. She wouldn’t forgive him right away. She would spend sleepless nights thinking about weather his worth it or not.

    But if u want my opinion, then here we go- im a person who is desperate to find love,and stay in love for my whole life. In every boy i find nice, friendly and….hot, i start looking for any sparkle of affection towards me. So, if he firsts dumpS me and then comes back, on his knees, begging like a dog, the i would certainly forgive him. Not straight away thought. He would need to pay for his sins. He would need to take me out for dinners, buy me presentsand make tg

  428. Weronika says:

    If i was Helen…mhhh…. Let me state it this way- from the way you write soo passionately about her filings i can see that Helen is madly in love with Lucas. Like, in love,in love. So if Lucas would act so selfishly, i know that Helen would have forgiven him. Making trouble is hard, but it’s even harder to forgive for the trouble and Helen knows that. She’s a fighter that has her heart filled with this glorious feelings, so she would choose the harder bit. She wouldn’t forgive him right away. She would spend sleepless nights thinking about weather his worth it or not.

    But if u want my opinion, then here we go- im a person who is desperate to find love,and stay in love for my whole life. In every boy i find nice, friendly and….hot, i start looking for any sparkle of affection towards me. So, if he firsts dumpS me and then comes back, on his knees, begging like a dog, the i would certainly forgive him. Not straight away thought. He would need to pay for his sins. He would need to take me out for dinners, buy me presents and show me that he truly loves me.

    However, if it was Ian Somerhalder, that dumped me, then come back i would definetely forgive him. Straight AWAY!!!!! His eyes are so sssseeexxxyyyy!!!! O.O

  429. Maddy W. says:

    PSSSHHH. NO!! If the guy your with is to stupid to realize what he has before he does something unforgivable, then he didnt deserve to be with you in the first place let alone have a second chance!!!

  430. Megan Schmidt says:

    I believe that everyone can make mistakes and if a guy really is sorry then of course he deserves a second chance! The only issue is that not everyone is honest about if they really are sorry or not. I guess I am just a forgiveable person. :)

  431. This is such a hard choice. It depends on the situation…if it was something really serious I don’t think I’d be able to forgive a guy that easily.
    Thanks a lot for the giveaway!

  432. I would not give him a second chance. But, I’ve never been in that situation, so knowing myself I probably would.

  433. In theory yes. Everyone will make a mistake so we should let them have the chance to make it better. But really, practically, no. Going for someone else just says to me that he is not trustworthy

  434. Phallene Tek says:

    Hmmm….depends on the situation. Thanks for the giveaway.

  435. Courtney Scaife says:

    I’m not sure I could.
    He chose someone else over you.
    You weren’t good enough for him at the present time, yet on his terms, he’s decided he wants you back.
    Nobody deserves to be a second choice, and what’s to say that he won’t leave you again when faced with a better offer?
    No, I’d put my foot down, take control of the situation, and show him what it feels like to be ditched.

  436. It really depends. I probaly would give a second change if I am really still into them, but typically it depends on the situation. ;))

  437. I would never ever in a million years get back with the guy…. and if i did i would just do it to break up with him … ha ha ha even if it was lucas delos no matter how in love with him i am ;)

  438. Curb worthy. All girls deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.

    Thanks for the giveaway!

  439. Stephanie Helen Aphrodite says:

    I don’t know if I would forgive him. It depends on how much I like this guy.. But still. I would be wondering if he would do it again. Oh, and I would have to know why he dumped me in the first place.
    But, every one deserves a second chance, right? Though, one does not simply dump me and expect me to just take ‘em back! Though if he’s really sorry ’bout it, like begging-on-his-knees-sorry, I’ll consider it. He would still have to pay for it, though. Yeah, I’m evil like that. And I wouldn’t take him back just like that *snaps fingers* I would probably expand his pain and think it over for a while – not just so he’ll suffer, but so i know I’m making the right choice. xP [why, yes, I am a Libra^^]
    But, I would probably have to really like this guy.. Like really like, like, LIKE him. I’m not someone’s second choice. Simple as that – ’nuff said.

  440. No.. I would not give him a second chance if he broke my trust… And thank you for this amazing giveaway
    Josephine……

  441. If the guy cheated on you to be with someone else why give him a second chance and drown yourself on a bad relationship were you might not see that spark of love anymore.you’re might as well better off without him and find someone else that will appreciate you and want you for who you are.

  442. Arni Dyan Daroy says:

    I believe in giving a second chance actually, no matter how bad the mistake as long as he sincerely shows remorse and repentance over it. I mean people change, and hopefully for the better. BUT the big rule of thumb for me in giving people second chances, is that if they mess up and make a mistake again, whether it be the same mistake or another mistake just as bad, it’s over. the second time they repeat a mistake or make one just as bad, it’s over.

  443. Maybeeee? I dont know, because it will also matter on what the guy did to me and if i really think he deserves a second chance.

  444. I agree it totally depends on the situation

  445. Samantha Noblit says:

    If I guy deserves a second chance I think it depends on what he’s done.

  446. Lovisa Hansson says:

    It depends on what he has done. If he has been cheating on you, he doesn’t deserve an other chance, if he did some minor fault, he should have an other chance.

  447. Jasmin Santiago says:

    I’m not sure if I could give a second chance because really, come one, dumping me so he could date another (well, at least he did not cheat), it will hurt, a lot. But then, it also depends upon the situation and the personality of the guy and if he is worth the second chance then why not; but that would be it, no more third or fourth chances. :D

  448. Jennifer says:

    While this is all circumstantial: I’d kick him to the curb. While yes, there may be the argument that when he was with the other girl, he realised your worth, and your relationship is all the better for it now, he should have realised your value in the first place! You’re his second choice, and no one should settle for a person who is always thinking that there may be someone better for them. That someone is better than you. No one should have to settle for THAT.

    Besides if you too him back, how much of your time will you spend worrying whether or not he will leave you (again)? A girl has to have some self-dignity and respect, to value themselves (and find someone who thinks they are the queen of the world and that no one could possibly be better suited for them :D).

  449. I do believe in giving a guy a second chance, but I think that the guy has to earn it. A guy has to know that he can’t be a jerk and not learn from it.

  450. I wouldnt give him a second chance. I know it might be cruel and we should give second chances since we are not perfect and make mistakes too. But the fact is: he dumped me for another girl, which means he didnt feel complete with me or didnt think I was the girl of his life. As I believe everything comes to us to teach a better way to live our lives, although,of course, I would really suffer with that because I am way jealousy, all this that happened would teach me something good and I would be happy again without him. So at the time he wants to get back to me, I wouldnt get back to him because I would have made some decisions that dont include him on my life as my boyfriend. As I said, everything we live leads us to better situations so when I say NO! to him, it will make him change some ideas on his mind and he will have to learn how to deal with it. At the end, everyone become a better person. Who knows… maybe we can get back together after some years?

  451. Would I give a guy a second chance?? No,i wouldnt.
    Any normal,heartbroken girl whom feels deeply betrayed by the guy wouldnt.I definitely wouldnt give him the slightest shot….But,knowing how I usually behave and how most girls are…here are the top 10 things I would do to show him the hard way of me giving him a second chance:
    1 – Ignore him and tell him to go away in front of my friends.Swat him off as if he were a fly.
    2- Show up in front of a bunch of guys and do an unpredictably cool thing
    3- When he calls,tell him I have other plans to go to…
    4- Tell him my dog/cat is more important than anything else in the world.If someone hurts it,I will kill them..
    5-Walk away when he asks for a ride
    6- Reject his requests by pretending not to hear him — that’s right,learn the ART OF SILENCE
    7- pretend his a hunter,and his hunting you [ think vampires hunting normal girls,not Twilight ]
    8- Beat him at a sport and show up in front of him in a dazzling gown
    9- Eat the food he ates and smile at him
    10- Call him,cry to him,then hang up.

    If he can stand all that,TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM.
    He should be able to handle all your tantrums if he is really worth your shot.

    That’s it!

  452. I’ve been burned a lot by giving guys a second chance; but i hate to say I’d never do it again, so depending on the circumstance I might, but it’s definitely a long shot.

  453. I believe in second chance. Everyone makes mistakes in their life, even if it’s the biggest. So I think maybe I’d give him a second chance, but not without some protesting and arguments. I mean, if you were in his place, you’d desperately want a second chance too. A chance for you to try to change things and then maybe see how things would go in the future. But then I also understand that you’d have a hard time trusting them again.

    Anyways, Josie. Thanks for the giveaway. I can’t wait for “Dreamless”! ;D x

  454. I think everyone deserves a second chance. I think in the case of a lover situation if you love him to deny him would be to deny yourself. It may take work to figure out what was lacking to begin with. However, I believe that love can make it through anything even if it’s not easy.
    In a character I would like to see her happy without him. Not sitting at home crying, but going on so that he does not define her.

  455. yeah i think i would give him a second chance, but i would be really guarded and would want to take things slowly like they were when we first started dating.

  456. I do believe in second chances, unless the person i’m willing to give another chance to screws it up. If the person is worth it, if i didn’t want to lose that person, i would give them a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance.

  457. Kimberly Kosydor says:

    I would not give him a second chance because if he really loved you he wouldn’t have broken up with you in the first place, so why would you get back together with a guy who you’d end up worrying would do something terrible again? I wouldn’t be able to trust him.

  458. Leah Dewet says:

    I wouldn’t give him a second chance. Being dumped because he thinks someone else is hotter would seriously piss me off. I might not even be sad about it, just angry, unless I really and truly loved him. He doesn’t deserve being with me if he is easily blinded by looks only and not something deeper.

  459. I don’t but I do do it :/

  460. I think i could give him a second chance if i feel like he really regrets his decision. It might take me a while to trust him again.

  461. Second Chances I believe in, everyone has a bad day/slip up. If a guy screwed up really bad, I guess it would depend on how I truly felt about him. That would mean I’d follow my heart, ha determine if he is truly worthy of being in my life again.

  462. Audra Holtwick says:

    NO

  463. i would always give a second chance. maybe not a third, but def., a second.

  464. Well… If I loved him.. I think I’d have to. :L
    But, if i had gotten over him already, then no! (I’d be moving on with my life)

  465. Honestly, it would depend on how much I liked this guy. If it was kind of a new relationship and I “liked” him, but hadn’t really developed any deep feelings for him. I probably would ignore him and slash or say “Why should I go back out with you?”
    But if we had been going out for a long time and I really liked-borderline-loved him, then I may give him a second chance. But I would read him the riot act first, with the general If-you-liked-me-why-did-you-date-her speech and all the bells and whistles. Then I would see what he said. If his answer was acceptable and heartfelt, then yes, I would give him a second chance. If he was all “Whatever” and was being casual about it, then probably not.
    I like to be fair, but with matters of the heart, I’m not really sure what IS fair.
    ~Emmy Lou

  466. That’s a hard question. I do believe in second chances if what they did was not super horrible. Abuse or cheating are a big no, but I think that most things are forgivable if you know they are sincere.

  467. A second chance? I depends on how much he means to me and if the relationship is serious. If so then yes, if it really wasnt then noooooo!

  468. It’s a tricky one . . . but given the situation he’d really have to prove himself worthy. So, no I wouldn’t give him a second chance unless he proved to me that he genuinely loves me. xx

  469. I can’t wait to read this!

  470. Oh wow, I really don’t know. I suppose it would depend on what he’d done, how he handled the situation and such. If he was rude and disrespectful to me with regards to whatever he did, then not likely.

  471. It really depends on the guy…but probably not. Trust is an important thing and once it’s gone it’s really hard to build it back up. Chances are the incident would make me feel differently about the guy, so even if he was truly sorry the most we could probably be is friends.

    But, there are always exceptions!

  472. As for 2nd chances… sure I believe everyone deserves a second chance. Now a 3rd I don’t know about~

  473. May Abraham says:

    It depends on what he did. If he did something horribly wrong, then probably not. But it would mostly depend on the extremity of the situation and how much I really cared for him.

  474. I would give a second chance. I read somewhere that if a man asks for one, you should give it to them because they’re usually sincere. And we can never forget we are all human and everyone makes mistakes.

    So yes, if they seem incredibly and 100% sincere, i would give them ONE more chance.

    Add me on goodreads!! :)

  475. Chandra H says:

    I would have to say If he broke up with me to go out with someone else, and then came crawling back. No, I could not give him a second chance, because of the risk he would just do it again.

  476. I would definitely depend on how much the guy meant to me, how much I liked/loved him. But I stand by once a cheater always a cheater, and if a guy cheated on me I would never be able to forgive him.

  477. I really want to win! Second chance… maybe, depend of circumstances and the person involved.

  478. I always believe in seconds chances, in love or otherwise. But no more than that.

  479. Brandy H says:

    Depends on the situation and the guy. Anyone can screw up – that being said if it was something like cheating, I would have a really hard time getting past it. Once my trust is gone, its gone.

  480. NOPE. There are too many fish in the sea to be going back to the bad ones. Small mistakes, yes. Even large UNINTENTIONAL mistakes. But intentional hurt? no. Moronic stupidity? no. His attitude would have a lot to do with it. But there are lines (cheating, abuse, drugs) that shouldn’t be crossed. Even if he was “sorry” after one of those, I’d lock him out. Those are character issues — time doesn’t change them.

  481. Personally, though i do believe we all make mistakes and shouldnt judge other decisons without asking ourselves if we would have or ever have done anything similar, it definitely depends on the situation. How badly was i hurt? Do i still feel the same way about what happened and the person? And also about how genuinely sorry the guy is. Just my thoughts :)

  482. Nope, personally, if he fucked up once he’ll do it again! Heck, I don’t care how good lookin’ he is xD Once a cheater, always a cheater!

    Great competition, hopefully writing the new series is going well?

  483. Danielle Warhurst says:

    Well, it kinda depends on the situation and the guy, but no, I don’t really. I gave a guy a second chance once and he just repeated himself..

  484. It depends on the citation but usually ONLY 2nd chance. 3rd or 4th is a no way :)

  485. Raychelle says:

    I would say it definitely depends on the circumstances and the status of the relationship. If we had Only been together for a couple weeks or maybe even a month or two then I would give him a second chance. However, if we had been together for a couple years then no second chance. I wouldn’t want someone who was so dissatisfied after a couple years that he had to see what it is like to be with someone else. That toe of scenario just means he is likely to do it again later because he is restless, unhappy, etc. Hope that helps and thanks for the giveaway! =)

  486. For me, it depends on what the situation is — but I like to think that all guys deserve a second chance, as long as their hearts are in the right places and they love you enough to admit what they did wrong! <3 ;)

  487. Kristen S says:

    ummm I’m not sure…. I think it would definitely depend on the circumstances surrounding his actions!

  488. Depends on the situation… Like if my boyfriend did some minor thing I would easily forgive him. Also if it was unintentional I probably would, after a bit of a strop lol. And with the more serious things like if he cheated on me and it was only the once I would probably forgive him if he tried to make it up to me and I’ve stropped it out :L Because even though it would break my heart if he did cheat, it would shatter my heart if we split up. But if it was more than once then NOOOOOOOO way!! Thats just moronic intending to hurt crappy behaviour.

  489. A second chance? I’m not sure I would. I like to think people grow from there mistakes, but if a guy dumped me to go out with someone else and then realizes it was mistake, then I would have to say no. How would I know he wouldn’t do it again? I don’t want that emotional rollercoaster of an off and on relationship that it would surely bring. Maybe in the future when we have grown up, then we’ll see. But its best to leave it alone and move on from it. And if you and that guy who dumped you are “soulmates” then you can wait to you both grow up some more.

  490. Unfortunately, I have to say…I’ve been known to give 3rd and 4th chances. LOL. I believe everybody deserves a second chance. Sometimes things happen that shouldn’t and the person truly wants to change…in that case I’m all about second chances. The only thing I can say I would never give a second chance on is any physical type of abuse. That’s a big no-no.

  491. So… sure i believe in second chances.. BUT if he cheated or something there’s no way of re-dating!!

    Greetings from Germany :)

  492. I think thati wouldn’t forgive him right away, but that if we were really meant to be together that we could and would sort it out together :)

  493. Tasnim S says:

    No because if that was the right guy for you, he would never had messed it up in the flirst place. Especially cheaters. You should never give a cheater a second chance! But then that’s just my opinion :)

  494. sorry, *that i :P

  495. rachael m says:

    It depends on how much i feel for them and how much they want me back (are they truly sorry etc) but i would give a guy a second chance. (Thought i do like what jen wrote)

  496. Me identifique mucho con la pregunta, me paso lo mismo. Realmente no aceptaria de nuevo, por que aveces mucha gente no cambia y te vuelve a herir. Te vuelve a lastimar de la misma manera, o peor. Si creo en las segundas oportunidades, pero, cuando una persona de lastima de esa manera tus sentimientos hacia la persona se nulan y desaparecen por un largo tiempo.

  497. That’s a good question…but really, it depends on what he did.

  498. Maddison Nicole Page says:

    I would but he would have to make up for it big time like treating me as number 1! But if he weren’t sorry well and acted like it was my fault well then he would have a high five on the face!

  499. For me, it would have to do a lot with our history together. Did he make me happy? Is a second chance something he deserves?

    So, the happy times, the good memories are stronger than the mess up things, then yes.

    But if he hurt me more than he made me happy, then It probably isn’t a relationship I should want back.

    Maybe it was a good relationship, maybe it as mind blowing, but feelings change, I am no one’s second best.

  500. Depends on why he would need a second chance and also how strong my feeling are for him. I’d also have to be genuinely willing to move on and not bring “whatever” up all the time, otherwise it has no chance of working.

  501. I normally wouldn’t give him a second chance, but if it’s true love and he is sincerely sorry, how can you not :)

  502. Well if he did something like cheat then come back to me, definitely not. If he liked me in the first place he wouldn’t have cheated. I would probably call him a jerk and claim to never want to see him again. I would not take him.

  503. Donna Bradshaw says:

    yes, I believe everyone deserves a second chance.

  504. It is easy to say NO straight away when asked with this question given that the guy is a big jerk. But as we all know, if we still love a person, everything gets crazy. As they say… “Love is like an hourglass, with the heart filling up as the brain empties.”, So I would that I’ll give a second chance. But he needs to work hard to prove to me that it’s ok for me to entrust my heart again to him. Yes, cheesy as it may sound but I need to know if it’s worth it.

  505. Paige Schwartz says:

    Second chances are important to me, and of course I would be wiling to give a guy a second chance…BUT he would have to prove his sincerity depending on the severity. If he was to do something such as cheating, or something equal to or worse; then I would have to draw a line. But even then people can change if they really want to, and not giving them a chance is like burning a bridge, and we all know once you burn it, you can’t really change your mind.

  506. Joanna W. says:

    I do believe in second chances. People mess up all the time. So yes, I would grant him a second chance, but only if I felt his intentions to be true. However if I should get fooled again, then that’s it. You only get two chances with me. =)

  507. Lillian Page says:

    If he had dumped me for another girl, I would not take him back. That’s a line guys just can’t cross. He crossed it, so he’s gone for good.

  508. Second chance? Depends on how badly he hurt me, if I already heal and if he is truly committed to earn a second chance XD

    But Im such a forgivable person that is very possible that I would give him a second chance.
    Z

  509. It all depends on the situation, but one more chance couldn’t hurt i mean you can be each others soul mate, and if not you know for sure. why waste a good opportunity to be with someone who you used to be great with. Although if they were’nt good with to start with and they had a ton of problems like one thng after another than no i say cut your losses and find someone who can treat you great. and if he did treat you like a princess than go for it.

  510. Gabriella says:

    No, I wouldn’t even think about it. Obviously I would be deluding myself and wasting my time. If a guy could hurt you so much in the first place, yet do it fully aware of the damage he is causing then what is going to stop him from doing it again. there is always going to be someone better looking or smarter or whatever, but you have to trust in each other that what you have to offer in the relationship would be an indescribable gift that would be found no where else, and obviously he didn’t feel that way then, so no point banking on it for the next time. You shouldn’t have to worry every few seconds if he’s going to run off again with someone else, as though you’re not good enough, instead you should be certain that you are his world as he is yours. The second chance would only introduce scepticism, untrustworthy and deceitfulness into the already complicated equation. Through the whole relationship you’d be looking over your shoulder and watching him, when really you should be spending time together because it’s as easy as breathing. It kinda defeats the whole purpose of a relationship, it just becomes a game of cheaters in the end.
    Interesting question though, makes me really wonder what type of story your writing. I’m really excited for dreamless to come out, I keep reading over the two chapters already posted, it’s been torcher waiting for it!! I can’t wait, you’re an amazing author!!! :D

  511. Lisa Case says:

    For me yes that would hurt. I’m not sure I would drop everything and take him back. But maybe give him a chance to prove to me that he was wrong. That this isn’t a drop of the hat type thing just because they got into a fight and wants me to be a rebound. Yes I’ll give him a chance but he is going to have to work to get me back in his good graces.

  512. michelle says:

    Most of the time. :)

  513. Totally depends on what happens and why he’s in the position of needing a second chance!

  514. Tabitha Williams says:

    It really depends on the situation. Some things are unforgivable.
    Cheating, for one, isn’t something I could ever forgive. But as long as it is isn’t a life altering screw up, then yes, I believe in second chances.

  515. I think it depends on the situation and the type of person he is. If I thought there was a chance that he would do it again then no. If this was a one off type of thing and he worked really hard to make it up to me then I probably would give him a second chance.

  516. Kristen Flood says:

    Well, I guess it would depend on the situation. Like if he cheated on me, with another girl (maybe one of my friends) I might give him a second chance if it was true love. He would have to work at getting me back and if he doesn’t he doesn’t really love me and I would not give him a second chance.

  517. Ok..now..I can only answer one way. YES! Why? Because I am married to the guy who dumped me…just quietly she wasn’t hotter ( no ego intended)
    Situation was, we were young, together few years, but the break was good, in our case, we learnt and found each other again and we haven’t looked back. It doesn’t work for everybody, but that something has to be there to start with. It was only a short break of a couple months, but it showed each of us.
    I would rather it hadn’t happened, but it did, it was awful at the time, but the water is under the bridge and he wishes it never happened, it did, but I think it built something stronger.

    I ahhh won’t say how many years later it is but I do have a 15year old and two other munchkins.

    MIchelle

  518. Marie Flood says:

    I might give him a second chance if it was true love and we couldn’t live without each other. I mean guys make mistakes and might not know what they are feeling and are scared and screw up. We would ave to be each other worlds, to forgive him but it might be hard. I mean having your true love cheat on you or something is really hard and you might never forgive him but in the end you know in your heart you can’t live without him and he can’t live without you. He also would have to say something really meaningful to me, to know that he really cares for me and it was just a mistake and he only wants me, only me, forever.

  519. It depends on what caused the break-up.

  520. Amber Graff says:

    It depends on what the guy has done or what has happened to lead to the situation of the second chance. Thanks for the giveaway!

  521. I think it depends on how badly he hurt you the first time and how much he has done to get back into your good graces.
    If it he did what you mentioned above I would have to say no he doesn’t deserve a second chance. He would just do it again.

  522. It would depend on what he did to need a second chance. There are some things I can forgive and others that are too hard to get past.

  523. Yes, I do believe in giving a guy a second chance, for the reason that everyone makes mistakes and it is a great approach to extend a chance to make things right together.

  524. hmm give a guy a second chance”……..whatever he did(cheat) he would have to earn back my trust and honestly if we really love each other he would have to do a hell lot of chores to do for me and would explain what he did and why “..so I’d give him a second chance but he will have to extremly honest and truthful to me and nonono 3 chance

  525. Well, I think that it depends on certain things. If you’ve moved on and he’s just using you as a rebound or until he gets ‘back into the game.’ If he truly wants you back and he knows that your still hurt, and are a little broken, but is willing to wait and work around all of that then I think that he deserves a second chance.

  526. Thanks for the great giveaway!! Hmm, well, as for the second chance question, I think it really depends on what he’s getting a second chance for. If he cheated or abused you, no, because to me that’s just an ultimate betrayal. If he makes a mistake, sure, because we all do and everyone deserves to make up for their mistakes!! =)

  527. I would say yes because we are all human and we all make mistakes that what we do! And at least the guy was smart enough to realize that the other girl wasn’t worth the relationship he wasted so I say yes i would give him a second chance because I know that if I were to make a stupid mistake i would want to be forgiven! <3

  528. Erin Visco says:

    I’d say no because what’s he doing is making sure that he gets a girlfriend no matter what. But, actually, it depends if the girl really thinks that the guy really deserves a second chance. :)

  529. I think I may forgive a guy once, if I really have deep feelings. But he would have to prove he is sorry & take the time to earn my trust back. And he would have to know there are no 3rd chances no matter what.

  530. It was depend on how I really felt about him and what he did.

  531. Shamika Brooks says:

    I do believe in giving a guy a second chance because I believe people can change. But I also feel that when giving second chances you must believe the person is sincere, the person must prove they are sincere and you have to decide if you can trust them again and forgive them. Because if not, you’re just going to hold it over their head for the rest of the relationship and that just isn’t fair for the both of you. It would only cause resentment and unhappiness in the end. Communication is key in these types of situations.

    Thanks again Josie for this opportunity!

  532. Do I believe in giving a guy a second chance, I guess it depends on what he did!! :) thanks a million a million time over for this love Iam super excited!!!;)))

    bella

  533. Fatima B. says:

    I wouldn’t take him back if that happened to me. I mean, he left me to date a hotter chick and then finally figures out she’s an airhead and comes back to me? NO. I won’t be used. I’m not on stand-by while he goes and fools around.

  534. for me it depends how long you we were togetherif it was a long time and we were in love i would take him back but maby make him grovel abit but if we were only together for a short amount of time then no i dont think i could take him back (maby if he was hot)

  535. I would give him a second chance if he could prove to me how much he has changed and how much he loves me. Though, it really does depend on how well he treated me in the first place!

    Thanks for this awesome giveaway! :)

  536. Dipali Dhiru says:

    A second Chance definitely.
    We should all remember that everybody makes mistakes, and its better that he realized his mistake sooner than never. I think everybody deserves a chance to change and show what they truly can be, but only if i can trust him, and i know that his feelings are sincere and genuine.

  537. Esmeralda says:

    It depends on what he’s done, whether I love him and whether I think he actually is sorry. And the reasons he gives for doing the thing he did.
    Although, knowing me, I’d probably forgive him anyway!

  538. No way man! He would have to do something pretty insane to gain my trust back.

  539. It depends on what has happened. If they did something really horrible, than no, I don’t think they should get another chance. But if whatever they did was small or/and redeemable, than yes, I think they could have a second chance. :)

  540. Well, I think that it depends on certain things. If you’ve moved on and he’s just using you as a rebound or until he gets ‘back into the game.’ If he truly wants you back and he knows that your still hurt, and are a little broken, but is willing to wait and work around all of that then I think that he deserves a second chance.

  541. Everyone makes mistakes, but I don’t think I’d give that guy a second chance. If he’d made the decision that I’m not enough for him, then that’s a choice he’s made. And it’d be unlikely to change just because the first girl he tried to date after breaking up turned out to be an idiot. So I’d respect his choice, and tell him to respect mine: that I refuse to be second, or a fallback girl, or a consolation prize. I want to be someone’s first choice, to seem more than good enough in their eyes and to be able to make him happy without having to jump through all kinds of hoops to do it.

    If you love something let it go… and that’s what I’d do. There’s plenty of fish in the sea, and one of them is bound to be more than capable of making me happy.

  542. I think it depends on the situation…but if a guy cheated on me i probably would not give him a second chance

  543. Kiley Jahn says:

    I think it depends on the situation, and what it was that he did. I tend to believe the best in people, so I’m more likely to give a second chance. However, I have been hurt before, so I guess it would depend on how much he hurt me with whatever it was that he did. But I know that if what you share with the guy is meant to be, then everything will work out the way that it’s meant to.

  544. Hmmm, this is a difficult question. I think it depends on the situation, honestly. You understand a guy more by the way he is not just with you but with others as well, and if his first instinct was to dump you to date another girl I think that shows his true character and therefore should not be given a second chance. He hurt you without thinking about the consequences, and even if he tries again I think his first acction rules out the rest. However, if the guy did something really sweet and adorable like writing a song for you asking to forgive him I think I woul give him a second shot since he took the time to put everything together and humbled himself by saying he was wrong, which I think is worthy of chance number two.

    Thanks for the giveaway!

  545. you know what I think that no matter how much the person you hurt everyone deserves another chance, I know that maybe it’s strange but sometimes forgiving is the best punishment for someone who has treated us so badly and unfairly and even despised and rejected us.
    may think differently from everyone but I am convinced that life is too short to care about anything other than push forward and be happy even when life we planted at the feet of logs.
    as someone wise said:
    “Where necessary, be crude, but they never offend. Severity could be forgiven for never offend. Bl. Arnold Janssen”
    However, you can also say that “Happiness is our mother, misfortune – an educator. – Montesquieu”
    it can be said that every injury and recoil in spite of everything is some kind of science that gives us life and for the time, knowledge and drive for this would, however, prove that the time for the world to one person does not stop, anyway.
    we must remember that the most difficult is to live and be able to forgive but to forgive does not mean forget, but I’m hind that everyone deserves happiness and forgiveness no matter what he did always have to show that he is a hard and fight for the dignity and happiness for yourself, and keep pushing forward with my head ….. I knew I was not normal:-P, and I would forgive …. with time

  546. Katelyn Long says:

    It depends on the situation and the reasons hes coming back for a second chance but usually I would say yes they do deserve a second chance.

  547. If I gave him a second chance it would really depend on the situation… The situation you described would probably be a no but like I said above, it depends on the situation.

  548. I don’t think I could give him a second chance

  549. In order to give him a second chance, he would have to have a legitimate reason and be sincerely sorry. but he probably wouldn’t deserve another shot if he just left for a girl.

  550. Crystal Esparza says:

    Yea it may be hard but sometimes but, they may be different the next time soo yahxD

  551. I believe in giving everyone a second chance. But the whole point of second chances is that the person realizes they messed up and want to fix things. How much they commit to their goal of trying to change defines them. They either prove themselves worthy of the second chance, or blow it, making the possibilites for a third or four chance slim. With a guy, second chances are so hard to give because you are not only trusting a person who might betray you, but you are putting your heart on the line also. If that chord snaps, it hurts. A lot. Unfortunately, this requires one to be a good judge of character, and lack of self-confidence only serves to further doubt, and the likelihood of a second chance. Doesn’t mean it’s not deserved though.

  552. If a boy did that to me I would not take him back because then I would know he’s not my prince charming.And I know some where out there God has my real prince charming waiting and I would forgive the boy because God told us we must always forgive people but i won’t take him back.So I know my other side is some where out there!.

  553. I would talk to the meaningful other, wait a bit to give them a chance to tell my friend and then if not, I would tell my friend

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